PyroJack
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Hello, everyone! PyroJack here.
The nick is because I shot professional fireworks in and around the Chicago suburbs, Wisconsin and NW Indiana for 25 years. Then I just found I was too old, slow and out-of-shape to be shooting things that can blow you up.  During that time, I was also an investment advisor., a job which I loved because I genuinely cared about helping people reach their financial goals, but became very stressful because I was more interested in taking care of my customers than I was making my manager and our CEO rich. Setting off fireworks was a stress-reliever for me. When I quit doing one, I pretty much quit doing the other.
Since then, I've traveled a bit around the country and discovered that what I enjoy most is hanging around with creative people - artists, musicians, fellow writers, painters, singers, potters and such. We have an energy about us that seems to mesh.
I've been told I'm an "incurable romantic" and it's probably true. I'm an inveterate people-watcher, which is why my avocation is writing fiction. *laughs* One of my favorite quotes is by a writer named Anne Lamott: "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should've behaved better."
I can sometimes be found running a local writers group and count a number of published local authors among my friends. However, writing is not a very social activity. There are some days when I close the laptop and say, "ENOUGH!" and go down the street to a bar, a restaurant or a coffee shop and interact with, or just watch people and there are other days when I don't want to be around real peeps and their drama, so I retreat into the world of my own creation, where I can be my main character and do all the things I wish I could do - through him.
I'm happily divorced, a grandfather and much younger than my 62 years. I've been everything from a laborer to taxi driver to stockbroker to laborer again. I work to live - I don't live to work. I also enjoy women that are either young in spirit / heart or are simply younger. I love watching the awesome miracle of nature, pondering the mysteries of the spirit and debating the meanings behind history. I'm active in that I live close to my downtown area and do a lot of walking, especially in warmer months. I also have a variety of interests if you care to look at my profile - though I think that the interests app they use has a lot of flaws. I've always been taught that an "expert" is someone with a briefcase and more than 40 miles from home.
Me? I love good food, good drink and good people. I'm not looking for a fuck, but a friend. Ever since my divorce, it seems I'd been trying to replace the wrong thing in my life and, when I sat down to examine it, I was trying to put the sexual relationship ahead of the friendship. My current problem is that I've not really had time to form friendships, but I'm in the process of changing that and getting involved in my community again - both the BDSM one and the community at large.
I'm a veteran and I do try to help other veterans. I enjoy helping those in need, but they have to want to change what is happening to them and where they are at. Helping someone is not the same as doing everything for them. Far too many getting the help confuse that.
What am I looking for in an ideal submissive? That's an intangible and very hypothetical. If I could describe the perfect physical appearance to attract me, it would be a short, slim Latina, Asian or Pacific Islander with long, thick hair, somewhere between age 40 to 55, between 4' 11" and 5' 4", and no more than 140 lbs. Perfection would be small breasts and a cute heart-shaped butt. I've learned, however, that there is no such thing as perfection. Everyone has flaws, so I look at personalities and give that aspect far more importance.
I've dated short, curvy women; tall amazons; skinny-flat-as-a-board ladies; buxom babes and; intellectual plain-janes (as well as one model). I found all of them to be enjoyable on certain levels and all of them to have faults. Nobody is perfect. Especially not me.
I'm looking for a submissive that is attractive to me and has a personality to compliment my own. That attraction could be long, thick hair; a beautiful smile; an infectious laugh; an intellectual wit or; a demure personality. More than anything, I'm looking for a submissive with patience (and who is a bit of a pain slut! LOL). I've been through a lot in the past 14 years.
I'm on several alternative lifestyle sites, but I've grown disillusioned with many of them, especially after 50 Shades of Bullshit came out. Suddenly, every bored housewife wants to be "dommed" from the moment they meet you on one of these sites. No one wants to let things develop naturally and every sub I've met in the past two years has become frustrated because I won't "jump right in and Dominate them" (i.e., tie them up, whip them and then fuck them). I'm getting a little tired of that game. Come talk to me about your limits, the things that make you wet, the things that scare you.
No, we will NOT jump into the Dominance game, we will go out and date... which means I will take you to dinner or on a walk or meet you for coffee and we will talk about ourselves, our likes, dislikes, worries, expectations, dreams and desires. We will find out if we are compatible; if we LIKE each other and if we can be friends first. Once we get past that, then we may move on to the more kinky stuff. Sometimes it will move slow, sometimes it will move faster, but it will flow naturally.
If that is something you're interested in exploring, send me a note. But, be forewarned: If your profile doesn't have at least a picture in it (or you don't include one in your email) and there is nothing in your profile to start a conversation or let me know a little about you, I probably won't respond immediately... if ever.
Go ahead. You know you want to...
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