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Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 4:19:17 AM

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HERE ARE A FEW WORDS THAT I WROTE TO A SUB THAT I MET RECENTLY ON CS. KUDOS TO HIM. HE PLAYED ME LIKE A FIDDLE AND ACTUALLY CONVINCED ME THAT ALTHOUGH HE FELT THAT HE HAD LITTLE TO OFFER IN HIS ADVANCED YEARS AND THAT ALTHOUGH HE SUFFERED FROM ED, HIS INTENTIONS WERE TRUE. HE WANTED A SINCERE D/s RELATIONSHIP. MY TEARS FLOWED AT WHAT I THOUGHT WERE SINCERE WORDS, AND I DECIDED TO RECIPROCATE. I TOLD HIM I WOULD GLADLY ACCEPT HIM AS HE WAS...AND WITHIN A DAY OF MY EXPRESSING THESE SENTIMENTS TO HIM, HE DISAPPEARED:

Sadly, there might come a day when some misfortune occurs. Should misfortune fall upon Me, I would hope that I had chosen wisely and that My dear one would be by My side...But should the misfortune fall upon My dear sweet sub, I am unmovable. Planted by his side, I will see to it that he is comfortable, that his spirits are high; that he knows that he is loved and appreciated. I will personally see to it that each of his tears are wiped away. And if the situation requires that I now serve him in this tender moment, then with My entire being I will do so. Wholeheartedly, I will care for the one who has taken such good care of Me all of these years. Perhaps his mind is aware of My presence and perhaps it is not. Regardless, I will speak life to his soul. I will sing him songs and keep him company. And regardless of whether or not his mind comprehends My love, I will love him yet still. I will stand by his side and hold his hand until his soul decides that this place is no longer his home...

This is what is in My heart for you...

And he was gone...

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 5:09:05 AM

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If you are true as I dont know you from adam or eve or ~~him~~...and what you say is true I am sorry. Unfortunately I am of the belief that people like that outnumber 10:1 easily, the genuine for want of a better word.

Women are like pixie dust on here, or there, who are looking. Men on the other hand bountiful who are seeking the world, as opposed to a hole or ball stomping - well a few of them at least I spose. So you have choice and you should look for them.,,if you are seeking.

Women online - all i see are that most of them want prince charming malarkey they lack the capacity, most of them, to have a balanced conversation and therefore susceptible, nae wish for, malarkey and not the good kind.
Men online - even I know most to be married basket cases but that still leaves a decent number to choose from

Why they vanish and they often do this about reality time You never find out

The most common reason is they are married..not all are. Some are simply meme(which is why i hate meme pics on profiles), caricatures, smoke and mirrors, or absolute fiction designed to appeal or to play on someones feelings...perhaps he was abducted by aliens.

I see a lot of broken women on single site destined to repeat the same cycle over and over again and I hold them equally to blame as monsterwomen breeds monsterman

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 6:28:20 AM

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Did you lose any money? If not, then what the fuck are you complaining about?

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 6:42:44 AM

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I think you came on way too strong

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 6:47:51 AM

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I have no harsh or sarcastic words for you. Nothing that I wrote warranted such an angry response. But we each choose how we live the lives we were given. I choose the path of dignity and self-respect. Good luck to you on your path, sweetheart. With an attitude like that you'll need it.

And since you seem to have nothing of value to offer, I'll go ahead and hide your posts and block you.

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 6:53:13 AM

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I appreciate your feedback. Definitely food for thought.

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 7:10:18 AM

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You seem very kind and warm--maybe he had different expectations.
It could also be a fantasy/reality thing.

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 7:32:55 AM

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Thank you, heavyblinker. I suppose it was just a fantasy...for him...

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 7:50:56 AM

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Sometimes points have to be made - i think awareness was doing this and he actually has a perfectly valid point therefore you are the one who got hostile. He means choose more wisely and be more than someone who only wishes to hear everything she needs to hear.

You are the one who fell in love or empathised with someone who does not exist in reality.
And yet i have come to understand a long time ago that is what "genuine" women want and in essence they create these "men" make no mistake I could write a profile that entices women like that but I refuse to do so. As for illness I have CFS/ME and I never use that as a weapon/allure...many on here have a variety of lurgy and I have never seen any weaponize them - not that I have read every post. I have seen the needy weaponize them for the monster predators for that is what they desire they lack the capacity for anything else.

But you are left in limbo, wondering forever - you will get no absolute answer - i would not be overly surprised if he magically reappears and draws you in deeper to the maelstrom

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FPiu4QmJyWs

But you are consumed by an ethereal being.

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 8:22:18 AM

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Wicked, I am disappointed by your lack of the usual displays for situations like these

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 8:23:31 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BeautySeeking

HERE ARE A FEW WORDS THAT I WROTE TO A SUB THAT I MET RECENTLY ON CS. KUDOS TO HIM. HE PLAYED ME LIKE A FIDDLE AND ACTUALLY CONVINCED ME THAT ALTHOUGH HE FELT THAT HE HAD LITTLE TO OFFER IN HIS ADVANCED YEARS AND THAT ALTHOUGH HE SUFFERED FROM ED, HIS INTENTIONS WERE TRUE. HE WANTED A SINCERE D/s RELATIONSHIP. MY TEARS FLOWED AT WHAT I THOUGHT WERE SINCERE WORDS, AND I DECIDED TO RECIPROCATE. I TOLD HIM I WOULD GLADLY ACCEPT HIM AS HE WAS...AND WITHIN A DAY OF MY EXPRESSING THESE SENTIMENTS TO HIM, HE DISAPPEARED:

Sadly, there might come a day when some misfortune occurs. Should misfortune fall upon Me, I would hope that I had chosen wisely and that My dear one would be by My side...But should the misfortune fall upon My dear sweet sub, I am unmovable. Planted by his side, I will see to it that he is comfortable, that his spirits are high; that he knows that he is loved and appreciated. I will personally see to it that each of his tears are wiped away. And if the situation requires that I now serve him in this tender moment, then with My entire being I will do so. Wholeheartedly, I will care for the one who has taken such good care of Me all of these years. Perhaps his mind is aware of My presence and perhaps it is not. Regardless, I will speak life to his soul. I will sing him songs and keep him company. And regardless of whether or not his mind comprehends My love, I will love him yet still. I will stand by his side and hold his hand until his soul decides that this place is no longer his home...

This is what is in My heart for you...

And he was gone...

Never let your heart get wrapped up in someone that you haven't even talked to on the phone, at the very least.

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 8:24:40 AM

bondageerone

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OMG you fat slob, at 305 lbs, he must have been really deperate to even visit you.
Terri, a lesbian bitch. xx

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 8:34:31 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BeautySeeking

HERE ARE A FEW WORDS THAT I WROTE TO A SUB THAT I MET RECENTLY ON CS. KUDOS TO HIM. HE PLAYED ME LIKE A FIDDLE AND ACTUALLY CONVINCED ME THAT ALTHOUGH HE FELT THAT HE HAD LITTLE TO OFFER IN HIS ADVANCED YEARS AND THAT ALTHOUGH HE SUFFERED FROM ED, HIS INTENTIONS WERE TRUE. HE WANTED A SINCERE D/s RELATIONSHIP. MY TEARS FLOWED AT WHAT I THOUGHT WERE SINCERE WORDS, AND I DECIDED TO RECIPROCATE. I TOLD HIM I WOULD GLADLY ACCEPT HIM AS HE WAS...AND WITHIN A DAY OF MY EXPRESSING THESE SENTIMENTS TO HIM, HE DISAPPEARED:

Sadly, there might come a day when some misfortune occurs. Should misfortune fall upon Me, I would hope that I had chosen wisely and that My dear one would be by My side...But should the misfortune fall upon My dear sweet sub, I am unmovable. Planted by his side, I will see to it that he is comfortable, that his spirits are high; that he knows that he is loved and appreciated. I will personally see to it that each of his tears are wiped away. And if the situation requires that I now serve him in this tender moment, then with My entire being I will do so. Wholeheartedly, I will care for the one who has taken such good care of Me all of these years. Perhaps his mind is aware of My presence and perhaps it is not. Regardless, I will speak life to his soul. I will sing him songs and keep him company. And regardless of whether or not his mind comprehends My love, I will love him yet still. I will stand by his side and hold his hand until his soul decides that this place is no longer his home...

This is what is in My heart for you...

And he was gone...

This post made me angry..but I am not exactly sure why. I'm mad at you. I need to go through my process.

I think it's because ...hmmm..I'm not sure..It's the words..I need coffee first.

Okay.

I'm still mad at you. Maybe I'll figure it out but I can't do it right now. I am really stupidly mad and crying about it.

You didn't even know him..I don't believe you so the words you used..they are the ones I use ...fuck.

I gotta go for a minute.

::sighs::

Don't you know what happens when you give your heart to someone and they go away? It leaves you heartless..and you are just so cavalier about..fuck..forget it. It's me..missing Michael..great big hole..that I pretend is going to be filled by someone else..but it isn't..ever.

I feel sorry for you..you are so unprepared for any reality.

Okay..I processed this and I'm not mad anymore..just sad and my gut and head are in sync with things..so..
..I just don't believe you is really the bottom line.

How do you sit there claiming to have a heart when it just got ripped out of your chest? After a day? A single day? I just don't believe you.

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 8:44:15 AM

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While its easy to get involved with the fantasy of a potential relationship -- in the future -- I would hold off on the heart giving until you have actually met the person and have ascertained if you all are actually compatible offline - as chemistry and no I am not just speaking of sexual chemistry of two people cannot be determined until you actually meet.

I'm almost tempted to ask how old you are. You seem focused on a fantasy rather than reality if you are this devastated and your "heart" is broken.

That being said, suck it up -- life is full of disappointment and if you are online trying to meet someone, you will constantly be suffering heartbreak. This just seems way to much.

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 8:45:50 AM

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No offense taken, sweetheart. And I'll just take a moment to wish you all the best on your journey. I hope that you find peace. If there is one thing that I have learned, it is that hurting people make it a point - will absolutely go out of their way to try to hurt others.

You're not a "bitch." You're just a person with unresolved issues who would rather distract herself by attacking other people.

Good luck to you. <3

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 8:48:56 AM

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You don't have to believe Me. That wasn't the point of the post. And if you choose not to believe Me, then that is your prerogative. I have nothing to prove to you or anyone else.

Wishing you all the best in BDSM. I hope you find what you are looking for.

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 8:52:20 AM

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I appreciate the support but his response makes no real impact on Me. I wrote this post so that subs could see the human side of Dommes. They don't get to see that side of us a lot of times.

Best to you.

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 8:53:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
This post made me angry..but I am not exactly sure why.

It's a Hallmark television special caricature of relationship grieving. What happens in real life when someone leaves or dies? In the prelude and the aftermath? People get angry, sad, guilty. They say and do things that are "beneath them" that they later regret. "I'm an unmovable rock who will never waver and will sing to you until you feel better" is pure fantasy. And there are people who, from the outside, really do look like that, their family calls them saints. But on the inside? Those people are torn up, feeling weak, incompetent, powerless, just like everybody else.

The OP seems written by someone who has not yet processed loss.

Off topic, I'm sorry to see you in pain. I hope you feel better soon.

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 8:55:34 AM

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Good words and wise. However, I am no longer devastated over this. Again, I posted this so that subs could see the human side of Dommes. They do not get to see that side of us nearly enough.

Thanks for reply. Again - you made some good points.

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RE: Domme's Have Hearts, Too - 11/5/2016 9:03:15 AM

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I'm actually doing quite well now. Thanks. I'm not sure what the aversion is to someone having and expressing their feelings, but several people seem to have an issue with it. I don't get it, but to each his own.

Again, I'm as good as new now. This post was made with the goal of allowing subs to see that Dommes are real - human.

Each person reading and commenting on this post has had his/her own response to it, but I believe BDSM will be a much better place when Dommes are a bit more "human." And sadness is a part of the human experience. Dommes are not exempt.

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