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pinkkitty83 -> Power and places (7/24/2006 9:33:08 AM)

i was wondering if other sub/slave have this situation like me.  At work i got a promotion tus making me a low level manager.  However, i have a Master and Mistress.  i was wondering if anyone has this situation where at work or elsewhere their in a high level position and there go home to their Master and/or Mistress.  And how you deal wit it? [sm=dance.gif]



reticence -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 9:46:00 AM)

I am not sure what you mean by "deal with it",  I have always held supervisory/managerial jobs.  It is as natural for me to do that as it is to be a submissive in my private life.  I dont feel a conflict at all.   *smile* although sometimes when i came home, i did need a bit of an "attitude adjustment" But i did not handle that, he did. 
He was always proud of my work life accomplishments, he felt it reflected well on him.  Some Masters like accomplished, strong women.  It is a testiment to who they are that women like us give control over to them.  Anyone can control a doormat. 
My last boss was an old world Italian man... a naturally dominant man.. He could bring out that submissive in me, if i did not watch it.  I used to say Yes, Sir, to him a lot, look down sometimes.  That was a bit difficult, to remain professional and be his second in command when he could speak to my submissive heart.  I just had to keep my wits about me, is all.  (smile) 
Please know there are lots of professional women that are submissives, it is not a dichotomy at all.  Go with the flow  (smile)



stef -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 9:47:08 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: pinkkitty83

i was wondering if other sub/slave have this situation like me.  At work i got a promotion tus making me a low level manager.  However, i have a Master and Mistress.  i was wondering if anyone has this situation where at work or elsewhere their in a high level position and there go home to their Master and/or Mistress. 

Of course.  This happens all the time.

quote:

And how you deal wit it? [sm=dance.gif]

What's to deal with?  They are two entirely unrelated issues.

~stef



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 9:47:19 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: pinkkitty83

i was wondering if other sub/slave have this situation like me.  At work i got a promotion tus making me a low level manager.  However, i have a Master and Mistress.  i was wondering if anyone has this situation where at work or elsewhere their in a high level position and there go home to their Master and/or Mistress.  And how you deal wit it? [sm=dance.gif]

First off, break out of your idea that a submissive cannot be a powerful person, or have positions of authority in the world at large.  Realize that your submission is always in place, even if you are in charge of other things.  You are serving your dom by being true to yourself and acheiving the goals you wish to acheive.

It's not about what you are doing- it's about the motivation.

Secondly, many people take time when they come home to "relax" and calm down from the hectic work pace so that they can change their headspace into a nice "at home cozy" headspace and not be as freaked out.  It's not that you are going from "not sub" to "sub" but that you are going from "this focus" to "that focus."



juliaoceania -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 10:17:05 AM)

I am thinking you have trouble changing your mindset? I had several areas in my life in which I was supposed to be in control when I first started exploring WIITWD. I had a hard time mentally exploring and then turning around and being in charge in my vanilla life. I can understand the problem would be more extensive if I was living with my dominant. My present dynamic is very lighthearted and not very "authority" driven. I do not need that to feel submissive to him, so I do not know that I will ever have this problem. But if I did I would communicate the need to switch gears with my master if I were you. Maybe 20 minutes of meditation when you first got home, or some quiet time for a few minutes to accustom yourself with the vibe of your home and your place in it?

Another thing is that my personality in the vanilla world began to change after I accepted my submissive nature. I did not feel the need to hold on to this in control person who had to be on top of everything (I was a perfectionistic control freak who had to score at the top of my classes or I would have anxiety). I began to ease up on myself, and show people more of my emotional side, rather than being "in my head" constantly. I was surprised at the results in that being more in my "feminine submissive" nature people were more drawn to me, and seemingly respected what I said even more. It surprised me that as I let go of control how I gained more...Ok, I am rambling now..smiles



Archer -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 11:56:56 AM)

A slave I respect greatly who is a litigation lawyer, hows that for powerfull, deals with it like this.

Every morning she begins the day with this mantra "Everything I do today I do in service to my Owner."  The work she does is also a service to her owner and thus it is required that she do it well and to the best of her ability.

In Leather

Archer



heartfeltsub -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 12:14:00 PM)

Slave Marsha?



LeatherLord2003 -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 12:24:28 PM)

I find a lot of the submissives I meet are powerful women in their careers. They long to give up control in their private lives and do so to keep their sanity. I personally find intelligence a turn on, (read my profile). A woman that can do what ever she wants on her own, yet submits to you, is quite a statement in itself. I have always encouraged the best out of my submissive and always will. It is one of the things she trusts I am doing for her, making her the best at what ever she does.



Mavis -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 12:39:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub

Slave Marsha?


Heartfelt, LOL.  i thought of the exact same person!  Isn't it remarkably beautiful even if that isn't who He meant..   that such a declaration of service to ones Master brings her to mind?

wow. when you think about it, that's really deep. 





babysburnin -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 12:44:10 PM)

I will venture to say that many subs find submission attractive in their person life because they have to be so strong and in control in all other situations...it's a heavenly relief.



nephandi -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 2:31:50 PM)

A slave need not be a mouse stashed away in a kitchen, somtimes being aloed the freedom to serve give one grater personal power, some few might not wish their sub to be sosialy powerful, but to most it only means a more valuble property.



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 2:39:40 PM)

For me who I am at work is that. Its how I have to be at work. You can be successful and be a sub/slave. Being a sub/slave doesnt mean being an unemployed doormat.



Archer -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 3:13:16 PM)

BINGO

She is an increadably powerfull person who happens to be a slave.


In Leather

Archer



MaleModel -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 3:33:54 PM)

My Mistress feels a lot more power BECAUSE I have a very responsible job (I'm a criminal defense attorney).  She says when she sees how I can capture a jury's attention, and get a whole courtroom to focus on every word, then a few hours later she gets me on my knees before her.....it gives her a phenonmenal power rush.
 
Please to do it, M'am.



hisforever -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 5:03:33 PM)

Ok, although I agree with ALMOST what all you are saying, let me say this.  I am a very smart individual (other then when it comes to spelling, I cannot figure out why LOL).  My IQ is quite high.  I always read and quest for knowledge, HOWEVER, I am a stay at home mom, who runs a household of five.  Therefore, I am unemployed.  That does not mean I am a doormat.  I enjoy being a wife and mother, it is what I have always wanted to do. So, unemployed in the kitchen doesnt mean doormat, it means that is what that individual enjoys doing!  I, too have to go from a position of authority to one of submission, I am THE last word to my children, and to others dealing with my children, and consider myself a very dominate person in life outside of my husband.  Those who know me to be a sub to him couldnt believe it when they heard it.  "But you are such a strong willed individual, how could you let someone do that to you." The fact that htey have no clue about this lifestyle based on that statement is another story all together, but you get what I am trying to say here.



ceri -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 5:21:05 PM)

As a sub who is a professional woman i can only concur here. i am a strong, assertive woman who holds down a management job and has done for many years.

i'm also a submissive.

there's not a dichotomy there. i've got the strength and determination to hand my power to someone else and simply be content. what's not to like?

go with the flow, it all works. as a wise person once said - all will be well.



Rayne58 -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 5:44:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: hisforever

Ok, although I agree with ALMOST what all you are saying, let me say this. I am a very smart individual (other then when it comes to spelling, I cannot figure out why LOL). My IQ is quite high. I always read and quest for knowledge, HOWEVER, I am a stay at home mom, who runs a household of five. Therefore, I am unemployed. That does not mean I am a doormat. I enjoy being a wife and mother, it is what I have always wanted to do. So, unemployed in the kitchen doesnt mean doormat, it means that is what that individual enjoys doing! I, too have to go from a position of authority to one of submission, I am THE last word to my children, and to others dealing with my children, and consider myself a very dominate person in life outside of my husband. Those who know me to be a sub to him couldnt believe it when they heard it. "But you are such a strong willed individual, how could you let someone do that to you." The fact that htey have no clue about this lifestyle based on that statement is another story all together, but you get what I am trying to say here.


I'm also unemployed, but my job is as Master's carer and all the responsibility it entails. I have learned heaps about diabetes and renal failure in the 2 1/2 years we have been together. I reckon I am halfway to being qualified as a nurse aide by now [:)]

What I do is not less than what someone else does who is in paid work. I have the responsibility of monitoring His health and keeping Him out of hospital, and over the time we've been together I have saved the government thousands of dollars by nursing Him at home, whereas if I wasn't here He would have spent many more days/weeks in hospital. I keep day to day records of blood glucose levels, insulin doses, and His day to day health which helps the medical professionals when He goes to doctors and clinics. I can set up a dialysis machine, take manual blood pressure and other obs, and massage His back to keep Him comfortable on dialysis so He doesn't have to have morphine for back pain. I make sure He has His meds on time, and fill the scripts so there's no chance of running out.

And I can spell! [;)][:D]



reticence -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 5:53:32 PM)

hisforever..

If anything i said led you to believe that i think a stay at home mom is a door mat, please forgive me. it certainly was not my intention.  I think i was trying to make a statement regarding a continuum, with a doormat and a highly functional woman being at the two extremes.  I never meant to say a stay at home mom and homemaker was not a highly functional woman.  Given the pervading societal attitudes, i can certainly understand why you took exception.  I applaud what you do.. I did it for years.



hisforever -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 7:15:11 PM)

LOL Rayne.  I think its a genetic defect [:)] Reticence thank you very much.  I also am sorry if I came off harsh.  Daddys family tends to look down apon me because I dont work.  They think I use him or something simply because I take care of a household instead of having someone else raise my kids.  So I tend to be a little self concious about this subject.  Thank you for clarifying your view for me![:D]



TNstepsout -> RE: Power and places (7/24/2006 7:41:41 PM)

Maybe the problem isn't so much in changing your mindset from work to home, but in changing your mindset in becoming a manager. If it's not generally in your nature to be in charge of other people it will take some growing into. Maybe you are finding a new set of skills you haven't used much in the past.



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