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ohthat1percent -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 11:42:27 AM)



Sorry I hit send withouot realizing it before I could finish:

To me, longevity is awesome and astounding.

To me, meaning and depth doen't necessarily equate to longevity and experience. If that makes sense.

to me, you can have a couple together for decades and not know each other because they simply go through the motions or are hiding their lack of relationship behind kids they have ---- and youo can have a couple that has has been together for a few years but they were years of instance quality. AND you can have a relationship like your mothers and then you can have a relationship tha's over in a year and lacking any quality whatsoever.


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ORIGINAL: ohthat1percent

Osidegirl,

For the people involved -- yes, it may be deeper etc than your Mothers, based on their own perception and people are allowed that.. The only way your Mothers relationship would be a comparison is if people were comparing.

What I am trying to say is -- its not a competition and shouldn't be.

Some people are very lucky to find that "soulmate" early in life, some people have to go through many relationships and ending before they do and each of those relationships have meaning to those people.

What lengthy relationships have is more experience at longevity -- does that really equate to deeper meaning or depth?.






OsideGirl -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 11:45:13 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ohthat1percent

Osidegirl,

For the people involved -- yes, it may be deeper etc than your Mothers, based on their own perception and people are allowed that.. The only way your Mothers relationship would be a comparison is if people were comparing.

What I am trying to say is -- its not a competition and shouldn't be.

Some people are very lucky to find that "soulmate" early in life, some people have to go through many relationships and ending before they do and each of those relationships have meaning to those people.

What lengthy relationships have is more experience at longevity -- does that really equate to deeper meaning or depth?.





My point was that a power dynamic relationship is not automatically deeper and more meaningful. (and I've seen so many people say that over the years) It's all dependent on the individuals and the relationship - not on the dynamic.



LadyPact -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 11:53:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ohthat1percent

Osidegirl,

For the people involved -- yes, it may be deeper etc than your Mothers, based on their own perception and people are allowed that.. The only way your Mothers relationship would be a comparison is if people were comparing.

What I am trying to say is -- its not a competition and shouldn't be.

Some people are very lucky to find that "soulmate" early in life, some people have to go through many relationships and ending before they do and each of those relationships have meaning to those people.

What lengthy relationships have is more experience at longevity -- does that really equate to deeper meaning or depth?.




Unfortunately, we disagree.

See, if you *couldn't* for whatever reason or *didn't* do that with the vanilla partner, I'm sorry (not sorry) but that's on you.

While it may not be a competition, a person *must* evaluate their relationships. If you believe "everything is equal," yeah, I'm not going for that.




WickedsDesire -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 12:51:34 PM)

ohthat1percent in the white box where you type there is an edit button - you get about one hour I think before it disapears - occasionally I post the wrong answer on the wrong forum - i usually leave them to stand for amusement purposes. Sometimes my pc is freezy and i accidentally hit post after two words :P

If the allotted time expires just add additional words we have all done it, changed out answers or refined them, or dided better answers

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all that aside let me think I was with someone 20-32 and we were married the last 4-6 of it. That has been my longest relationship, and it was far from my best it ranks the bottom half. What makes for a good relationship, a relationship of true value. why do almost none stand out and so on...My thoughts are if you beleive all your relationships have stood out. you have loved almost everyone - then the head s full of derangement and lacks even amodicum to understand what a relationship is (its why I dislike serial daters - anyone else i do not particularly mind - oh wait I hate predators or the emotional fractured who only encourage them and their destructive tendencies)



Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 12:57:45 PM)

WD, you make much more sense when I'm drunk.



WickedsDesire -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 3:04:13 PM)

I always make sense, so say the few. But there exists the many, most of no particular reality worrying not one iota, brimming with mad waffle and incoherent screetchings. But they are the many lost soul…why do you do that to yourself for there are people like me out here, not many these days for they are simple driven away never to return my the spurious many.

This is the last fetish site I am on and I see almost nothing, as I said elsewhere it is difficult for me to log on here.

As for you you do not understand your existence, rationale or purpose, for you entice that many, do you truly believe you would understand I – what are you getting hammered on?



ohthat1percent -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 3:42:56 PM)

Osidegirl. I definitely agree. I love hearing love based longevity relationships.



ohthat1percent -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 3:45:31 PM)

Wickeddesires thank you for the tip!!



ohthat1percent -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 3:49:50 PM)

Ladypact, nothing I have said is that all is equal. I guess you missed that it's not a competition. I feel sorry for those who would make it so because to me that would have them worrying more about everyone else's relationship to one up those than just making their relationship what they want it to be. What a relationship is- whether it's deep and meaningful or casual is based on the perception of the people involved- no one else. Why? Because outsiders have no clue about the inter workings of other people's relationship.




BitaTruble -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 4:58:06 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl

So my most intense and longest lasting PE relationship just ended yesterday, and while it hurts and I feel all sorts of betrayed and stupid, it's not more so than any of my vanilla ones. In fact one vanilla breakup in particular was so painful while I was in college that it sent me to the psychologist.

But this one has been different. Hard to explain, but unlike my vanilla breakups, this one has left me feeling empty, numb, almost like a part of my ability to feel sad or devastated is gone.

So in your experience how has a breakup of a serious PE relationship been different than a serious vanilla one, if at all?

Thanks :)

Break-ups aren't the only reason things end and one end left me indifferent and the other did not. One I can barely remember and one I can't forget..one that is simply nothing and the other is probably why I was sad reading through most of this thread because it was out of turn.

One I put nothing of myself into except what was required to escape and the other where nothing was held back though it took a while.

Both relationships lasted close to two decades..and the one that hurt more when it just stopped is the one which involved my all.



Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 5:14:57 PM)

I didn't mean to make anyone sad.
I'm sorry



WickedsDesire -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 5:25:41 PM)

The last person I presented with my tip it did not fit ( I never lie)…and I told you to leave them alone on here did I not? You have chosen not to do so is his correct?



littleclip -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 5:30:25 PM)

i felt the worst in my life when my PE ended it has been years i still feel the pain. vanilla relationships are different the depth of trust and connection are different so it can feel worse as the connection is different. i cried for 3 days lost weight thought of ending my life tried to play once right after and it made me sick. i can play now but i will always remember and always care for my former owner.
it hurts so do more of what your doing reach out and talk go to munches and get back in there find another partner



Greatlilbabygirl -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 5:36:22 PM)


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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

The last person I presented with my tip it did not fit ( I never lie)…and I told you to leave them alone on here did I not? You have chosen not to do so is his correct?

What??????



LadyPact -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 6:01:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ohthat1percent
Ladypact, nothing I have said is that all is equal. I guess you missed that it's not a competition. I feel sorry for those who would make it so because to me that would have them worrying more about everyone else's relationship to one up those than just making their relationship what they want it to be. What a relationship is- whether it's deep and meaningful or casual is based on the perception of the people involved- no one else. Why? Because outsiders have no clue about the inter workings of other people's relationship.

You are completely correct. Whatever you (or I) base that on, is individual.

What happens at the end of a relationship, has a lot of factors contributing to it. Heck, I feel BAD for you folks if you ever had to put up with me if MP and I ever got a divorce. Seriously, if the folks on this board thought I cried, moaned, and bitched about the end of my relationship with tk,you guys ain't seen nothin' yet. [;)]






WickedsDesire -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 6:27:50 PM)

the tip of my penis deranged half wit
One day a women will approach me on here with reality that day has not occurred in 12 years ( i exempt Albany)..yet oddly not one from scotland, not englanders

So 12 years I have been here does the fault lie with me and my kind or all the rest who numbers exceed 99%



DesFIP -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 6:34:14 PM)

My uncle and aunt were totally vanilla, and married over 45 years when he died. They were so attuned to each other that when he went into the hospital she was so distraught that she needed hospitalization also.

So no, a power relationship is not per se deeper or of greater emotional significance.

It is deeper than a vanilla relationship to someone who is wired for it. It is lesser for someone wired for a power equal relationship.

For someone wired to be dominant, not having the authority would make a relationship less fulfilling.



WickedsDesire -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 8:38:47 PM)

It would appear there is no one with a reality on here looking, other than I– I wager less than 0.00% a very low number of woe you disgust me all.
But I exempt ladypact & outside…None of the two asked that from me and none of those two are looking. If I see any of you/those two proclaiming the higher moral ground with nonsense things will a turn for the worse…both may feast on all who offer nothing at all conversely I ether the twin enable nothing of an existence I may enter with glory




ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 9:04:25 PM)

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things will a turn for the worse

Oh no, you mean you'll post off topic gibberish?



WickedsDesire -> RE: Is the end of a PE relationship really harder than a vanilla one? (10/2/2016 9:37:44 PM)

any genuine women on here single



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