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TheVetOnTheIslan -> 1000 days without (12/5/2016 4:41:08 AM)

Today marks 1000 days since I've last had sex. I have had a few opportunities, but just haven't for one reason or another. It has been a weird experience for me, but now feels normal. I do masturbate, but I try to keep that to once a week or so. Has anyone else gone through this and they dont know why? Do any of you have any questions for me? Ill be glad to answer.



SuzyHolewrecker -> RE: 1000 days without (12/5/2016 5:33:00 AM)

I'll bite!! does this only include intercourse? or any physical contact? how do you define sex?



freedomdwarf1 -> RE: 1000 days without (12/5/2016 5:52:42 AM)

I don't go 10 days without sex.
And that's not by my insistence either.

1000 days without???
More fool you.
I don't see that it's anything to crow about.



Greta75 -> RE: 1000 days without (12/5/2016 6:04:51 AM)

The problem with this 1000 day without sex is, not everybody is into sex.

For some people, that's easy peazy to do.

It's only challenging if you actually like having sex. Not alot of people enjoys sex.

And I am talking about really enjoying sex for the pure joy of sex alone.

For many, they might need emotional closeness to enjoy sex, but to me, that's not about sex. It's about the feeling emotional closeness to each other, and the action of sex facilitate those feelings.

And people who need emotional closeness to enjoy sex has no desire for sex at all, unless they have feelings. 1000 days is easy for them, if they remain single and not met anybody special.



Alecta -> RE: 1000 days without (12/5/2016 8:10:53 AM)

Also, habit. Like everything else once you go past the threshold it becomes easier to do or not do, like everything else.



DaddySatyr -> RE: 1000 days without (12/5/2016 8:23:35 AM)


I think I've said this here, before ...

When I ended my marriage, I was determined not to fall back into the cycle. I don't know about every other guy, but a lot of guys I knew were like me in that as soon as a relationship ended that they definitely wanted to stay ended, they'd go out and hook up with some random female ("Even if I get weak, and think about taking her back, she'll NEVER agree to it, when she finds out I fucked someone else").

I avoided this like the plague. I didn't want to get back on the merry-go-round.

I didn't set any specific amount of time, but I had no social contact what-so-ever with any of the fairer sex. I wouldn't chat in a bar. I wouldn't sit in the cafeteria (DFAC) with a female. I wanted to concentrate on working on me; healing from my marriage and getting back to be being the person I had been and working on getting back on the path to be the person I wanted to become.

Again, it wasn't really some kind of conscious decision. I just wanted the focus to be on me (and my children, of course).

It took a year and two weeks for me to sit at a table table on break at work with a female. She had hit on me, a few times, during my marriage, but we had a cordial relationship because she understood what "married" meant to me.

It was a year and sixteen days after my marriage ended before I had sex (she was very persuasive and her arguments had merits).

The best thing I have ever done for myself, when it comes to romantic relationships was to eschew them while I got my head together. I've never looked back.



Michael



LadyPact -> RE: 1000 days without (12/5/2016 9:52:39 AM)

I don't really have questions for you, OP. I read your post and just figured, meh. Maybe you just happen to be demisexual and aren't interested in sex without an emotional connection and/or power dynamic. (There is a difference.) Maybe you are in an asexual period in your life. Maybe you've got a low testosterone level, (not diagnosed) so you're not really as interested in pursuing sex. Maybe your "offers" from other people just weren't appealing to you in some way, or the timing was bad, or sex just wasn't a priority when they approached you.

Most people who aren't involved in your sex life, (or lack, thereof) or don't know you in some way, aren't really going to care much. I couldn't tell you when the last time the people who live three houses down from me had sex, and even if they did tell me it had been one day or a thousand days, except for the time I took out of my day to have the conversation, it's really not going to have an impact.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: 1000 days without (12/5/2016 11:03:29 AM)

quote:

Today marks 1000 days since I've last had sex.

Do you want a cookie?



Maybeher -> RE: 1000 days without (12/5/2016 11:17:56 AM)

Have you considered that you might be demisexual?

I am and going without sex doesn't bother me. Now if I am drawn to someone, that's different.



Greta75 -> RE: 1000 days without (12/5/2016 4:08:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Alecta

Also, habit. Like everything else once you go past the threshold it becomes easier to do or not do, like everything else.

Not true.
Many women tried to do it, and then decide, it sucks for them, and stop automatically because they have no desire to have sex without the feelings. And find the experiences horrible for them.
It's a natural orientation.



Alecta -> RE: 1000 days without (12/7/2016 12:41:49 AM)

I don't see how that negates the "habit" angle?



Greta75 -> RE: 1000 days without (12/7/2016 1:52:05 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Alecta
I don't see how that negates the "habit" angle?

You can't form a habit to love what you hate.



TheVetOnTheIslan -> RE: 1000 days without (12/7/2016 3:48:38 AM)

It includes even touching anyone of the opposite sex.



TheVetOnTheIslan -> RE: 1000 days without (12/7/2016 3:51:26 AM)

I think your idea of me being a demisexual is right. I had never even heard of it before. I only really want sex with someone I care about.



WickedsDesire -> RE: 1000 days without (12/7/2016 4:54:56 AM)

I am about 375 days and now reek of utter woe and desperation. Shouldn't I be awarded a medal or saint hood or something? My flock of cat count has stabilised at three, four if i count the ginger thieving bastard from 2 rows up.

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Attention whores are a different kettle of fish and they can barely function half an hour without the attention of others...or wanting their holes stuffed.

Anyhoos why the 1000 days?



MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: 1000 days without (12/7/2016 6:26:15 AM)


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ORIGINAL: TheVetOnTheIslan

Today marks 1000 days since I've last had sex. I have had a few opportunities, but just haven't for one reason or another. It has been a weird experience for me, but now feels normal. I do masturbate, but I try to keep that to once a week or so. Has anyone else gone through this and they dont know why? Do any of you have any questions for me? Ill be glad to answer.

It's not unusual. Single people often go for long periods without sex, or even an orgasm, especially if they are busy with other things like school or career. Chastity itself is a pretty widespread "fetish". Most of the submissives who write to Me state this as one of their interests, and many Dominants specialize in some variation of it. It has also been used as a fundraiser for charity. http://www.smh.com.au/national/man-goes-without-sex-for-a-year-for-charity-20140104-30atm.html



shiftyw -> RE: 1000 days without (12/7/2016 11:43:40 AM)

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18. Does that count? Haha



anniezz338 -> RE: 1000 days without (12/7/2016 5:46:00 PM)

I can beat 1000 days and no masturbation. It's not mental or physical. I just don't have the interest. I'd rather make soap.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: 1000 days without (12/7/2016 6:00:49 PM)

quote:

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18. Does that count? Haha

Outlasted me by roughly 1400 days, so yeah it counts to my mind.



MrRodgers -> RE: 1000 days without (12/7/2016 6:10:14 PM)


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ORIGINAL: anniezz338

I can beat 1000 days and no masturbation. It's not mental or physical. I just don't have the interest. I'd rather make soap.

Would that include horse dung soap ?

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