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Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 12:15:37 PM

SubSpencer27

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After posting my original thread, I have seen few replys and I must say you individuals really must get a thrill out of this. In other words, I was under the impression that female doms would have the odacity to supply me with a face verification picture. Although i must admit m my profile picture was immature, I couldn't dismiss the observation i made while reading your reply. For instance one said that I was thinking with my other head. You are completely missing the point in was trying to make. With this in mind the point I tried to bring up was, we need a better system of oranizing relations. A system that allow users to filter and chat with like minded individuals who want a authentic intimate bdsm relation not a compete power transfer. A argument can be made that girls do not respect me because of my attitude or that all bdsm is complete power transfer. But I beleive that their are a numerous amount of people into bdsm that do not nessesarily enjoy part taking in radical dangerous acts of submission. To summarize, I may have come off as a rude man, but I want to help this community grow and become more appealing to others. With this in mind don't get me wrong, I love the kinky aspect of bdsm but I would rather not have loose ends on a relation and be completely confident with the person iam in a relationship with. Thank you

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 12:22:57 PM

Gunshow

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Spence, keep in mind that you're a new poster on a board full of bitter vets who have seen all of the complaints and gripe threads, and they have some legit if painful insight as to what underlies all of your angst.

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 12:30:28 PM

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The purpose of this article is not to discredit, or undermine anybody. I am not writing this with intention to disrupt anybody's mojo, or current relations. In fact, my sole purpose for doing this is to innovate the community. And again I am very aware i am in fact a "novice" in respect to this community, but I beleive with the write actions taken, proper coordination from mods, members and admins.we can potentially write a new chapter, one that will improve this community (Collar Space), thus bringing forward more loyal users, ideas and genuine experiences.

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 12:54:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SubSpencer27

After posting my original thread, I have seen few replys and I must say you individuals really must get a thrill out of this. In other words, I was under the impression that female doms would have the odacity to supply me with a face verification picture. Although i must admit m my profile picture was immature, I couldn't dismiss the observation i made while reading your reply. For instance one said that I was thinking with my other head. You are completely missing the point in was trying to make. With this in mind the point I tried to bring up was, we need a better system of oranizing relations. A system that allow users to filter and chat with like minded individuals who want a authentic intimate bdsm relation not a compete power transfer. A argument can be made that girls do not respect me because of my attitude or that all bdsm is complete power transfer. But I beleive that their are a numerous amount of people into bdsm that do not nessesarily enjoy part taking in radical dangerous acts of submission. To summarize, I may have come off as a rude man, but I want to help this community grow and become more appealing to others. With this in mind don't get me wrong, I love the kinky aspect of bdsm but I would rather not have loose ends on a relation and be completely confident with the person iam in a relationship with. Thank you

It cannot be done by demand. Like herding cats. Try taking your dick pic down to begin with. It's a moron symbol.

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 12:55:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SubSpencer27

The purpose of this article is not to discredit, or undermine anybody. I am not writing this with intention to disrupt anybody's mojo, or current relations. In fact, my sole purpose for doing this is to innovate the community. And again I am very aware i am in fact a "novice" in respect to this community, but I beleive with the write actions taken, proper coordination from mods, members and admins.we can potentially write a new chapter, one that will improve this community (Collar Space), thus bringing forward more loyal users, ideas and genuine experiences.

In order for any of that to happen, you would first have to have a site owner that was interested in any of this, and some sort of reliable site moderation. Unfortunately that is not the case. Some of the very same members that you have already heard from have attempted to communicate with the site owner about making improvements in the site, even taking over the site, due to the steadily decline that we are witnessing. The owner, for whatever reason, is not interested in changes and or improvements, nor is he interested in turning the site over to others.

What you see is what you get. No amount of discussion with forum members is going to change that.

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 12:57:49 PM

SubSpencer27

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Thank you for that information, I am a firm beleiver that nothing is impossible. With this being said, I will continue my search for improvements and attempt to make contact with a rep.

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 1:00:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SubSpencer27

Thank you for that information, I am a firm beleiver that nothing is impossible. With this being said, I will continue my search for improvements and attempt to make contact with a rep.

Having just read the other thread that prompted this one, let me just say-good luck.

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 1:02:38 PM

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Bro, do u even grammar?

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 1:49:32 PM

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You have several issues. You're 18, and you're acting like a petulant child not getting his live stream porn. Life doesn't work like that, and this is not Fifty Shades of Grey.

Women don't owe you anything if you don't treat them as anything other than wank fodder, and leading with a dick pick, that is against the rules, is just that. If you want to be taken seriously, then try acting it. If my son behaved like you, I'd be ashamed of him. Women, all of us! want to be approached, and spoken to as women first. Respect what is in a woman's profile, and not consider that you are so amazing that she'll wet herself so much she'll slide straight out of her panties onto your cock shot. Seriously, we've all see a cock before, what you've got just ain't all that, and I don't even have to look at it to tell you that. Women are exceptionally cautious, and specifically because we get attacked by boys like you not getting their own way. You use the word Man, but you're not acting like one. It was months before I sent my ex playmate a face pic, and same with him. If you are talking relationship terms, trying thinking person centered, and with all your blood in your brain.

Flip side; once you do that, you also then get to expect that of the women you're talking to, and when they fail to live up to expectation, be a man about it. Block, delete, accept it's a part of life. Adult, and move on instead of being like some in here constantly whinging about it. Because here's something else to note; anyone serious about you will check out your posting history. This doesn't exactly look like a great start.

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 1:55:38 PM

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quote:

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To summarize, I may have come off as a rude man, but I want to help this community grow and become more appealing to others.

Physician, heal thyself!

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 2:14:33 PM

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Let me see if I've got this right...

You joined yesterday. You started a thread because a woman that you don't know wouldn't send you a picture of herself. You started a thread to rant about it.

You now feel that the site should resolve this issue because you feel the site should satisfy your belief that you are entitled to get other people to send you pics just because you ask for them. Basically, if women just do what you want them to, the website will be a better place. Your next intended move will be to start contacting the Mods/Admins with your recommendations about how the site will work, because of your vast experiences.

Is that about the gist of it?

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 3:21:56 PM

Gunshow

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Eh, it almost certainly was not a genuine, in-the-pool woman he was reaching out to. Statistically he is probably right about being catfished or otherwise scammed upon.

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 4:37:55 PM

SubSpencer27

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There wasn't anything in that paragraph that related to anything I was saying. Two months for a face pic, hmm let me ponder on that one for a second... sounds like a gigantic waste of time if you ask me. Not thay you would ask me because you know I'm right.

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 4:39:59 PM

SubSpencer27

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I'm not sure what this exactly means, none the less I appreciate the criticism.

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 4:52:12 PM

SubSpencer27

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Thank you gunshow, I am actually relieved one individual might have comprehend what I was saying. With regards to the bdsm community I could go on for hours constructing new ideas, it seems as if nobody really cares about the future of this activity and that is how things begin to decline. Also I might note aswell, if this website does not innovate it will soon be shutdown because as time passes users will be disinterested.

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 5:38:24 PM

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Im thinking it wont be this community, you see we have no mods, no admin, and few posters.
And that has been the situation for over a year...
The owner is unwell, and we maybe have one admin and, they are volunteers.(this is the scuttlebutt, I dont know for sure)

You would be better pouring all your energy into your own site. hire admin, tech support and moderators, then have a go.

Your ideas probably will already have been suggested because the users have been moaning about the setup of the forum AND the otherside for a few years now.
but you are fighting against the tide if you think any women should give up pics or be subject to abuse like your other thread. its an immediate turn off for anyone with a scintilla of self respect.

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/28/2017 9:39:35 PM

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The majority of the profiles on here are fakes, scammers, or real people who left long ago. Not surprising you get nothing without a "tribute".

We see lots of money whores taking advantage of male desperation.

It's not really going to be productive in finding a healthy partner for the most part.

I just like the forums here.

Try the tng groups on Fetlife Spencer.

Be real, be fun,don't be a dick. You will find friends.

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/29/2017 6:01:06 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SubSpencer27

There wasn't anything in that paragraph that related to anything I was saying. Two months for a face pic, hmm let me ponder on that one for a second... sounds like a gigantic waste of time if you ask me. Not thay you would ask me because you know I'm right.

Yeah, it was ALL relating to what you're saying, it's just that you're 18, and you're coming in here acting like you're the same age as us to tell us all how it really should be. I just told you how you should be doing it, but you've just proved to be too dumb ass to see it, which is why you will fail, and then keep coming back here, or any of the other sites to keep preaching about how women are not giving you what you want right this minute that you asked for it.

You're right, I wouldn't ask you for anything. Jesus Christ, at your age I'd already left home, was about to become self employed, was paying my own way, and had been selling my own work for four years. I'm 45 and been at this game for far longer than you've been alive, and my own son is 5 years older than you.

The fact that you mock that it took me so long to show a face pic shows you know jack shit. That BDSM relationship lasted over six years. So tell me sweetie pie, what's your longest relationship to date?

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/29/2017 2:10:06 PM

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OP - one thing you need to realise is that a lot of women are going to be very leary of sending someone online a face picture of themselves expressing an interest in activities that could be construed as illegal. And if not illegal, at best morally reprehensible..

If I was dominant, I really don't think you would get a photo of me before we physically met. I have way too much to lose in my job to put myself at risk. And yes, I'm sure you are a wonderful fellow, with a great moral compass, but since that can't be know by someone without history..... no picture.......
And if you don't like this - tough mudgies......

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RE: Issues need to be resolved in the community - 3/29/2017 5:11:12 PM

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The only issue I see that needs resolved is that you have an expectation of how people are suppose to act online and people are not following your expectation. Perhaps you need to realize that you can't always get your way. Often people will disagree on what you are entitled to receive from an online stranger. Either you realize you are not the center of the universe or you will spend your whole life upset because others did not meet your personal expectations.

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