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SoulMates...? - 12/6/2004 3:37:57 PM   
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A term often seen, mentioned readily but...

Are You one?
Do You want one?
What is a soulmate to You?
Do You think soulmates exist?
Is a soulmate the same as 'The One'?
What happens if You search for one and never find Him/Her?

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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/6/2004 4:20:46 PM   
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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/6/2004 4:30:48 PM   
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Are You one? I believe so

Do You want one? It would be very nice


What is a soulmate to You? Someone who either walks the same path as I do, or a complementary one. Someone who loves me faults and all. Someone who is mature and responsible enough to understand the responsibility a relationship carries and who is comitted to working through the hard times instead of walking away


Do You think soulmates exist? Yes


Is a soulmate the same as 'The One'? They can be, or they can be a dear and close friend


What happens if You search for one and never find Him/Her? Then maybe you were looking in the wrong direction when they arrived, or had a preconceived notion of what they would be like and they didn't fit your perceived ideal, so you missed them.




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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/6/2004 5:17:21 PM   
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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/6/2004 5:20:37 PM   
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I don't know quite what "soulmate" means. I hear it thrown around all the time, but to me it just sounds like a romantic portrayal of compatibility, with some vague, metaphysical overtones thrown in for good measure. When I run to the dictionaries, I get things like "one of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity" or "someone for whom you have a deep affinity."

Without commenting on the metaphysical overtones, I would have to say that I believe in soulmates, I have one, I suppose that means I am one, of course I want the one I have, and we'd be happy to meet more, should there be more out there. It could be the same as "The One," if we're talking about two people who are strongly monogamous by nature. I do think it possible for a poly triad, for example, to consist of three soulmates, even if I've never met three people who were as lucky as that. For someone to find even one soulmate is wonderful and somewhat amazing.

What happens if you don't find one? I guess there's one answer to that for every person who hasn't found one. You live your life, and make of it whatever choice, chance and circumstance allow. I wouldn't be bleak about it, though. Humans, as a species, are as homogenous as we are plentiful, and I think that almost everyone meets at least one or two people in their lives who could be perfect for them. I suspect that only half of the problem is in finding and recognizing such a person, and that the other half is whether both are emotionally ready to appreciate each other. I'm sure that many potential soulmates meet when at least one of the parties is too immature to grasp the value of what they've found. People get so wrapped up in their own little preconceptions that sometimes they can't see love or truth when it's shaking them by the shoulders and screaming in their ear.

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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/6/2004 5:49:49 PM   
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Hi I do not have one, i want one to share my life with, and i think i know who my soulmate is but . . .

it is not to be soooooooooo i wait and seek to find someone who would have the same power over and for me.

I also agree that there may not be one, as one cannot be all to one.



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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/6/2004 6:24:34 PM   
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Before we were born we had the same face, all of us, singing as one. We slip off like drops falling from leaves, to fall alone.

Here in this world, this joke we play on our selves, there are those we find who call an echo of that place up from somewhere deep inside this bag of meat we walk in, who make us feel the time, almost hear the song...

They are not often lovers, sometimes not even friends, really. But we know those who touch us, that ring that note, who smell of home and safety, and they stay with us, even when we and the world move on....


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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/6/2004 10:27:31 PM   
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YES I WANT..
I have had a few relationships where its been "one sided"
but there has to be a proper 'other side" for me.
a Yin for the Yang so to speak.
My problem is that i want it "NOW" and in so doing have not only harmed myself but others whom i felt may have felt the same way.

They do exist. or perhaps we just want them to in seeing them in a one diamentonal way.

We all live in hope and wishes and it is the desire for the future that keeps one going and looking forward. If we do not have the hope we are indeed lost.

So do they exist.. I really hope so. If only for my sanity.

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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/6/2004 11:15:18 PM   
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I think the search for a "soulmate" is actually detrimental to a good relationship. Many people become disillusioned with their "soulmate" when they discover that it actually takes work to keep the relationship going. Obviously this can't be their "soulmate" after all. So they move on. This also applies to "The One". We all know people here who are constantly finding their "One".

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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/6/2004 11:41:06 PM   
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I think many exist for each of us on many different levels.

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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/6/2004 11:52:13 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Estring

I think the search for a "soulmate" is actually detrimental to a good relationship. Many people become disillusioned with their "soulmate" when they discover that it actually takes work to keep the relationship going. Obviously this can't be their "soulmate" after all. So they move on. This also applies to "The One". We all know people here who are constantly finding their "One".


I agree with this. I think that individuals have to realize that even with the -best- partner there will still be things that aren't perfect. If one is always searching for the perfect fit...well, I think you'll spend a lot of time looking and overlook relationships that would work.

I believe that what you want and need in a soul mate changes, and that you can be soul mates with more than one person.

I do think, though, that there are some people which you relate to much differently than most. I prefer "kindred spirits' from Anne of Green Gables.

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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/7/2004 6:55:03 AM   
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Agrees with Estring.

Seems to me folks who are explicitly searching for their soulmate are doomed to fail miserably because the genders define the term differently. Women want a soulmate that understands them; men want a soulmate that will keep quiet and fetch beer during football games. So they are both searching for the impossible.

Back in pioneer days people didn't look for soulmates -- they found someone at a farm that wasn't too far away and made the best of it. But with automobiles, jet planes, and modern communications we now believe there is someone out there somewhere who is perfect for us. If not here, then the next town or next state or next website.

Anyway, I think that whoever invented and popularized the term "soulmate" should be taken out, put against a wall and shot.

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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/7/2004 7:10:11 AM   
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Yes, I believe in soulmates, but I don't think they are something you can go looking for. I also don't believe that they have to be "The One". I have friends who I believe are my soulmates. People who I know I would be incomplete without. They come into your life and you are almost instantly comfortable with them. You are surprised when you realize you haven't known them your whole life. I have my own believes that support how this is possible but I won't share them here. I have someone that I know is "The One". We happened into a realationship and now neather of us really knows how or when it happened. It hasn't always been perfect, but we have come to see in one anouther the perfect match. We each have what the other wanted and needed. If that isn't a soulmate I have no idea what is.

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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/7/2004 9:10:24 AM   
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Women want a soulmate that understands them; men want a soulmate that will keep quiet and fetch beer during football games. So they are both searching for the impossible.


as a woman, this slave must beg to differ.......keeping quiet and fetching beer during football games (or whatever else Master is drinking or watching) is something this slave fervently desires to do, "soulmate" or not. ah, if that was all it took, this slave would have had no trouble at all locating a soulmate.....

this slave has found, in her 20 years of experience being considered an "adult" by our society, that most men have no clue what they "want", and as soon as they get what they "think" they want, they take it for granted and decide to want something else. it is truly a treasure to find a consistent man, who knows what He wants, can communicate it and appreciates it when it belongs to Him.

this slave couldn't care less about being "understood". "accepted" works just fine.

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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/7/2004 9:50:19 AM   
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Are You one? Yes i think i am soulmate.

Do You want one? Yes, i hope i have found my soulmate.

What is a soulmate to You? This is hard for me to answer. i think soulmates mean many different things to many people. I also think you can have more then. My best friend is one one my soul mates. We can finish each others sentences, we have been thought alot of the same life experienes. i always seem to know when she needs to talk and she seems to know when i need her. My sister sub i beleive is one of my soulmates, we share alot, have alot of the same feeling,we are very much alike but yet very very different. Master is also my soulmate .. all of these are very much the same in that there seems to be a connection on some level and yet they are very different.

Do You think soulmates exist? yes

Is a soulmate the same as 'The One'? it can be but just because " the One" is your soul mate doesn't mean that the relationship isn't hard work.

What happens if You search for one and never find Him/Her? then maybe you are looking to hard or haven't dug deep enought inside to find what you truely need and want in a relationship. I have found that you must know and understand yourself before you find " the One' a soulmate, or even a best friend. ( for me) only after i found what i truely needed was i able to open my mind, body and soul to let " the One" in.

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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/7/2004 10:16:27 AM   
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Greetings,

i believe that Lawrence hit it on the mark by blending both arguments in one very articulate point.

#1 - There is no one perfect person out there that is going to make the world shining and rosy for you at all times. Relationships, just like anything else in life, take work - from both parties. That being said, there will of course be certain personalities that blend together more easily.

#2 - A Soulmate doesn't have to be a lover or a friend. A Soulmate embraces all the pain, heartache, grief, joy, love, happiness, etc that is found in life in all possible ways. While you're searching for that one perfect person and dismissing those who you might feel don't merit your attention you pass up the most beautiful expressions of the soul. Every day lends countless opportunities to share your soul with the world. Do you not feel that it's worth sharing?

Well wishes

Postscript ~ Hopefully, i've not misjudged Your intent, Lawrence!

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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/7/2004 1:51:09 PM   
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Are You one? why yes i am

Do You want one? No thank you, i have One.

What is a soulmate to You? He is The Man who knows every aspect of who i am, my core, my heart, my thoughts, my emotions, my movements, and can calculate them even. He knows my next thought, sometimes before i speak it...i have always known who He was, i have always known that one day i would find Him, i always knew that the other piece of my heart was out there. I always knew that my soul was searching..............................and i always knew He was there.

Do You think soulmates exist? of course i do

Is a soulmate the same as 'The One'? No they are not, but i will not limit this to: they could be. It depends on variables.

What happens if You search for one and never find Him/Her? The funny thing about searching is...right when you think that you will never find this/that person....turn around.

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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/8/2004 8:41:06 AM   
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Angel thanks all for responding... its been an eye opener...

I was going to write what Angel thought...(long and boring lol) but it isnt as beautiful or eloquent as TopCat expressed, so I shall remain quiet and silently add a gentle 'hear,hear'...


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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/8/2004 8:47:04 PM   
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yes yes Someone I've been with in a past life yes no If you never find a soulmate that doesnt mean you can't add to your future chances of finding one in the next life...Mike

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RE: SoulMates...? - 12/9/2004 7:26:04 PM   
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This wonderful thread offers a wide view of what many think about a subject many of us hold in our hearts. Yet, it also begs for a little explanation of concepts and ideas. For the term Soul Mates, can mean many things. These can be souls that you have had experiences with in past, parallel or future lifetime (time is not a linear thing though people tend to view it as such.) They can also be aspects of your own soul experiencing existence in a different body at the same time. (Confounding isn’t it?). This is because we are all multidimensional beings, and while you may not realize your soul self can be many places at once it still is. This is primarily because we all emerged from the same source of consciousness creation. Because of this, we can all say that in many ways we are all soul mates of one sort or another. Much like Topcat mentioned in his post.
Soul Mates often come together to work out issues or play reverse roles from those they have experienced elsewhere and else when. Anyone who is in your biological family, adopted family, created family, pseudo-family is a soul mate to you. You may feel closer to certain souls, because you have attracted them into your life as they are on the same frequency as you or because you want to work out issues with them.
Soul mates can also be close friends, co-workers, and a teacher, anyone who influences your life one way or another. They play the emotional, spiritual, physical, and mental games of third dimension with you.
If you can imagine this, then you can also grasp the idea that the quest for your soul mate is the quest for yourself, or the self you were at another time and place. An example would be a man seeking a female partner. The man will seek out someone who looks and acts as if they (the man were a woman) they are seeking a mirror image of themselves, with their feminine nature brought forth. All this means is that your ideal partner is who you are or were when you had that physical body. Hence, we are always seeking ways to experience ourselves.
From the time we are able to desire a partner, most people seek The One, the person who is here to make them feel complete. That person would be a lifetime partner, always there with unconditional love, compassion, understanding, acceptance, and guidance.
The One is here to share your journey, through all of its detours, and to support your decisions as you evolve. When you meet The One, if you are lucky enough to meet that person you do not have to ask, "Is this The One?" You will know.
The One is your soul, divided by the barriers of Time and Space, above and below, feeling naked and alone in material plane. They like you are struggling to find the answers to age-old questions, the same that haunt most of humankind’s civilizations.
The One as your twin flame is your polar opposite, the yin to your yang, the balance aspect of your soul. The One who makes you complete, and waits in higher frequency for soul reunion often guiding your path in the material plane.
The One is linked with many aspects of Love: Spiritual pure consciousness connection, Physical passion, Romantic feeds the heart and fantasies. Emotional understands and fills our many needs, mental growing together, and sharing new choices.
If The One for you is out there and you are BOTH ready you will attract each other by synchronicity there is no other way.
I hope this was not too metaphysical.
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