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RE: why the hate for other people's kinks? - 11/21/2016 8:27:45 AM

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I suppose they have to put a bit of effort into finding photos without a watermark to put on their profile.

There's a reason why most of these parasites only have a single profile pic, which is usually cropped and blurry.

I'd honestly not thought of that one: I'd assumed that was down to some of the pics drunken selfies taken with a shitty phone. These seem to tend towards being the chavvier looking finducks with those pictures, after all...

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RE: why the hate for other people's kinks? - 12/1/2016 11:21:35 AM

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Because Findommes aren't actually in a D/s relationship with anybody. They are engaging in pay-for-play just like Prodommes are. Only, they've going about it in unethcial and sleazy ways, because they try to pretend like what they're doing is a relationship, when what they're doing is offering a service (a service the guys like, mind you) without being transparent about the terms, the expectations, what they offer, and often even without ever delivering the goods and services promissed.

Ish nailed it.

While financial D/s can be a part of a D/s relationship, for you OP, it's a business.

I always find it funny that the FinDommes trolling for their next mark try to defend it as a kink or a fetish, when it's neither. It's a business arrangement.

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RE: why the hate for other people's kinks? - 12/1/2016 3:35:01 PM

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Many men have the fetish of being financially ripped off. Although I used to do this when I first started out, I don't do this anymore.

They deposit money into an account with a contract of weekly emails. Then when she takes the money and doesn't give him what he wanted, he goes and masturbates on his bed. He then comes on this forum and complains about it. AND THEN HE DOES IT AGAIN. People say, "You financially rip people off." I reply, "But that's what they wanted."

As I wrote, I don't do that anymore. FinDommes are able to provide a fetish that other's don't. Many men want a young and beautiful woman to control his money. He is married or has a girlfriend, and is unable to physically meet. It is a relationship.

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RE: why the hate for other people's kinks? - 12/1/2016 3:54:10 PM

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FinDommes are able to provide a fetish that other's don't. Many men want a young and beautiful woman to control his money.

And there's the key phrase right there.

She's PROVIDING a fetish in exchange for money. Just like ProDommes. If the extent of the relationship is financial, it's a business.

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RE: why the hate for other people's kinks? - 12/1/2016 5:00:13 PM

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I'm trying to wrap my mind around this one.
If you like pegging, cross dressing, bondage, pet play, watersports, impact play, living in your dommes basement in 24/7 confinement, domestic servants...all of this is okay. No one will judge you.

BUT..

If your fetish involved the power exchange from giving/taking financially you're a dumbass If you enjoy sending tributes. The dom is a money grubbing where that takes advantage of men.

Recently, there's been too much hate on Property dommes and findommes and I want to know why. The people hating probably don't even have a clue about what's really going on! Just like any other D/s relationship there are rules and boundaries, hard limits.

As long as they are respected what is your problem?

Have you ever actually talked to a finding about how he feels about the money he's sending or gifts he's buying? Those guys are happy as f* to have someone to spoil. They don't feel like they're getting scammed.

Ask them about it.

I suggest you guys open up your minds and have some respect for people who have different links than you. It's pretty ignorant and I'm sick of reading about.

Please explain.

Financial domination is not a kink, it's a scam to exploit the stupid.

In any kink interaction between two people, you generally have a quid pro quo. Financial domination is performance art which does little to disguise the findomme as a prostitute who doesn't even have sex with the john.

Just because someone is stupid, doesn't make it right to exploit them. We jail people who exploit the elderly and we should do the same to those who exploit the stupid.

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RE: why the hate for other people's kinks? - 12/1/2016 5:19:13 PM

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"If the extent of the relationship is financial, it's a business."
When a guy dates an attractive women she says, "I'm a quality woman. I expect to be treated as such. No cheap dudes." So he spends a lot of $$$ on her. Dinners, movies, etc. all cost money. Is most of the dating process a "business?"

"Financial domination is performance art which does little to disguise the findomme as a prostitute who doesn't even have sex with the john."
So when a Pro-Domme engages in sexual activity it isn't considered prostitution. But if a FinDomme doesn't provide sex it's considered prostitution?

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RE: why the hate for other people's kinks? - 12/1/2016 5:24:03 PM

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"If the extent of the relationship is financial, it's a business."
When a guy dates an attractive women she says, "I'm a quality woman. I expect to be treated as such. No cheap dudes." So he spends a lot of $$$ on her. Dinners, movies, etc. all cost money. Is most of the dating process a "business?"

So, you're defending FinDomming by comparing it to how a shallow woman would date?

You keep proving my point.

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