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RE: Black Owned White Families - 12/29/2016 11:09:55 PM

CaptR

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This post turned ugly. I don't agree with the racial description or the derogatory remarks but I do with the notion your relationship may not have started off with complete disclosure to your bf. Certainly black owned exists (figuratively speaking). As long as you three work it out to where everyone is happy, fuck whatever anyone else says. Whether or not you're a family is how you define it. You may ultimately run into issues with the bf being subjugated by your gf but it's his call where he stands on that.

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RE: Black Owned White Families - 12/30/2016 2:51:07 PM

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Because My kink isn't as good as your kink.

It's funny that you think it's about that. It has nothing to do with your kink.

I'm looking at a woman that got out of an abusive relationship, then got coerced into a relationship by someone who had offered to help, then lied to her boyfriend about the situation. The kink community generally holds an attitude that WIITWD is about consent and communication.

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And my bf less of a man and you hinting at the same because he is ok with what we do.

Nope. I never said or hinted at it. My issue was that you lied to him about it, so he didn't have the opportunity to consent.

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No, you choose to gang up on me because you don't approve of my situation.

You're right. I don't approve of coercion or lying.

I don't care if you have sex swinging from the chandelier, I don't care if your gf is purple with polka dots, I don't care if she carves her name into you, I don't care if your bf masturbates like he's angry at it while watching you fuck a boat load of Marines. As long as it's all done with consent.

So, if you don't like that I find lack of consent distasteful, I suggest you put me on hide.

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RE: Black Owned White Families - 1/4/2017 7:58:59 AM

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I started a new job and met my new bf and my gf within a month of each other. My gf let me live with her so I could get away from him. Soon after I moved in she started flirting with me. She is much much larger than me and I was straight at the time. I can be on the timid and quiet side and I like to avoid confrontations so I let things go WAY to far before I ever protested. Also I felt VERY obligated to her for all she had done. So things kept escalating in what she was doing to me. By way too far I mean what she was doing was starting to turn me on despite myself and I struggled for a long time with my new found sexual feelings for her. It was more than just her being a girl but also her being so dominant and over powering with me that I was enjoying.
That is pretty much the definition of coercion.

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Long story short, in time I accepted what I was denying and totally submitted to her. This was right around the time my new bf first discovered the marks on me and I confessed it was my gf leaving them. He took it well and was fine with it as long as I was. At the time I wasn't sure how fine I was with it. LOL. My bf and gf didn't like each other at all from way before me but her "marking me" for him to find and him enjoying it somehow brought them closer together and now they are cordial too each other and show mutual respect for each other. For example, if my gf wants to try something new with me that might affect him in some way, she will often ask him if he is alright with it first.
So, it started as a nonconsensual cuckold that you or he has decided that he's okay with.

So, you can be upset, but I'm entitled to my opinion that starting a relationship with coercion and dishonesty isn't kosher.

Happy flouncing!

Tbh the thing that would get my back up was the gf exploiting the situation, pushing somebody into a relationship due to economic hardship, that's not cool in my book, but if she's happy with it...

As for the guy, he can make up his own mind, since he didn't leave, I assume the idea of his gf having a lesbian relationship does turn him on and it works for all of them

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RE: Black Owned White Families - 1/4/2017 12:33:58 PM

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LC - good to see you!

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RE: Black Owned White Families - 1/5/2017 8:03:03 AM

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Interesting responses.

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RE: Black Owned White Families - 1/6/2017 12:10:19 AM

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How is it not consentual? He can walk away. Herblondy...Dont worry about them. To some people, the only real kink is their own. And I dont see you trying to marvel anyone. Don't let it get to you. Personally, it sounds totally commonplace and not unusual at all. Tame, even. Maybe they don't get out much.

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