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Ferric -> Chastity? (7/23/2006 10:48:56 AM)
Master has recently demanded I not masturbate when she's not around, or without her permission. However, she has not inforced some sort of chastity device, and I'm finding it very difficult to quit cold turkey. For someone who masturbated a fair amount (Embarrassing to admit...), going for even two or three days without release seems like a long time (Master and I don't live together, so it's sometimes a few days between each time we se each other) Master has punished me in the past by saying I will have to go without physical contact with her the next time we meet, but I think that's only making it worse. Does anyone have any suggestions to help me break this?

Level -> RE: Chastity? (7/23/2006 10:52:08 AM)
Have you spoken to her about this? Maybe ask her for a chastity device?

hispossession -> RE: Chastity? (7/23/2006 10:57:44 AM)
Master has never commanded me not to blush 'take care of business'... but on occassion he has demanded do it. We're 1000 miles apart so it's only a few times a year that we're together... consequently I have discovered a level of self control that he is very pleased to witness me exercising. I try to live my life in a manner that he would be proud of. If he was to tell me not to do something, even though he might never ask again if I had, I doubt that I would do it anymore simply because I know it would displease him and that is something that I do not want to do. perhaps try thinking of how pleased your Master will be to know that you are doing as directed by them? Knowing the pleasure you've denied yourself will give them pleasure...

afeathr -> RE: Chastity? (7/23/2006 11:11:03 AM)
Sir has given me the exact same command, and I have found it very pleasing to do such for Him for several reasons: 1) because I know that it pleases him (first and foremost); 2) because He has a definite reason for asking such of me... the amount of pleasure that I derive from waiting and being in his presence when I orgasm is the greatest I have ever known in my life! Perhaps you would want to consider this the next time you feel the need to 'cheat'. You may not know what you are missing!

justlookingbbw -> RE: Chastity? (7/23/2006 11:14:46 AM)
My Master has told me that I can not masturbate without his permission so I have to agree with hispossession. I do as told because it would please him. We also live many miles apart.

kimba1 -> RE: Chastity? (7/23/2006 11:21:26 AM)
My Master controls when i may masturbate, and when i many not, and when i can play, but er, ahem, not um, release. We are often apart, sometimes very far apart. I do what he instructs because i want to make him proud of me. I have given up my self-control to him, and i love that feeling. Yes, sometimes it is hard, because know i cannot play but because HE has told me i can't, it is a turn on in itself; but as somebody else here mentioned, when i finally AM allowed to, it is usually with him, and always worth the anticipation! smiling happily ....

sublizzie -> RE: Chastity? (7/23/2006 11:26:27 AM)
Cold turkey isn't fun, but it does work. Orgasms delayed are much better for having had to wait for them. And the deep need for self-pleasuring does drop off after a time. You still may wish you could die, but it won't happen as often. Find other things to fill up your time. When you're busy learning new ways to provide service, either through reading about something or experimenting with new recipes or playing with new decorating ideas, you can take your mind off of your need and sublimate it into something else that would please your Master.

Ferric -> RE: Chastity? (7/23/2006 12:01:18 PM)
Thanks everyone, I talked with master about it, and the situation is turning out alright. Although it's still not 100%, since I've been asked to stop, I've cut down to about 5% of how much I USED to do it. It's a start, and I'll keep trying for master.

peta -> RE: Chastity? (7/23/2006 5:10:59 PM)
you need to fill that time with something else. It may be a good time to come up with other ways to make Her smile. Not sure the lesson she is teaching you, but when it has been asked of me in the past it was for focus and place. Keep communicating, keep trying, and always just do the best you can do. peta

jonathan -> RE: Chastity? (7/23/2006 6:16:46 PM)
The posts here touch on both aspects of chastity, the psychological and the physical. Like the others, i can be chaste through the former, but i find that many want the latter as well. As a form of and reminder of the level of control i want and have agreed to. Being male, it's cheap and easy to comply with a device. If cold turkey is a problem, then maybe you need that control. If She's never considered a device, then bring it up. You both might be happier for it. On the other hand, when kept locked up, those moments of release for orgasm are that much more intense. As a reward for service or obedience or for Her amusement. i know that i will never be left to my own will again. It will only happen in Her prescence and at Her pleasure.

cheshireboy -> RE: Chastity? (7/23/2006 7:28:28 PM)
for me, when i am in the state of denial, i tend to find some strength in it, by not thinking about it almost puts me in this nice zen mode where i am able to be more productive....i have heard many speak of such devices but to me, in someways it is not as powerful as just mentally denying it. mayhaps if you just use that energy for other things, like finding new ways to spoil her, or writing her stories if that is your thing, something along those lines....... cheshire "if it was only just a smile"

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