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how do you deal with frustrations when He isnt around? - 7/26/2006 12:30:52 PM   
hisforever


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Status: offline 		Daddy is away with work.  He will not be home this weekend like normal.  I can normally deal with my frustrations until He gets home, and he calms me LOL if you get what I mean here.  I am having a very hard week, and need Him near me so bad.  Sometimes just the feel of his skin calms me down instantly.  I have gotten so angry today over stupid crap, that I punched the wall (it hurt LOL) that didnt even calm me.  This just isnt like me.  Tried meditating, didnt work, tried sleeping, didnt work, anyone got any valume LOL just kidding.  Seriously though, anyone have this happen, how do you deal?
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RE: how do you deal with frustrations when He isnt around? - 7/26/2006 12:42:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm sorry you are having such a rough day.  My Daddy and I just went thru a period of 10 days apart...and I did fall apart just a little bit.  ( My cell phone didnt want to work half the time and I didnt have computer access)  But, the one thing that kept me from going totally insane was doing a few minutes of "Corner Time" each day.....just taking that time to do nothing but think about him and us......and then sending him a journal entry about everything that happened while I was away.  Seperation is hard...but try and keep busy and he'll be back before you know it. 

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RE: how do you deal with frustrations when He isnt around? - 7/26/2006 12:45:14 PM   
hisforever


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Status: offline 		thank you.  At least I know that I am not the only one that goes a little nutty when He isnt around!

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RE: how do you deal with frustrations when He isnt around? - 7/26/2006 1:15:49 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Read the threads on long distance relationships- those people have to cope with being apart for weeks or months at a time.

Some days just suck and you have to get through them by getting through them.  But there are tons of great coping methods to review in older threads and by trying to keep yourself focused.

Then there's always the shame method- remind yourself that you are not a doormat, that you are a strong person and your dom wants a strong independent person who he can be capable of leaving for a few days without having a basket case.  Use this as the opportunity to prove that to be true.

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RE: how do you deal with frustrations when He isnt around? - 7/26/2006 1:44:27 PM   
smilezz


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Status: offline 		I take one day at a time.  Sometimes when it gets really bad, i count seconds, minutes and work up.  Actually taking the time to focus on those few seconds or minutes brings a calming affect...........for me, that is.  I end up sitting there thinking about why i am so pissed, what happened that day, why am i allowing others to make me feel the way i do.   It's not easy having Thorns gone, but knowing what He would want, and what He wants from me helps the focus.

(Oh!  and keep extra spakling on hand for those nasty wall hits)


~smilezz~

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RE: how do you deal with frustrations when He isnt around? - 7/26/2006 4:05:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		I do not live with my Dom yet. I am very accustomed to dealing with these things by myself, although if I am particularly upset I do eat ice cream, usually Ben and Jerry's chocolate chip cookie dough.. and if I am really upset I add whipcream and hot fudge.. hope that helps...smiles (disclaimer, ice cream is not good for every ailment and can cause obesity if used daily)

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RE: how do you deal with frustrations when He isnt around? - 7/26/2006 4:09:42 PM   
myst2


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Status: offline 		Keep yourself busy.  Always worked for me.



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RE: how do you deal with frustrations when He isnt around? - 7/26/2006 4:57:49 PM   
cuddleheart50


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Status: offline 		I know the feeling, I have the same problems!  But working helps me keeps busy and when I'm home in the evenings I do housework, deal with teenagers, run errands...so that keeps my mind busy.

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RE: how do you deal with frustrations when He isnt around? - 7/26/2006 5:06:17 PM   
hisforever


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Status: offline 		LOL Icecream!!!!  I am preggers right now, and am on the eat all you want lose weight diet as always when I am preggers, so that sounds like a good idea to me!!! LOL (I always lose at least 15lbs during pregnancy, who knows why, but I love it!)  Thanks for the laugh there.  I kept myself busy today by visiting with my family, so that helped some.  I just hope I can get back to my normal self tomorrow!  Thanks for the advice and listening to me whine.

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RE: how do you deal with frustrations when He isnt around? - 7/26/2006 7:28:38 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		Well since you are pregnant, then that could be why you are havind the difficulties you are experiencing..rioting,raging,rampant hormones are kicking you about.And though maybe you are calmer when "He" is about..more than likely you would probably feel the same if he were...just try to relax as much as possible, put feet up, spoil yourself,read , write, or when you get really frustrated I always found that ripping a phone book up page by page helps..lol..well at least it did when I was pregnant....be well..Tempting

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RE: how do you deal with frustrations when He isnt around? - 7/26/2006 7:39:06 PM   
hisforever


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Status: offline 		LOL thank you tempting.  Yeah...my day just keeps getting worse.  Saw someone BAD from my past, wanted to punch his lights out...castration came to mind...I think I am just going to go to bed and hope that life is better to me then LOLOL  Thank you all for listening.  This board can be really supportive!!

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RE: how do you deal with frustrations when He isnt around? - 7/26/2006 10:25:37 PM   
SexyRed


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Status: offline 		You can comfort yourself that you have someone to miss....think of those without someone and how frustrating that must be. I always try to think of someone who might have it worse than me.

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RE: how do you deal with frustrations when He isnt around? - 7/27/2006 8:24:04 AM   
LokisBrat


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Status: offline 		I 2nd (or is that 3rd, lol) staying busy.  Loki is gone for months at a time and while we communicate daily, it's very hard for me some days. School is starting back up, so that is my biggest challenge, save the unmentionables....
I deal with frustrations a bit differently when he's not here, because I don't have him to run to with my problems quite so readily. I journal, chat with girlfriends, etc.

Keep your chin up!

Brat


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