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Greta75 -> RE: Why is it so wrong... (5/6/2017 12:05:10 AM)
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ORIGINAL: tamaka
Some people hold onto their issues because they use those issues as one of the foundations of their own self-identity. They hang onto them for dear life because they don't know how to be themself 'without' the issue. They don't want to let go because then they have to shoulder the responsibility of moving on. And they are too cowardly to do so.
This is your perception of it.
But the bigger question is. When you are dealing with people like that, do you want them to get better? And would criticizing them for being unable to let go of their issues help them let go faster? I mean, what is the goal here? To kick a dog when they are down further? Reading his entire journal, he is one big wreck already.
One of the reasons they are seeking help is because they can't let go and are looking for help in doing that. If they can let go by themselves, then no help needed.
I think it's just like motivating someone to lose weight, constantly fat shaming for example may not be the most effective way to help them lose weight. IF it works, great! I say do it!
Dealing with people with mental issues, best leave it to professionals. I think it's too complex for most of us, not living in their shoes, to even comprehend what is the problem and why it is so hard.
He is having a crisis, and I hope he finds the courage to take action to just move to a new environment.
Change of environment can make such a huge difference.
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