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RedMagic1 -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (12/19/2016 4:39:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: gnathic
To anyone that enjoys or prefers younger subs... What is it that appeals to you about them?

I've noticed a real generation gap that I attribute to growing up with internet porn, vs. growing up before internet porn. Much less is off limits or weird. And I'm not talking about crazy bullshit. I mean things like a woman who identifies as sub but still enjoys sticking a finger up my ass. To women under 35, this is no big deal. More mature women often have the understanding that the dominant person is never penetrated ever. And I enjoy prostate massage dammit.

It goes beyond that though. First, I was shocked when I hit my 30s and suddenly women in their early 20s started hitting on me. These are women who objectively outclassed me in the looks department, and would never have given me the time of day when I was their age. Perhaps related, I'm below average height for a white guy, and more mature women seem to care a lot more about this than women aged 25-35. For whatever reason, almost all of the women who have initiated flirting with me have been in that younger range, completely aside from the women I've initiated pursuit of myself.

So my answer might sound too practical, or cynical, but frankly it's because younger women are less work to date. Women my age come with a longer list of have-to-haves. And even if I have those things, why accept the attitude that makes those requirements? There are a gazillion women who are both pretty and intelligent. That isn't special or rare. What is harder to find is pretty, intelligent, and low maintenance.



OsideGirl -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (12/19/2016 4:44:21 PM)


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ORIGINAL: gnathic


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

My friend says it's because she's not having to undo years of online wanktastic "Mistressing".


Can definitely see the benefit of that!
Having said that, I haven't ever done online D/s myself. Do female subs have a reputation for such a thing? (I'm a female). I thought this was just a stereotype directed more at male subs? (Just noticed I didn't specify I'm female myself, sorry!).

Thanks for your comment.


I think women tend to do it less, but I think they're more prone to "fluffy" fantasies, a la Castlerealm. They've read so much about what a "true" Dom does that getting them to expect something realistic is difficult.




ThatDizzyChick -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (12/19/2016 7:55:53 PM)

Yeah I'd say there is a degree of truth to that.



DomStrictMale -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (12/26/2016 10:19:35 PM)

Malleable young flesh with less baggage.



OsideGirl -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (12/27/2016 11:40:18 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DomStrictMale

Malleable young flesh with less baggage.


So, prey on young subs because they're easier to coerce?




CaptR -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (12/28/2016 11:28:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: tamaka

You should try christianmingle.com. Christian women love to submit.

I can't explain it but I found this incredibly funny! I've know a few who fit this profile. Yet on the flip side, I've known a few who'd just as soon take your ass out, praise God then pass the biscuits!



tamaka -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (12/28/2016 11:54:30 AM)


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ORIGINAL: CaptR

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ORIGINAL: tamaka

You should try christianmingle.com. Christian women love to submit.

I can't explain it but I found this incredibly funny! I've know a few who fit this profile. Yet on the flip side, I've known a few who'd just as soon take your ass out, praise God then pass the biscuits!


: ) i guess perhaps it might be best to discuss Proverbs 31 before deciding to meet.



ThundersCry2U -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (12/28/2016 12:29:30 PM)

Now, this made me laugh...



CaptR -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (12/28/2016 12:41:25 PM)

Proverbs 31:32
And she doth taketh up arms to defend that which is holy in her masters house. Blessed be she who beareth the holy hand grenade, amen. This was meant in response to tamaka. Hope you're a Monty Python fan.



tamaka -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (12/28/2016 12:56:33 PM)

Lol... : )



strangecreature -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (1/5/2017 8:47:19 AM)

I don't get this. Im a 44 year old woman and am approached by men in their twenties often, some of them are quite adept at domination. I think it happens more than you realize. My daddy is younger than me by 4 years and it's no issue for him, either. I have to say even when I was young myself I was turned off by older men that felt they needed younger women. Even twenty years or so ago, this appeared weak to me.



strangecreature -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (1/5/2017 9:18:17 AM)

Oh, funny. I reread: "Younger women are lower maintenence." Lol! I think someone hasn't actually dated many younger women.



KinkyBlackMan -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (1/5/2017 9:28:12 AM)

Although most of my playmates are older than me I do understand the appeal of a younger sub. As we grow older we become more set in our ways and its harder to change someone that has been abused or mistreated for man years. I am more of the Daddy Dom type so being able to watch my sub grow as a person is something that attracts me to younger subs.



preytolife -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (1/5/2017 2:05:36 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

Hard young bodies might have something to do with it

It dat booty.



YouInACage -> RE: The Appeal of a Younger Sub (1/9/2017 4:47:12 PM)

Personally I prefer a younger submissive. They, in general, tend to be more interested in exploring things because this world is newer to them, and we can enjoy exploring together. This is true of young and old submissives.

The problem is, I like lifestyle relationships. Younger people who are interested in that haven't made a life yet where that is impossible. Whereas older submissives have screwed their life up generally where that is more difficult. They're loaded down with vanilla baggage, kids, grandkids, pets, cynical bitter attitudes, set in their ways and previous training, and are usually more bitter and negative people, as life does to some people.

Also older submissives have a higher TCO. Much more expensive health care. Much more expensive demands. Much more limiting limits.

Of course, it isn't universal. I have a sub right now that is my age that loves the same things I do psycho-sexually and mentally and physically, but hey has plenty of baggage from previous relationships and a vanilla lifestyle they was forced into. Luckily they learned the right lessons from that, which is, you provide value to the right dominant for them.

Younger people are not without their issues. Things are new so they can easily find they hate it. It wasn't what they had envisioned. Some want to instagram everything for social status rather than submit to the lifestyle.

I've lived lifestyle relationships for years. I never got married. Never had kids. Why should I be with someone older that didn't follow the same path rather than be with someone (younger) who hasn't gone that direction?

Younger people aren't without their own issues, but they're newer, more excited, more experimental, not poorly trained, haven't broken down, have a lower TCO, and seem to have less problem accepting submissive roles.



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