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Greta75 -> People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/14/2016 1:59:52 AM)

I don't know why, it's like really weird.

I am getting quite a few men contacting me these days that has their orientation stated as submissive in their profiles here.

But they insist that, they are dominant and they don't see themselves as submissive showing up on their side of their screen. That they had their profile as dominants.

But on my end, looking at the profile. EVEN the written profile, kink list, were all submissive slanted.

Like WTF?

New mind fuck games?

I even screen shot to them what I see, and they would outright deny it's showing like that on their end of the screen.




Onerat1 -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/14/2016 7:30:32 AM)

Could it be a problem with the site? At another site I go to my username is above whatever page I am at. Mine is wrong. In chat when I enter and post anything my name is right. On my home page and when get mail it is wrong. The same wrong name in chat. That started a few months ago.



WhoreMods -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/14/2016 7:52:09 AM)

Probably some sort of site issue if they're contacting you and denying their subs, as Onerat says.



heavyblinker -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/14/2016 8:55:03 AM)

Maybe they filled out their profile after watching femdom porn for hours, are too lazy to change it, and mostly just contact people based on whatever their fantasies are at that moment.



freedomdwarf1 -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/14/2016 9:03:48 AM)

I've seen that here a few times.
I've seen males with a female profile too.

I don't think it's a site issue.
I think it's a misunderstanding on their part.
They are filling their profile with who they are seeking rather than who they are.
So as a dominant, they put all the sub/slave stuff coz it's what they want.

I don't think I've seen a genuine site glitch of this nature.



OsideGirl -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/14/2016 9:50:03 AM)

I had one yesterday where she changed her orientation after emailing me. So, the notification showed Red and the email itself showed Pink.



smartsub10 -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/14/2016 12:00:54 PM)


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ORIGINAL: heavyblinker

Maybe they filled out their profile after watching femdom porn for hours, are too lazy to change it, and mostly just contact people based on whatever their fantasies are at that moment.


Oh yeah.



Greta75 -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/16/2016 12:23:59 AM)


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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

I've seen that here a few times.
I've seen males with a female profile too.

I don't think it's a site issue.
I think it's a misunderstanding on their part.
They are filling their profile with who they are seeking rather than who they are.
So as a dominant, they put all the sub/slave stuff coz it's what they want.

I don't think I've seen a genuine site glitch of this nature.


Oh Gosh! Maybe THIS! LOL! That's hilarious!



WickedsDesire -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/18/2016 6:03:22 AM)

You need to define submissive.
If I let a women go on top of me and have her wicked way does that make me submissive, what if she blindfolds me?

On here I try and leave my filters open as possible frankly I would check almost all the boxes…I leave the guy one unchecked as even I can’t be bothered with those mails some of you women have to put up with. But I tend to view humans as more than holes, or somewhere to stick it on cold winter eves.

All that aside I don’t think there is anyway of blocking anyone not meeting a specific criteria, and I am fine with that..as I said people are looking for conversation, friendship, companionship....women you may correct me if I am wrong there or are all men looking for sex a nice titty pic bit of naughty talk (what percentages would you say women and couples?) Men we dont really get hit up on here for sex do we...our cash and gold usually.

Nope no site glitches as a couple of you already said regarding this topic



Greta75 -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/18/2016 10:47:59 AM)


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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

You need to define submissive.
If I let a women go on top of me and have her wicked way does that make me submissive, what if she blindfolds me?


I am referring to people who chose "submissive" as their orientation in their profiles.

But in my opinion, you might be a switch. You might enjoying some bottoming and some topping.





tamaka -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/18/2016 12:03:59 PM)

Definition of submissive= Follower



Wayward5oul -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/18/2016 12:09:28 PM)


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ORIGINAL: tamaka

Definition of submissive= Follower

That's your definition.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/18/2016 1:13:36 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul


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ORIGINAL: tamaka

Definition of submissive= Follower

That's your definition.

True, but it's a pretty good one. :)



Wayward5oul -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/18/2016 1:27:37 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick


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ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul


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ORIGINAL: tamaka

Definition of submissive= Follower

That's your definition.

True, but it's a pretty good one. :)

If more than a little limited and incomplete.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/18/2016 1:34:36 PM)

Any definition of either dominant or submissive will be a posteriori limited and incomplete.
So given that reality, tamaka's is pretty good. It covers the basics and encapsulates the general concept, and it fits with the idea that the dominant leads the relationship.



Wayward5oul -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/18/2016 1:56:48 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

Any definition of either dominant or submissive will be a posteriori limited and incomplete.
So given that reality, tamaka's is pretty good. It covers the basics and encapsulates the general concept, and it fits with the idea that the dominant leads the relationship.

Doesn't feel right for me. ..without caveats, one word definitions like that read as "in general", and I know far too many submissives that are not followers, in general. When someone is described as s follower, or a leader, that's usually understood as a general personality characteristic. I see that as more of a stereotype of a sub, not definition.



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/18/2016 2:40:06 PM)

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When someone is described as s follower, or a leader, that's usually understood as a general personality characteristic.

You mean like dominance and submissiveness?



DocStrange -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/18/2016 3:22:52 PM)

Of late I have seen a lot of Dominant women profiles stating they are submissive. I assume it just spammer filling up the other side



Wayward5oul -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/18/2016 3:29:10 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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When someone is described as s follower, or a leader, that's usually understood as a general personality characteristic.

You mean like dominance and submissiveness?

I am not a generally submissive person. From what I know of you from these forums, neither are you. A submissive can mean a lot of things. It may mean someone who is submissive in general. It may also mean someone who submissiveNess depends entirely upon their partner. It may only be in the bedroom. It could mean a lot of things.

Regardless, I would hesitate to use the word "follower" to refer to myself and a great many of the other subs that I know from the community. If I did, there would definitely be caveats. Some I would never use it with.

We may agree to disagree on this. But its too general and feeds into the stereotype too much for me to eve be comfortable with. Frankly, I think it's too complicated to be boiled down to such a simplistic definition, and there isn't any need to anyway.



DocStrange -> RE: People with submissive profiles denying they are submissive (12/18/2016 5:24:52 PM)

I have to agree with Wayward5oul on this point. There are many submissives who are dominant in life and only choose to submit to 1 special person.



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