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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/27/2006 2:14:12 PM

popeye1250

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I just redid my profile.
Would anyone in here care to critique it for me?

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/27/2006 4:46:48 PM

Evanesce

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what is the best way for a an Alpha male to present himself to get your attention?
Do you want to know the real guy?
What should a guy not put in and what should he make sure to put in .

The first thing that grabs my attention in a profile is the person's choice of user name. It either intrigues me, or it makes me think the person is all about the booty call. Yours doesn't make a very good first impression, I'm sorry to say. Others will disagree, I'm sure.

What I want to know, with anyone whose profile I review, is who is this person? What are they like? Are we compatible? Do we have enough in common that I can picture myself in various vanilla settings with them? Do they smoke? I don't want to know about how proficient they are (or aren't) in the bedroom. I don't want to know how many slaves they've owned or masters they've had (unless I've specifically asked that question). I do, however, want to know what they're looking for in terms of relationships, play, friendship, or whatever else it may be that they are seeking.

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/27/2006 5:04:01 PM

afeathr

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quote:

I just redid my profile.
Would anyone in here care to critique it for me?

Informative, concise and to the point. Very nicely done, in my eyes. You don't pull any punches and make your needs, wants and desires very clear. :)

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/27/2006 7:33:12 PM

popeye1250

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Afeathr, well thankyou! I tried to include most things I thought a sub would be interested in while trying to give them a good picture of me.

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/27/2006 7:58:19 PM

SexyRed

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want to see: honesty, humor, state of mind, intelligence, declaration of what he wants in a relationship, a photo, even some hot writing sample is good as well.

do not want to see: blurry photos, no profile, long pontificating descriptions of the "lifestyle", anyone who insists on being an insta-Dom, discussions of past subs/loves, anyone that calls themselves a Dominate, bad spelling, a long list of what rules he has.

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/27/2006 8:10:06 PM

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First off, I echo the statements above.

To be honest your nick name is an instant turn-off to me. Overt sexual references in your nickname, or profile, will lead me to believe you are only interested in sex.

Very few women are looking for men who are sexually adolescent, so sexual references, jokes, and comments are not generally attractive. However, if sex is all you want, then state that, and be prepared not to have many women interested. At least you are being honest, and that's commendable.

When a man refers to his sexual abilities I am inclined to read it as boasting or insecurity, so he's likely going to get a pass without a second glance from me. Most women are not impressed with descriptions of what you have done to another woman, or what you will do to them.

Honestly, it doesn't turn many of us on!

I like to know upfront if a man is married, separated or single. I want to know what he does (not how much he makes, but what a person does tells me something about them), and does he have kids. What are his passions?

My point is, I will look at a profile and say to myself, Would I have anything in common with this man, will I like him as a friend, will I enjoy having him in my life, outside the bedroom?

If it seems possible, then I will give him a chance.

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/27/2006 8:21:19 PM

Vancouver_cinful

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

I just redid my profile.
Would anyone in here care to critique it for me?

Not bad at all.

Personally, as I stated above, I don't care for the sexual references, or descriptions of what you will do to me if I am your sub, but otherwise I thought you gave a good picture of your life.

I would caution one thing...When you state in your profile exactly how things WILL BE, then that gives me a feeling that you have already decided what the future will be, and that seems rigid to me, like you have the puzzle all worked out and are looking for the missing piece...which means there is no room for my dreams and goals.

I tend to pass on profiles like that, because I think a future should evolve from the dreams and desires of both partners...even in D/s.

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/27/2006 9:31:03 PM

Evanesce

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I just redid my profile.
Would anyone in here care to critique it for me?

Take out the first sentence in the second paragraph, and it's just fine. That one sentence, however, is probably something that should be discussed at a later date. It's not one of the first things a woman wants to know about you.

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/28/2006 1:00:37 AM

kisshou

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I totally love the shirt, very *hot*

button down shirts are incredibly sexy!

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/28/2006 7:26:29 PM

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< Message edited by LTRsubNW -- 7/28/2006 7:31:21 PM >

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/28/2006 7:30:24 PM

LTRsubNW

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ORIGINAL: Vancouver_cinful

First off, I echo the statements above.

To be honest your nick name is an instant turn-off to me. Overt sexual references in your nickname, or profile, will lead me to believe you are only interested in sex.

Very few women are looking for men who are sexually adolescent, so sexual references, jokes, and comments are not generally attractive. However, if sex is all you want, then state that, and be prepared not to have many women interested. At least you are being honest, and that's commendable.

When a man refers to his sexual abilities I am inclined to read it as boasting or insecurity, so he's likely going to get a pass without a second glance from me. Most women are not impressed with descriptions of what you have done to another woman, or what you will do to them.

Honestly, it doesn't turn many of us on!

I like to know upfront if a man is married, separated or single. I want to know what he does (not how much he makes, but what a person does tells me something about them), and does he have kids. What are his passions?

My point is, I will look at a profile and say to myself, Would I have anything in common with this man, will I like him as a friend, will I enjoy having him in my life, outside the bedroom?

If it seems possible, then I will give him a chance.

Wow!

That was an amazing read.

Thank you.

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/29/2006 7:59:25 AM

gillybean

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My thoughts about the kind of profile i like to see...

1. Don't tick every single box on the check list thing. It's far too overwhelming and doesn't give any real insight into you. Just tick the important stuff.

2. Be yourself and be completely honest about yourself.

3. Say who you are, what you are looking for, what you are offering, and what you seek.

4. Say something (anything!) that makes you stand out. A little colour goes a long way - i'm talking about colouring a picture of yourself as well as using colour to add interest to your profile.

5. Include details of the vanilla you - interest, hobbies, tastes, likes dislikes as well as anything fundimental about yourself which is relevant etc.

6. Give me something to respond to, something i can start a conversation about or respond to if you contact me.

7. If you have a picture make it a nice one, not the stern or staring look (they just look rediculous and mostly look like you're the grumpy sort). And yes, please make it of your face...

8. Don't write how jaded/frustrated/fed up with time wasters you are. Not in your profile and not in your messages. Ok we may share that in common, but it's not what i want to know about you.

9. Attention to detail - a well thought out profile, with spelling checked and words written out in full rather than that awful shorthand text speak etc. If you can't be bothered to make the effort in your profile why would i think you'll make an effort about anything else...

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RE: What do you want to see in a Doms Profile - 7/29/2006 4:20:01 PM

JessieMe

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

No descriptions of your sexual prowess or penis size.

I dunno ... personally penis size would be nice to know ahead of time LOL

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