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Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 10:21:11 AM   
ArmoredRose


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Status: offline 		I have been on here for a while. I get very few return emails. I have received even less emails from slaves interested in joining us. Please help me help myself by telling me what is wrong with my profile.

Korupt
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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 10:47:53 AM   
Greatlilbabygirl


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Status: offline 		I think there is nothing wrong, it's just you fufill a very specific niche and most people can't devote 24/7 with no breaks.

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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 10:54:37 AM   
freedomdwarf1


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Status: offline 		My first impression is: wall of text.
Most people won't bother to read a wall of text.

Secondly, not many people want a world of adventure and not on a boat.
A lot of people prefer to have their feet firmly on the ground somewhere, preferably somewhere permanent.

Thirdly, your profile is all about you two, what you want etc - a kinky wish list.



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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 11:00:05 AM   
Alecta


Posts: 1355
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Status: offline 		You're looking in the wrong places.
You would probably have better response through meetings in the events and communities you attend.

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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 11:02:32 AM   
smartsub10


Posts: 865
Joined: 4/23/2010
Status: offline 		My first impression is: wall of text.
Most people won't bother to read a wall of text.

This. I couldn't make it half way through.

You have a very specific need. It may take a while to find someone who can just up and leave job, family, friends to go sailing.

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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 11:06:17 AM   
ArmoredRose


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Status: offline 		Thank you all. We are also looking in and around Seattle. The word is out with friends and family. Thank you for your kind words and constructive criticism.

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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 11:06:36 AM   
OsideGirl


Posts: 14441
Joined: 7/1/2005
From: United States
Status: offline 		Well. let's start with the fact that you're Unicorn hunting. You're looking at one of the smallest and most sought after demographics in the community. It's extremely rare to find a bisexual female that wants to join an existing couple. Then add in all of the usual intricacies of finding a D/s BDSM partner.

The reality is that you will probably go a long time without finding one and you may never find one.

As far as your profile: It's way too long, it's a wall of text making it uncomfortable to read, contains information that isn't pertinent at the outset. I couldn't even get through it.

I'm also going to say - telling a Unicorn that it's an honor to serve you is kind of silly in this situation. A Unicorn has a lot of people trying to get her attention. Because it's a sellers market, she's the one that gets to pick the best offer. Focus on trying to be the best offer, rather then telling her that she needs to prove herself worthy.

There's a lot of negativity in the profile including a threat to blacklist them in the community.

And lastly, you expect someone to support themselves and also work in the home to prove themselves to you.

So, yeah....as a Unicorn - I would pass you by.


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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 11:07:22 AM   
peppermint


Posts: 5169
Joined: 10/18/2005
From: Montana
Status: offline 		Not many willing to join an established couple. Everyone wants to be the first, the alpha. Hardly anyone wants to be the second one, the one who will get kicked out first if things don't work out. Bisexual females who are willing to join an established couple are called unicorns. Unicorns are not impossible to find. It's just that there are 100+ couples looking for each unicorn.

You attend events. That is your best chance of finding someone who fits your needs. You get to wow those unicorns and male slaves with your personalities. As you have not wowed anyone in person, I will tell you it's even more difficult to wow someone online. Maybe what your offering is not really attractive to those you are targeting. According to your profile submissive would need to work to support themselves. That would be hard with your travel plans. Perhaps slaves would prefer to work so that they build up a retirement for their old age. You really need to talk to the submissive and slaves you do have communication with to find out what they are not finding attractive about your offer.

Nothing really wrong with your profile here except that it's way too long. I skipped to the end after reading a bit of it to avoid the boring stuff. Sorry, just the way I see it. Most of what you say in that profile should be left to discuss in face to face meetings.

This should have gone in a different forum. This is not an introduction. Just saying.



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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 11:46:17 AM   
ArmoredRose


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Status: offline 		What forum? I didn't find one that said it would help with profile writing or editing.

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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 11:51:16 AM   
OsideGirl


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Joined: 7/1/2005
From: United States
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ArmoredRose

What forum? I didn't find one that said it would help with profile writing or editing.

It would have been more appropriate in the Polyamorous Forum.

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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 2:59:40 PM   
LilJuly76


Posts: 1245
Joined: 1/9/2016
Status: offline 		wall of text turned me off immediately so I didn't look. What's this comment about blacklisting in the community? Not cool.

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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 3:13:08 PM   
OsideGirl


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From: United States
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quote:

If I am stabbed in the back I will make sure the truth comes out in the community. If I am wrong or mistaken I will make sure the community knows by apologizing to one and all.


There's just a lot wrong with that: Airing dirty laundry, subjectiveness and there is no way that an apology is going to take back spreading it into the community, the damage will be done and irreversible.

So, yeah, threatening someone before you've even spoken to them.

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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 3:28:36 PM   
LilJuly76


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Joined: 1/9/2016
Status: offline 		yeah that's not right, sure fired way she won't get a unicorn or anyone for that manner. Thanks for pointing that one out OsideGirl

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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 4:43:07 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LilJuly76

yeah that's not right, sure fired way she won't get a unicorn or anyone for that manner. Thanks for pointing that one out OsideGirl


Getting past the fantasy names as identities and all that - there are enough items in the profile that I consider red flags in the profile that I would pass. But, the black listing thing is a huge red flag.

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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 5:34:48 PM   
peppermint


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From: Montana
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quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

quote:

If I am stabbed in the back I will make sure the truth comes out in the community. If I am wrong or mistaken I will make sure the community knows by apologizing to one and all.


There's just a lot wrong with that: Airing dirty laundry, subjectiveness and there is no way that an apology is going to take back spreading it into the community, the damage will be done and irreversible.

So, yeah, threatening someone before you've even spoken to them.


I missed that on the first read. Probably due to the length and rather boring text. Yeah, I'd avoid anyone who threatened to rub my name into the dirt in the local kink community. I still have a couple contacts in the WA/OR area. Will be asking around to see what this couple's reputation is. There could be a reason they have turned to online to find some partners.

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We are stardust, we are golden, and we got to get ourselves back to the garden.

Yes, I am crazy about feathered creatures. I have a dozen chickens, 3 ducks, 5 geese, and 2 parakeets.

Revise that number. Just got 14 new chicks and 5 turkeys.

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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 6:09:58 PM   
AtUrCervix


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Joined: 1/15/2016
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ArmoredRose

I have been on here for a while. I get very few return emails. I have received even less emails from slaves interested in joining us. Please help me help myself by telling me what is wrong with my profile.

Korupt


I think it's fine....but for the fact that 65 % (or more) of your profile was written by a man.

It's still fine.

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RE: Hello and plea for help - 9/20/2016 7:34:20 PM   
Greatlilbabygirl


Posts: 786
Joined: 9/9/2016
Status: offline 		Omg, your username is hilarious :,)

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RE: Hello and plea for help - 10/13/2016 2:20:32 AM   
ocl751


Posts: 37
Joined: 9/5/2016
From: Toowoomba queensland
Status: offline 		is a bit like dream on white girl sit down re write
aims /objectives what you offer your slave do not expect
they pay for everything pay pig / tributes tribute for what?
be realistic as you write a lot of mumbo jumbo

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