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cumsluts - 7/24/2006 7:19:57 AM

amlonging

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Senuous cumslut vs BDSM.
I have run across some who welcome a cumslutcockwhore who simple needs to obey and and seeks control. But I have also come across others who do not believe it is part of the BDSM way of life others so fondly hold dear. As if being a cumslut is only vanilla.
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RE: cumsluts - 7/24/2006 8:16:34 AM

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I think there is a term for what you are saying, it is called a "bedroom submissive". There is nothing wrong with being a bedroom submissive, it just means that you only seek power exchange in the bedroom (or any other mutually agreed upon space..smiles), and no where else... it stops at the bedroom door. Some people also refer to these types of people as "bottoms".

People should be true to themselves, and there is room in BDSM for bottoms. There are people in dungeons across the nation that have never entered into a power exchange relationship.

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RE: cumsluts - 7/24/2006 8:36:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

I think there is a term for what you are saying, it is called a "bedroom submissive". There is nothing wrong with being a bedroom submissive, it just means that you only seek power exchange in the bedroom (or any other mutually agreed upon space..smiles), and no where else... it stops at the bedroom door. Some people also refer to these types of people as "bottoms".

People should be true to themselves, and there is room in BDSM for bottoms. There are people in dungeons across the nation that have never entered into a power exchange relationship.

I understand what you are saying... Dungeons are NOT my desire...yes I did bottom for my former Master and enjoyed serving Him that way with others, but I KNOW what a bedroom cumslut is and if i were that, i would have said so.... I am NOT a bedroom cumslut .... tis why I thought to say cumslut vs BDSM ...those who believe cumslutcockwhores are ONLY bedroom whores, then I amtill profoundly happy for the WIITWD label... many of us sensous cumsluts need control and a TPE exchange more than in just the bedroom.
Cumslutcockwhores have more desires than to just deepthroat and drink every drop in a bedroom .....

ah...am I giving enlightenment for those who only assume a cumslut is a bedroom cockwhore??

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RE: cumsluts - 7/24/2006 8:40:28 AM

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Sensuous cumslut?

Most people use the term "cumslut" in a "general humiliation/turn on term" although I am sure some people make it into an actual kink for themselves.

Anything that you want to include in your relationship can be included in your relationship. Anything that you don't want to include can be excluded.

And any ACT can be vanilla or not, it's not the act, it's the motivation.

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RE: cumsluts - 7/24/2006 8:48:16 AM

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Sensuous cumslut?

Most people use the term "cumslut" in a "general humiliation/turn on term" although I am sure some people make it into an actual kink for themselves.

Anything that you want to include in your relationship can be included in your relationship. Anything that you don't want to include can be excluded.

And any ACT can be vanilla or not, it's not the act, it's the motivation.

thank you lady... I know of several totally non WIITWD/BDSM women who are beaten by their husbands and made to suck their cock after the sadistic beating, out of fear...there is no TPE or relationship, only a life of fear.
Motivation says ALOT.

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RE: cumsluts - 7/24/2006 9:29:33 PM

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I belive the accepted term you are looking for is "Sensation Play", that which does not involve pain or very little pain. I would have to agree that being a sensual pet that is not a masocist is not the same thing as being a bedroom submisive. More so being a bedroom submisive, 24/7 slave, or any of the colors of the rainbow inbetween is more about the relationship and less about the particular kink. Though I think juliaoceania was simply confused about what your question was, no harm intended.

If you look at BDSM as a whole, it realy encompases very many different things beyond sadomasocism and domainance/submission, just generaly as a whole those two aspects seem to hold the spotlight. One can say bondage is in its own rights its own territory. It does not require submission though that is helpfull, it need not require pain. Mental control such as how a dominant trains a submisive, yet many may not enjoy this particular fetish. Physical control, forcing someone down (playfuly) against their will to make them struggle. Just as with mental control not everyone enjoys this. Sensuality, to make the other want so much that they are squirming, to enjoy playing with their desires. Some will grow board with such forplay.

To every desire there is a different kink, and to every kink some will enjoy it to its fullest where as others just would rather never see it. It is the one bad thing about being in an age where so much information is so freely available. We have so much information that we lump so many things together into small little labels that we some times overlook its contents.

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RE: cumsluts - 7/25/2006 5:28:33 AM

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BDSM is as broad a term as is Vanilla or any other term. The words do not carry so much meaning as do the motivations and so I am inclined to agree with Luckyalbatross. The act is as nothing without the will, and the same goes for the word. The three are interlinked. Kink is only an individual aspect, potentially of either Vanilla or BDSM, and this is down to the individual. Do we really need a specific term for every kink? I think it is not necessary but very confusing for most people to go into that level of identification. Why not just call it a kink of yours and let it go at that?

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