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Shyamanty -> Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/26/2006 8:23:21 AM)
Hello. This is my situation: in live in a country were this lifestyle is very hard to cultivate (pardon my lousy english, it's been years since I've last wrote something in this language) so it is very unlikely for me to find a mistress. That leaves me with 2 options: move away (wich I can´t) or find a Mistress elsewhere. Is an online Dom/sub relation possible? And how? Or is this simply impossible?

thetammyjo -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/26/2006 8:29:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Shyamanty Hello. This is my situation: in live in a country were this lifestyle is very hard to cultivate (pardon my lousy english, it's been years since I've last wrote something in this language) so it is very unlikely for me to find a mistress. That leaves me with 2 options: move away (wich I can´t) or find a Mistress elsewhere. Is an online Dom/sub relation possible? And how? Or is this simply impossible? Some people have Ds relationships that are only online. I did it once for over a year when I was just starting out -- I got lucky and the young man I had was complerely honest and himself which I discovered when we finally met face-to-face. It just isn't enough for me -- not enough return for the effort. I personally don't want that so when someone writes to me who lives more than a few hours away I always say "I'm in into online or long distance relationships.

MisPandora -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/26/2006 8:35:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Shyamanty Hello. This is my situation: in live in a country were this lifestyle is very hard to cultivate (pardon my lousy english, it's been years since I've last wrote something in this language) so it is very unlikely for me to find a mistress. That leaves me with 2 options: move away (wich I can´t) or find a Mistress elsewhere. Is an online Dom/sub relation possible? And how? Or is this simply impossible? It's not impossible. Be open and honest with what you seek (reality vs. fantasy) and reach out to those who say they seek an online relationship. Please don't target people seeking RT relationships who are not within your means of getting to travelwise or through moving. Doing that sort of thing is disrespectful of other's time and shows you're more interested in what you're after rather than being sensitive to their needs as well.

Shyamanty -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/26/2006 8:47:45 AM)
Thank you the kind and quick answers.

crouchingtigress -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/26/2006 12:31:31 PM)
D-life is as real or as surreal as you wish to make it...imo.. i have had incredible, powerful, humbling experiences on-line but once i moved to r/l it was hard to re-create that on line

MsKatHouston -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/27/2006 7:02:48 AM)
It is possible though it is not nearly as fulfilling (IMO) as real life. Good luck, though. Maybe you will stumble across someone unexpectedly

subdi -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/27/2006 7:18:36 AM)
I am very new here and in a distance relationship with me in Australia and my much loved Dom in the USA. I have been collared for nearly a year now. Whilst it can never be as fulfilling as a r/t relationship it can work so very very well when the right one is found.

coca -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/27/2006 10:45:06 PM)
if you ask this question to yourself how will you answer? will you choose to have a relation in realtime or will you choose it online? i think the right answer is you have to live it , so that you can understand what you like , what you dont. it is better when you are having in rt experience , it helps you to understand yourself.. but , if you dont have ANY chance to live it in real life.. So , everything is again up to you.. You have to answer , will you be satisfied as a sub to be dominated from a long distance? will you feel really that you are giving your owner yourself totaly or serving Her or Him.? everything what you are doing or what you will do has a reason... it is simple : You are choosing what you want! if you want to try the long distance D/s , try it... and try the best what you can... regards coca

Shyamanty -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/28/2006 1:46:28 AM)
Well, up 'till now (my english sucks, I know) all the answers have been useful to get me thinking. I admit I would prefer a real-time, face to face, D/s relation but I'm stuck on this little place, tied with my job and other obligations (is it writen like this? [sm=confused.gif]) and I just can´t pack up and go, leading to if want to be someone's sub/slave it will have to be on-line. Unless I get a HUGE lucky strike, wich I do not think so.. Bottom line, I'm just another mental case...[sm=crop.gif]

totalservant -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/28/2006 5:05:22 AM)
now looking to your profile, I see you are living in portugal, I am sure there are many dommes in Portugal, Spain or France...hey Paris is only a few hrs driving away...So I dont see why your are limiting yourself to just cyber

HarryVanWinkle -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/28/2006 8:13:18 AM)
I just searched and and found thirteen Dominant Women's profiles in Portugal. Have you tried them?

Shyamanty -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/28/2006 8:22:25 AM)
titleAndStar(25,0,0,false,"","") Vanilla [image]http://www.collarchat.com/image/1star.gif[/image] Posts: 25 Joined: 7/8/2005 Status: offline [image]http://www.collarchat.com/image/blank.gif[/image] now looking to your profile, I see you are living in portugal, I am sure there are many dommes in Portugal, Spain or France...hey Paris is only a few hrs driving away...So I dont see why your are limiting yourself to just cyber If it was that simple to find a Domme in Portugal, I would be asking a totally diferent question, believe me (not trying to be disrespectful).. There are people in Portugal on follow BDSM as lifestyle,yes, but it is a very tightly knit circle (hope the phrase is well written!) and incredably hard to get in. If my purpose was to just "get off" once and a while, I would be looking for a pay-Domme, wich is something I do not want. I look for a commitment in a Master-servant bond, in friendship and respect, not market exchange. It's been really great having all this feedback to my post (a dumb one!) but as you can see, I'm on a thight spot! [:o]

MasterWIL -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/28/2006 10:46:51 PM)
A couple of years ago. I would have said something quite negative on this subject. NOW, I can quite honestly say , I have experienced ( am experiencing ) a VERY fulfilling online D/s relationship. I am not saying, it is without it's very real problems - but the person I backed into having the relationship I now have WITH , is priceless in what she brings into my life.

MasterWIL -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/28/2006 10:50:06 PM)
PS....I may be new here, but I can assure all - I am NOT "Vanilla" !

subdi -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (7/29/2006 6:11:48 PM)
You have to answer , will you be satisfied as a sub to be dominated from a long distance? will you feel really that you are giving your owner yourself totaly or serving Her or Him.? everything what you are doing or what you will do has a reason... it is simple : You are choosing what you want! Very true. Once you know within yourself what you need and want you can then try and find it. It also requires mindset for this to work well between you. We found each other by accident, in another group and started chatting. I really can't remember how the topic even came up as we talked about anything and everything. So yes, you can get lucky. *but the person I backed into having the relationship I now have WITH , is priceless in what she brings into my life.* Thank you sir. You know the feeling it totally reciprocated.

Shyamanty -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (8/3/2006 2:15:11 AM)
I've had a luck strike and found myself a (somewhat) Mistress. We've knowned each other for a long time and last week after a party (and to much wine; portuguese, strong good stuff, try it out!) during a LONG talk (and some more wine) at her home things got a litle nasty and we ended up in bed, where I confessed my taste for BDSM. She had never thought on it but got interested and decided she wanted to try it out. RESULT: can´t call her a true Mistress yet, but we are working on each other fast! Already bought a few toys, and we're going for the long road with each other. It really seems somotimes miracles DO happen! [:D]

Sylverdawn -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (8/3/2006 2:27:12 AM)
Congratulations. The joy is in the journey not in the destination and it sounds like your on quite the ride.

PrincessDonna -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (10/28/2006 12:02:11 PM)
I travel the west coast alot and have found that some subs find it erotic,never knowing when the mistress is going to show,and we do alot on web cam.Instructions are still instructions,and punishment is still just that! I have one that changes little things around in the house while I'm gone just to see if I'll notice when I get back that she did it without my permission,still a little insecure that one but shes breaking in well.

submit2one -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (10/28/2006 2:00:26 PM)
Fascinating. A loaf of bread, a jug of wine, and a new toybox and Eureka! Two New BDSM Stars are born! ya, right. s2one quote: ORIGINAL: Shyamanty I've had a luck strike and found myself a (somewhat) Mistress. We've knowned each other for a long time and last week after a party (and to much wine; portuguese, strong good stuff, try it out!) during a LONG talk (and some more wine) at her home things got a litle nasty and we ended up in bed, where I confessed my taste for BDSM. She had never thought on it but got interested and decided she wanted to try it out. RESULT: can´t call her a true Mistress yet, but we are working on each other fast! Already bought a few toys, and we're going for the long road with each other. It really seems somotimes miracles DO happen! [:D]

LadyAlaria -> RE: Is it possible to have a D/s relation by distance? (10/28/2006 3:51:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Shyamanty Is an online Dom/sub relation possible? And how? Or is this simply impossible? Yes it is possible although not the best way to experience a D/s relationship. Nothing compares with being face-to-face in a r/t environment. I am currently in a LDR out of necessity, definitely not by choice. To make it work, there is email, cam, online chats and phone with the possibility of visits. It takes a lot of patience and willingness on both parts to make it work and I wish you the best of luck! Alaria

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