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RE: Criminal or dominant? - 10/17/2016 5:54:44 PM

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The other part that the op has totally missed, is that being bent over and used even while not really up to it, can be something that the sub enjoys. She may well feel emotionally satisfied by him making it clear that he's in charge, even if she doesn't enjoy the activity that much at the moment.

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RE: Criminal or dominant? - 10/18/2016 3:16:41 AM

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Judging by your post NookieNotes I was in a total power exchange. If he said pee on the floor, I was expected to pee on the floor - then clean it up. But it didn't feel like something onerous. It was just the way we lived. In fact, it was as joyful a relationship as any I had encountered to that point.

Well, exactly.

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ORIGINAL: kiwisub22

Judging by your post NookieNotes I was in a total power exchange. If he said pee on the floor, I was expected to pee on the floor - then clean it up. But it didn't feel like something onerous. It was just the way we lived. In fact, it was as joyful a relationship as any I had encountered to that point.

Why would he want you to pee on the floor?

Does he need a reason? As long as the order is within their negotiated dynamic, he doesn't need one.

Exactly right OsideGirl.

And he wanted me to pee on the floor because good little girls don't. Nor do adult women, and it was incredibly hard to get past the whole good girl thing and do what he wanted. I only had to do it once but it was a very powerfully submissive thing to do in front of someone.

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The other part that the op has totally missed, is that being bent over and used even while not really up to it, can be something that the sub enjoys. She may well feel emotionally satisfied by him making it clear that he's in charge, even if she doesn't enjoy the activity that much at the moment.

Yes. It's a feeling of love, affection, and belonging for the sub who desires and craves the TPE.

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RE: Criminal or dominant? - 10/18/2016 3:58:13 AM

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It would be unprofessional, for example, if I was trying to explain something to a colleague, for my dominant to tell me to get off the phone, or just start fucking me without me ending the call.. It would be dangerous to be cooking.. Many mistakes could be made while sewing.. .. But to each their own, and if they're fine taking outrageous risks, "your kink is not my kink, but I accept it so long as it doesn't affect me".

Everything you mentioned here, has been done to me. And I have thoroughly enjoyed every minute of it. As to the dangers of cooking, usually when the dominant grabs me and fucks me while I am cooking, he is also sensible enough to turn the fire off while fucks me, then send me back to cooking.

If I was sewing, same shit. Grab the needle off my hands and put it away. Or switch off the sewing machine, whatever.

All these don't have to be dangerous.

As for being on the phone with colleague. He will fuck me very slowly and gently. So I can continue to sound normal.

All these things bring me immense joy!! I can't even understand why you think it's all horrible.

It really isn't. It's just incompatibility. You and the dominant do not enjoy the same things.

The question is, what is your idea of submission if a man always had to continuously ask you permission to touch you or fuck you whenever he wants to? Then where is the submissive part precisely? Makes it completely vanilla.

You can always get that from vanilla men. They will always ask your permission and you need not fear they would do these things. You don't need a dominant. Why do you need a dominant male for?

Hell I know a vanilla man who religiously always have to verbally ask his wife permission to have sex with her, before even being allowed to touch her, his entire marriage. He just respects her and goes with it. If she says no, then it's no. I think it's crazy. But vanilla men do that! Highly unlikely dominant men will agree to such things.

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