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My Gender Inclusive Non-Event - 5/11/2017 2:29:08 PM

Kaliko

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I was on a university campus earlier this week and counted myself lucky to have found a little-known, out-of-the-way bathroom down a secret hallway in a small corner of the student union. Lucky, because the line in the ladies' room was nuts.

It was designated a gender inclusive bathroom. Eh, no big deal. I'm not particularly in favor of it all, but I don't really care enough either way about it to come up with a more reasoned opinion. I used it once, then I used it again, then I went in a third time. (Yes, three times. I have a delicate bladder and the building was loaded with coffee shops.)

Anyway, the third time I went in, there was....a man there.

Listen, I'm in my mid-40's. I've never had to pee in the same room as a man. (Unless it was for funsies.) And as I said, my gut instinct is that I don't really care for the whole gender inclusive thing. But still, middle-aged comfort zone be damned, I walked in to the stall like a champ and positioned myself appropriately.

...and then nothing happened. I. Couldn't. Go. And I continued to not be able to go until he left the bathroom.

Plus...ew, boys are gross. I heard him hawk up a wad of - whatever it is you men hawk up - and spit it...somewhere. I resented the images that entered my head as to where he actually put that.

That's all. I don't really have a point. Except to tell a little story about the time I became pee-shy, and to say that, faced with the irreversible marching of time and leaving the comfort of single-sex bathrooms in the past, I just couldn't unclench.

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RE: My Gender Inclusive Non-Event - 5/11/2017 3:28:15 PM

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I would pee in the bushes rather than pee in a stall next to an unknown man. Jesus Christ. I didn't realize that the whole gender neutral bathroom "movement" (sorry for that one) meant all of us in stalls at once. Somehow I thought it meant single-user bathroom, but not designated for any gender.

I think I just became a fucking republican.

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RE: My Gender Inclusive Non-Event - 5/11/2017 5:10:04 PM

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RE: My Gender Inclusive Non-Event - 5/11/2017 8:26:54 PM

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I never even really think about what it's like peeing next to a strange man. With a brother or a spouse, I would be fully comfortable.

And come to think of it, I have never experienced peeing next to a strange man.

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RE: My Gender Inclusive Non-Event - 5/11/2017 9:03:29 PM

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I'm surprised that it hasn't happened more to more people.

My dude was cleaning the bathrooms at work- and a lady came in while he was cleaning them (walking past our "someone is cleaning sign") and pooped in the adjacent stall.

Go big or go home- that's what I say

I've used plenty of unisex bathrooms. Peed in bushes with men at concerts and beerfests (cause those lines are bullshit)
Everyone has to go.

We are an open bathroom door household at home too. Which is maybe weird of us. But when we got the new house with two bathrooms I said "you can be pooping and I can shower and we won't even be in the same room!" And my man just went "aw but I'll miss our conversations..."

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RE: My Gender Inclusive Non-Event - 5/11/2017 11:55:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shiftyw

We are an open bathroom door household at home too. Which is maybe weird of us. But when we got the new house with two bathrooms I said "you can be pooping and I can shower and we won't even be in the same room!" And my man just went "aw but I'll miss our conversations..."

Yeah, no....I've never, ever been the type to share the bathroom. I get antsy if I have company when I brush my teeth, never mind if I have to take a seat for anything.

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RE: My Gender Inclusive Non-Event - 5/11/2017 11:57:18 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

I would pee in the bushes rather than pee in a stall next to an unknown man. Jesus Christ. I didn't realize that the whole gender neutral bathroom "movement" (sorry for that one) meant all of us in stalls at once. Somehow I thought it meant single-user bathroom, but not designated for any gender.

I think I just became a fucking republican.

Yes. It's all very Ally McBeal.

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RE: My Gender Inclusive Non-Event - 5/12/2017 1:47:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: shiftyw
We are an open bathroom door household at home too.

With a spouse, a long term partner, yes to open bathroom policy. I'm very comfortable even taking a pee infront of a guy I am intimate with while he brushes his teeth, or vice versa, he can come in and pee when I am brushing my teeth or showering.

But with strangers. That is very uncomfortable. Just even the thought of a strange man on the cubicle beside me, with just a divider.

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RE: My Gender Inclusive Non-Event - 5/12/2017 1:03:48 PM

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In college, it was pretty common to see one of the male students in the women's bathroom. His room was the end of the row of boys dorm rooms and the men's bathroom was at the other end. We thought nothing of it.

Now 4H had more girls than boys so up at State Fair, in the 4H tent, the mothers used to use the men's room also. We tried to find somebody's younger brother to send in and see if the coast was clear. Didn't want to embarrass a father or trainer or visitor to the fair.

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RE: My Gender Inclusive Non-Event - 5/12/2017 1:34:48 PM

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This became a thing for here in the UK too, and I am very against it. I was in a rather large debate about it on social media where I stated I was very against it, and my reasons why. I was accused of all sorts of things that were absolutely ridiculous, but some people got where I was coming from, and one woman that was very against me actually publicly apologized to me after she'd gone away, come back and re-read the post, thus actually seeing my point.

For my own reasons I feel very vulnerable in bathrooms. I don't want to be in there with strange men. I can't go with men in the room. Jesus, I saw my ex playmate for six years and only ever used his bathroom to pee, and it took years to be able to pee in front of him, and even then it was hit and miss. Nothing else was even going to be on the cards, ever! Someone then mentioned the fact that disabled facilities, which I am able to use, have always been unisex, but I had to point out that these are generally single use, and always totally enclosed rooms, not cubicles in open facilities

They also didn't get the difference between not being bothered by sharing the ladies loos with a transgender female, but being bothered by sharing with men

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RE: My Gender Inclusive Non-Event - 5/12/2017 2:08:46 PM

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In times of yore I often went to a women bathrooms and pissed all over their sinks with my glorious wee, whilst downing a treble drambuie, and screaming at the women folfto suck my cock- and yet it remains un-sucked

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