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RE: anti-depressants and sexual dysfunction - 8/7/2006 4:18:23 PM   
shahar


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The problem of anti-depressants and difficulty with orgasm is somthing very close to my heart.  er... yeah we'll just say heart.  One of the biggest difficulties is not actually achieving orgasm, but maintaining the state of arousal that inevitably leads to orgasm.  Things will be going great then BAM!  i'm in the real world all of a sudden, and there's no gaining lost ground.  is this similar to what y'all are experienceing or is it the actual completion that is out of reach? 
I've battled my difficulties using breathing techniques that keep me grounded in the moment i'm wanting to maintain and focusing less on the quest for an orgasm, and focusing more on the actual journey.  Expectation can do a lot to hinder the process, and just relaxing and taking things at a slow but relentless pace usually help. 

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RE: anti-depressants and sexual dysfunction - 8/8/2006 9:14:40 PM   
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I have personal experience with this topic.  I am on zoloft,  it has saved my life, made me feel like me 365 days of the year, however when I first went on it I did have zero sex drive.  I spoke with my MD and he suggested wait wait and wait.  Eventually this side effect did wear off and my sex drive returned.

For myself however my depression was made worse with an increase of stress (the bad stress) in my life, since being on zoloft I still need to monitor myself for the signs and symptons of depression.  Even now with sustaned increased stress I find myself having a decreased sex drive, and at times difficulty coming to orgasm.  Hormones, life, sleep or lack there of, just to name a few things can have a huge effect on sex drive the the ultimate outcome desired.

You both are being very adult about it and working together.  With that this small hurdle will be overcome and there will be no looking back

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RE: anti-depressants and sexual dysfunction - 8/10/2006 7:47:35 AM   
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Hi. I'm new here -wave- But anyway...I too take the anti-depressant Paxil on a daily basis, due to anxiety. I have for about three years now. Fortuntly for me, it has not effected my libido in anyway, but I do know it is a very common thing. Lowering dosages or changing meds. altogether could be a frightening thing. (for me it would be anyway), but I do agree about discussing it with the Dr. And too, perhaps it might help if there was extended foreplay? And not just physical. Mental! Way ahead of time before any physical contact. That can work wonders..

Good luck!




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RE: anti-depressants and sexual dysfunction - 8/10/2006 10:37:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: shahar

The problem of anti-depressants and difficulty with orgasm is somthing very close to my heart.  er... yeah we'll just say heart.  One of the biggest difficulties is not actually achieving orgasm, but maintaining the state of arousal that inevitably leads to orgasm.  Things will be going great then BAM!  i'm in the real world all of a sudden, and there's no gaining lost ground.  is this similar to what y'all are experienceing or is it the actual completion that is out of reach? 
I've battled my difficulties using breathing techniques that keep me grounded in the moment i'm wanting to maintain and focusing less on the quest for an orgasm, and focusing more on the actual journey.  Expectation can do a lot to hinder the process, and just relaxing and taking things at a slow but relentless pace usually help. 



This is very interesting because she recently indicated that our last session she was very close. However, and she seemed to have difficulties explaining this to me, she was 'there', but somehow in some abstract way, she was distracting (sorta) herself by thinking (sorta) about it (sorta). (That's the trouble with relating something that is difficult to explain) She KNOWS that she should just *let go*, but seems to fail to do so.

Now, for her it isn't all that important to have an orgasm, and I don't push, trust me, but we're doing research on the orgasm, grabbed a couple of books and exploring several things, like pelvic excersizes and having her 'practice' having orgasms (so to speak). I'm also getting more and more firm about her having to excersize. :)

To say the least, she's a complicated girl, but it's been interesting to watch her eyes go wide at each new discovery I help her reveal. (Okay, call me a botanist that grows subs! lol)


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RE: anti-depressants and sexual dysfunction - 8/13/2006 1:19:10 AM   
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I got postnatal depression with one of my children. For the entire 6 months i was on a SSRI type of anti-depressant, of which prozac is one, i didnt orgasm once. Im the sort of woman who can come walking down the street! This was a shock. My GP told me that depressed people arent supposed to have a sex drive, wanker!
There's a reason most Dr's prescribe for the SSRI group, they are less dangerous if swallowed by the handful. a behaviour common in people with depression!
But there are other groups to try, MOIA's and tricyclic groups have little interference with orgasm ability, but are lethal if OD's are going to be a issue.
I attempted to take viagra, also horny goat weed, also hours of fourplay, nothing got me coming. Until i stopped, and there i was, the horny jack rabbit, again.
It is far more common to find people who are depressed because they have something depressing in their lives, than it is to find the true, brain chemistry affected person who needs the seratonin reuptake sorting chemically, by maintanence anti depressant group of sufferers.
Generally speaking, if your partner has been a alcoholic, that IS a depressant. Maybe if she gave up the depressant found in all forms of alcohol, she wouldnt need the meds?
Minor depression = the mood lifts naturally, when good things occur. This group of depressed people can use other methods other than biochemical to treat their depression.
Moderate depression = do both with combination therapy, then going onto psychological methods only.
Major depression = is fucking rare! and usually means, not eating, not drinking, requiring emergency psych intervention, sometimes as drastic as ECT to reverse it, or the person dies, as their electrolyte sytstem shuts down. And organs fail, one by one.
I would advocate, going to your partners prescriber, and discussing it. Hopefully, they wont be as ignorant as my GP.
Missing out on the intamacy, was the one thing that prevented me, from returning to the anti - depressants when post natal depression hit the second time round for me. I used other methods to overcome it. But it was harder, it took far more effort.
I wish you both well, what you wish to give her, seems such a simple thing, i really really wish you well
little1

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RE: anti-depressants and sexual dysfunction - 8/13/2006 3:50:33 AM   
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Let me offer a practical suggestion that has not been brought up. I had a relationship for a few years with someone on antidepressants and noticed that her secretions were diminished. We always made sure that we used a lotion such as AstroGlide. I think many antidepressants have an effect of decreased vaginal secretions which can lead to sexual dysfunction.

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RE: anti-depressants and sexual dysfunction - 8/13/2006 10:32:07 AM   
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I have been on Wellbutrin for clinical depression for several years and right now am on the maximum dose. My sex drive has certainly not been adversely affected by it at all, in fact I have become multi-orgasmic since my Dom and I have been together.
The issue now is I am beginning to have more down days than up again. I have an appt with my dr and was planning to ask about changing meds to something else that might work better, but after reading this thread I think I will just try to tough it out a while longer.
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