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Greta75 -> RE: Rachel Dolezal (4/4/2017 6:29:33 PM)
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ORIGINAL: vincentML
Transgendered Identacle Twin
I'm really concern about things like this.
When my brother was young. Like maybe about 7 to 8 yrs old.
He went through a phase where he always stole my mom's lingerie, dresses, make up, and tries to put them on.
When my mom notice, she started dressing him like a girl for fun and photographing him.
But I am glad we never assume he is meant to be a woman.
As eventually, he grew up a straight man. And likes women.
He definitely changed to a very masculine male.
But during his 7 to 12 yrs old period, you would think he might be turning gay or wanting to be a trans. As he was also crushing on boys.
And as crazy as my mom was in some things, but on the other hand, her stances towards sexuality and sexual orientation are very very open minded for her time. Like even at 13 yr old, she allowed me to bring boys home to sleep over with me in my room. That's how advance she was towards sexuality. She always said, if anything was going on, she prefers it to be under her roof than under the boy's parents roof. The reasoning was, if I slept over at his place, his parents might think I am a slut. But if he crashes over at our place, we just have no judgements about these stuffs. Ironically I think that was one way I was brought up to never be ashamed of enjoying sex.
Probably why instead of freaking out that my brother was stealing her clothes and make up, which most normal Asian moms will literally have a heart attack. She thought it was cute, and starting using him like her barbie doll and dressing him up.
I think the difference is, we didn't make him feel like it was unusual for boys to be into women stuffs. That is another huge difference. Having a sister like me who doesn't like any woman's stuffs at all and is only into boys stuffs, also made him feel it is normal to like opposite gender stuffs better than your own gender stuffs.
I feel that if you make a kid feel that there is something wrong for a male to be into women's stuffs, that will make him think he is meant to be a woman. Because he feels judged while staying a man and being into female stuffs.
IF he feels there is nothing wrong at all. He would stay a man feel no shame about loving women's stuffs.
My gut feeling is most people are "forced" or "pressured" into transgender-ism, because they were made to feel abnormal for being male and being into whatever female things they were into.
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