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I'm back, didja miss me? - 7/26/2006 3:32:51 PM

kiska

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OK so I was only gone for like a month or so while I was getting settled into the new place and stuff ...

(For those who don't know what I'm talking about, JamesGrim dumped me after a little less than a year of living together.)

But I'm back now! Didja miss me?

Don't answer that, I'm sure you all did ... Terribly so but I'm back now so its ok.

So, anyway ... I really do have a point for posting today!

My new roomate is exploring her switch side after being a submissive for as long as she's been interested in kinky stuff. Which got me to thinking ... Now that I'm totally single and can do whatever makes my little bits feel yummy, maybe I should explore *my own* switchiness ...

Now, before you start shaking your heads ... I've been told by several close friends that I should at least try out being a dominant since I tend to have those dommly tendancies ... I usually just kind of smile and nod at those people.

But ...

When I was 16 I had a 2 year relationship with a submissive guy. It was a great relationship ... Which, could have just been the guy and not neccessarily have anything to do with him being submissive. We didn't ever actually have sex ... We played a lot ... He taught me how to use a flogger on him and he loved candles and being 'forced' to wear my panties and stockings to work under his suit ...

Did I enjoy these things? Most definitely ...

So I guess I'm asking ... How do you get started (exploring your dominant side after being submissive for almost 8 years) and get taken seriously? Is there anything (besides the obvious) that I should NOT do ... Or say ...

Any advice would be appreciated.

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RE: I'm back, didja miss me? - 7/26/2006 3:45:57 PM

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First, change your profile to read switch .

The only one I would worry about being taken seriously by is your partner. You can find submissives, or other switches, that will understand you are at an exploratory stage, and work with you in that regard. You may also want to seek out a mentor to guide you through whatever you're not certain of.

And welcome back.

< Message edited by Level -- 7/26/2006 3:46:50 PM >

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RE: I'm back, didja miss me? - 7/26/2006 3:49:06 PM

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YAY....submissive boys are heaven on earth,....yum!

So just follow your heart, and keep you eyes open. Oh and dont rush anything*grin* yeah right i know, but at least try not to rush...*wink*

Oh and Welcome back too....

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RE: I'm back, didja miss me? - 7/26/2006 3:59:26 PM

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Oh, yes ....Changing my profile might be helpful. LOL

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RE: I'm back, didja miss me? - 7/26/2006 11:54:46 PM

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Well ... I didnt get quite the amount of advice I was hoping for there ... lol

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RE: I'm back, didja miss me? - 7/27/2006 3:18:38 AM

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Try asking on the switch forum as they are likely to be the ones mainly with the shared experience of having done that kind of thing and be able to relate to how they personaly dealt with the issue.

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RE: I'm back, didja miss me? - 7/27/2006 6:21:35 AM

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hey little one, perhaps begin under the guise of simple "play". might take a little pressure off!

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