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Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/25/2006 12:57:56 AM   
IronBear


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Status: offline 		This thread is an adjunct to the "How Did You Get Your Title" thread. With the diversity of Titles or forms of Nomnecladure, I'm just curious as to how and when (if you do) you use such titles if you own to one.... I'll state now that I have a love of ritual and protocole and a mindset which is basically Edwardian so I do see things differently to most people and have different values regarding most things especially socially I dare say. I know I'm happier in a setting which is formal rather than one laid back and relaxed..


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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/25/2006 1:03:12 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		When speaking in terms of authority dynamic relationships, I would only use titles between myself and those I was in a specific relationship with in contexts in which we wanted it to be used.

I'm fine using just about any standard honorific in most public and private contexts, and with people using them towards me.  As long as we have a prior established connection.

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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/25/2006 6:04:09 AM   
ArdRi


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Status: offline 		titles? where are we living, aristocratic england? isn't that a little frivalrous?


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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/25/2006 6:05:56 AM   
nephandi


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Status: offline 		i would use titels on pepole where apropritate, and ask for direction as to where they were apropriate.

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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/25/2006 7:50:02 AM   
IronBear


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ArdRi

titles? where are we living, aristocratic england? isn't that a little frivalrous?




Not everybody is certainly, however in places such as a Lodge, the Military and even in the colonies I attend functions where it is correct to use both Military and Hereditary titles. From a Gorean perspective the use of such titles as Master or Mistress is required. There re many peoplewho both love and believe in Form, Format and Protocols. Not for everyone I grant you, but there is no need to scoff at those who do.... Not cricket old boy not cricket..



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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/25/2006 8:26:57 AM   
RavenMuse


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quote:

ORIGINAL: IronBear
I know I'm happier in a setting which is formal rather than one laid back and relaxed..


Doesn't bother me one bit. I am as at home within a formal setting (So long as it doesn't require me to wear a tie... ties are uncomfortable *g*) hob-nobbing with the officer set as I am in a spit-and-sawdust boozer with like-minded grunts.


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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/25/2006 9:19:13 AM   
afeathr


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Status: offline 		I LOVE formality.  I think it's the highest form of grace and class.  Therefore, I call Sir "Sir" even in public (when appropriate) and use his formal name rather than a 'pet name' except in private.  My parents only use their formal names with each other, so I guess it was just ingrained in me from the very beginning.  Now, I tend to use the formal name of any 'nickname' that is given (such as Robert instead of Bob)... I think it is much more appropriate and respectful (as there are many nicknames that I think are downright silly) and quite honestly, I find it rather sexy too.  :)

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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/25/2006 12:25:17 PM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		I tried using Master at the DMV. It didn't work.
Actually, my slave calls me Master. I would feel silly using it in any other situation.

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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/25/2006 4:06:05 PM   
kyraofMists


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ORIGINAL: ArdRi

titles? where are we living, aristocratic england? isn't that a little frivalrous?


From someone whose nic translates to "High King", isn't that a little hypocirtical?

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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/25/2006 8:27:53 PM   
TheShadows


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Status: offline 		Like LA, we only use formal titles with people whom we already have a previous relationship/connection, or someone we respect immensely.  A slave of ours would address us as Master and Mistress at socially/company appropriate times, and always in private.  We're very versatile, but we do prefer a somewhat laid back situation over high protocol.

As always, YMMV...
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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/26/2006 6:58:27 AM   
ArdRi


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Status: offline 		kyraofMists,

Thank You!!! I wondered if anyone would spot the irony of my statement. But alas you just saw it as Hypocritical! Actually Irin Bear, I was just being frivalrous myself. I'm cool with all of this, really. To be honest, its my own ignorance of 'Gorean' that prompts me to ask questions I am not in a position to understand the answers of. Apologies for any misunderstandings!

AR.

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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/26/2006 3:32:49 PM   
kyraofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ArdRi

kyraofMists,

Thank You!!! I wondered if anyone would spot the irony of my statement. But alas you just saw it as Hypocritical! Actually Irin Bear, I was just being frivalrous myself. I'm cool with all of this, really. To be honest, its my own ignorance of 'Gorean' that prompts me to ask questions I am not in a position to understand the answers of. Apologies for any misunderstandings!

AR.


Sometimes sarcasm and irony do not translate very well in print.  No apology is needed, but it is accepted.

Welcome to the boards, by the way.

kyra

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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/26/2006 4:09:44 PM   
Zenar


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Status: offline 		Silly perhaps but I see it much as I see clothing. For example sometimes I like to dress up in a suit and go some where nice like an art gallery or museum. Other times you might catch me in some old stained blue jeans out in the woods tromping throught the mud. It just doesnt feel right wearing blue jeans and a t-shirt at a museum, and it simply just doesnt do a suit much good to go tromping through the mud while wareing it.  Some times I enjoy the formality of it all, then again other times the last thing I want to be called is "Sir" or some thing like that when I am feeling like a wolf in an animalistic mood, the clawing and the biting, and the sniffing and the growling and other good schtuff. Simply put I enjoy diversity in my life, so I enjoy both worlds.

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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/26/2006 4:20:24 PM   
Gallantnimrod


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Status: offline 		As a Juried Master since 1982, I use the title when in appropriate gatherings. However when with a submissive, I prefer to earn the title. In the first meetings, I never require that they even use the title, Sir, unless they do it on their own.
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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/26/2006 8:06:44 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		I've never introduced myself with a title. Like anywhere I go, I simply stick out my hand for a shake and say "Hello, my name is Clint." It seems to work everywhere I go. At a party I may be approached being called Sir or something along those guidlines but I've never told anyone to do that. It just seems to come naturaly.

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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/26/2006 8:18:36 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I am used to being refered to as Maam.  After teaching karate for 4 years, its almost second nature to respond. Some of my boys use that, some dont. I dont stand on formality, however, so I dont get bent out of shape if they DONT use a title. In public, I prefer my real name, if we use direct address at all. I tend to use their pet names. In a scene, Maam or Ms.Alana is prefered. I dont like being called Mistress... it seems so forced sometimes and out of place. And thanks to a very good friend and rather adorable little sub... I have a liking for being called Goddess now.

My 2 cents

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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/26/2006 10:56:47 PM   
mstrj69


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Status: offline 		I do not use my title however others call me sir and Master and I do not reject it or say they are wrong.  If you have earned it others will address you as such, if not they will not and you can not force them to do so.

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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/29/2006 6:14:15 AM   
SirDarkside357


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Status: offline 		Tal IB,

The only time "titles" come into play in the DSF is between a Master and his slaves, or a Master that has proven by his actions to be worthy of such. My slaves only call me Master, and call those I have told them to Sir......unless we are visiting in anothers house that may have other rules, I always honor the Master of the house I visit by following his rules......that maybe why I only visit the homes of those I respect....others, I meet at a nutural place where my slave follows my rules......that being said, respect is always shown to Masters by my slave, unless said master has proven unworthy of such....and my slave had better be sure that I would agree with that or she'll have hell to pay. I'm not sure that is what you were talking about, but that's the way we do it if it was.

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RE: Where and How do You Use Your Title/Nomnecadure? - 7/29/2006 6:58:48 AM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		We don't use titles except that I call him Sir, which is basically a term of endearment to me since he won't let me call him Sweetie or Honey. I call him Daddy in private and either Sir or by his name in public. Master isn't a term we have achieved yet, but hope to in the future.

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