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RE: sexual self control - 12/10/2004 1:56:35 PM

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I am owned, but He allows me to masturbate whenever i want. There are times when i like to test my self-control, fantacize that He is there and He makes me go to to the edge but not cum several times, then maybe allows me to come back later to finish. I know it's not even close to the same thing as chastity, but it does take some self-control.

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RE: sexual self control - 7/13/2005 3:37:18 AM

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i am going to once again sound like a smartass.

but seriously...

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RE: sexual self control - 7/18/2005 2:44:28 PM

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You're not owned. You don't need to control what you do yet.

Also, very few of us are perfect. Maybe a Domme would want to take you on with the intentions of knowing that you didn't like masturbating or the way it made you feel, and She would want to help you control that... ?

Just a thought....

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RE: sexual self control - 7/18/2005 7:00:41 PM

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once you're owned, it is your Mistress/Master's problem....til then....take your problem in hand!

However, perhaps when your owned, your problem will be licked!

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RE: sexual self control - 7/18/2005 8:38:17 PM

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It's a non issue with the unowned.

Are you trolling for attention?

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RE: sexual self control - 7/18/2005 8:46:58 PM

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I've been thinking about this post, and while I can't answer your question (as I have very little sexual self control), I suspect that the reason you are doing this is along the lines of why people do self-bondage. It fulfills some sort of need for you in the meantime.

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It's a non issue with the unowned.

Are you trolling for attention?

Its obviously not a non-issue to the OP or he wouldn't have posted. Why would you see this question as someone trolling for attention? Isn't it just barely possible that the OP is trying to fulfill something inside all by himself given his current unowned status?

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RE: sexual self control - 7/19/2005 8:07:36 AM

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Hello All,
Self-imposed celibacy is not a function of a slave. When you deny yourself under the instruction of someone you’ve submitted to, that’s a slave. It’s OK to not masturbate either way, but it’s not helping you be a better slave, it’s what you prefer to feel sexually. As you said you're motivation here is self control, not submission.

I agree with all here. If you deny yourself, you’re setting self-imposed limits. It may be something you want to do to make your orgasm more intense, but again it’s a self-servicing concept. You need to do something for your Dom/Domme to make it service to another as a slave.

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RE: sexual self control - 7/19/2005 9:32:20 AM

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quote:

If you deny yourself, you’re setting self-imposed limits. It may be something you want to do to make your orgasm more intense, but again it’s a self-servicing concept. You need to do something for your Dom/Domme to make it service to another as a slave.

If it fulfills a need, does it really matter?

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RE: sexual self control - 7/19/2005 10:27:01 AM

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Look,if he needs to fullfill a need,I'm sure he is quite capable of doing it on his own.

It doesn't take rocket science and an online poll to keep your hands off of your prick.

You decide to do it-or you don't.

I guess I just have difficulty in understanding asking anyone else to validate that sort of a decision-so I had to see it as seeking attention about how he must be a "good boy".

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RE: sexual self control - 7/19/2005 11:03:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Gemeni

Look,if he needs to fullfill a need,I'm sure he is quite capable of doing it on his own.

It doesn't take rocket science and an online poll to keep your hands off of your prick.

You decide to do it-or you don't.

I guess I just have difficulty in understanding asking anyone else to validate that sort of a decision-so I had to see it as seeking attention about how he must be a "good boy".

It's not uncommon for a single guy who is seeking a femdom to use self enforced chastity. Some even lock on a chastity device. They seem to enjoy telling femdoms that they meet how long they have been in chastity. Personally, when I find out they aren't doing it for anyone but themselves, it sort of eliminates any interest for me in enforcing chastity on the guy. It's much more fun to take something away. When a man is doing it to himself, it seems to put the act above the actual surrender to the woman; which does he want, anyway?

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RE: sexual self control - 7/19/2005 12:21:38 PM

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quote:

I guess I just have difficulty in understanding asking anyone else to validate that sort of a decision-so I had to see it as seeking attention about how he must be a "good boy".

Interesting perspective, but I guess I see it no differently than someone asking if all dominants like to be deep throated. Certainly it could be someone seeking attention...or it could be tossed out to see if others had similar interests, experiences, etc. and in order to provoke discussion on the topic.

This is not a slap at you, Gemeni (I very much enjoy reading your perspective on things), but it always puzzles me that the male submissives are so quickly accused of attention seeking behaviour while the female submissives generally get genuine and sincere answers.

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