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Ambassadors for WIITWD - 7/23/2006 12:10:23 PM

mstrjx

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Ladies, Gentlemen,

Members of CollarMe and other similar corners of the web are members of a subculture. The InSomeWayWeLikeKink organization. We don't all do things the same way, we don't all have the same likes and dislikes, and sometimes we find other members of the organization fascinating enough to date, marry, or just beat.

Now, it turns out that those people who aren't in our organization, call it, oh I don't know, the vanilla community, have heard of what we do and for some of them it seems like an interesting place to visit, hang out, or stay. Not all vanilla people come to find out about us in the same way.

Do we really want to be a subculture? Do we really wish to be underground? When I finally acquiesced to my thoughts, feelings and fantasies quite some time ago, I realized that what I was experiencing were things that we all should come to embrace and know. My experience tells me that, by our nature, we communicate at a higher level than vanilla people. We tend to, again by nature, trust those around us who earn that trust. Some of our relationships can become flawed as any can, but what we start seems to be purer in some ways than those in the vanilla community. If vanilla people took to heart communication, trust, a varying level of power and control not to mention respect, and simply a completely different view of 'self' and 'others', what would happen to the divorce rate? I for one think it would plummet.

So, how do we get the word out? Or, are we already? I think of 'BDSM' as something that's bigger than me, always has been and always will be. I, as an individual, need to respect the traditions, the activities, and all that this world stands for, above all else. Therefore, everything that I do that is seen or heard, not only serves as a reflection of myself as an individual, but reflects on the community as a whole. If I do something of value, perhaps the Lifestyle (or whatever you wish to call it) is enhanced. If I do damage to others by my actions, then an inherent risk is taken to malign everything we believe in. I could not live with myself if that were allowed to happen.

So, I put it to you that we are all ambassadors to what we believe in. What we do and say as a representation of our selves and our beliefs are liable to be heard. This is a CollarMe forum, so it is apparent I am speaking to people within the community, the organization, but it is also a public forum, and my words can be viewed by anyone. I've never been afraid to tell my stories and give my views, and I believe that if some smarmy talk show found me to represent WIITWD, I would acquit myself, and all of you, well. I take responsibility for myself, and as an ambassador (whether I really want to be or not), all of you as well.

Can you say the same?

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RE: Ambassadors for WIITWD - 7/23/2006 12:16:45 PM

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I think you will find that true 'nillas are very odd indeed - and the majority of 'vanillas' are more into a D/s relationship than not, they just haven't been able to 'lable' it correctly. :)

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RE: Ambassadors for WIITWD - 7/23/2006 1:46:05 PM

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You have to be kidding me. We communicate at a higher level than vanilla people? Have you read the many horror stories on the boards here? Have you seen how often common sense is tossed out the window with dire consequences? Just because we have interests and needs that are different than so called "vanilla" people doesn't make us better.

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RE: Ambassadors for WIITWD - 7/23/2006 1:54:52 PM

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i am not sure we do anything better then nillas but i will say that the joy, freedom, spiritual awakening, passion, wisdom and skills and tools for intimacy that wiitwd has given me has been life changing and i will forever be grateful.

i wish i could share it with ever fighting couple, i wish i could share it with every wounded soul...but i have learned that dispite my best efforts...it just does not translate very well.

its really hard to get if you dont get it...

but that does not keep me from trying.

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RE: Ambassadors for WIITWD - 7/23/2006 2:22:13 PM

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I'll keep to myself and stay off the talk show circuit, thank you . It's not a matter of being unable to acquit myself well, but one of keeping my business to myself, no matter where I go.

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RE: Ambassadors for WIITWD - 7/23/2006 2:56:22 PM

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We are all ambassadors for who we are, what we believe in and what we wish to be expressed in the world.

However, that doesn't mean we are activists. There are great groups already in place that could use volunteers if you want to be an activist for bdsm/alt lifestyles- NCSF and Woodhull being two of the major ones. But your local group is always a great place to start as well to support things right in your own backyard.

Whether we are a sub-culture or not is debatable (I say yes) and it's certainly not something that occurs because a committee sits down and decides it is such.

Mostly, we're just people- we're not better or worse than vanillas in any way.

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RE: Ambassadors for WIITWD - 7/23/2006 3:05:20 PM

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personally, i have found a vanilla person who is able to exist on a higher level as i too believe lifestyle
people do as well. More then lifestlye i believe it is the people who are able to look deep enough inside themselves to see and admitt to their own desires, and disfunctions. come to terms with them, either embrase them or deal with them and continue with their lives. We in the lifestyle have decided to embrace them and thus deal with them as desires and find freedom and happiness in exploring them.

Even my friend would be an ambassador although not a participant of bdsm

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