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WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Zack Synder Daughter Killed Herself (5/25/2017 9:15:55 AM)
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Greta,
Children have brains that are still in the process of "growing," for lack of a better word. They have very little past experiences to balance the now and no real concept of a future. Their entire world exists in the moment and for kids, those moments can seem unbearable and never ending. Their parents, no matter how loving, are outside that bubble of "this moment." For children, their hormones are changing, their bodies, their worlds. Their brain chemistry as well. Children hide their secrets pretty damn good, especially from their parents. At a time when they are feeling as if parents are basically "clueless " and couldn't understand or would stop them from doing what they want.
There comes a time when other children and teachers and coaches become the voices in a child's "bubble that is the moment." Parents have less influence over their children than the child's peers.
Inside this mentality that is centered on the now, with changing hormones, with changing brain chemistry, with no real past experiences to draw from, with no real concept of future - sometimes a child begins to suffocate in the stress of the "now" and being young make terrible choices that seem to them, in the moment, in those dark scary moments of change and loneliness and pain that they hide from especially their parents - the only way out, is to make it all go away.
Greta, even if a parent has failed in some or many ways - the loss of a child is not the time for harsh judgments and finger pointing. It is a time to mourn the loss of a flickering light that is snuffed out too soon.
If there are investigations that lead law enforcement to believe neglect or harm drove a child to suicide, then that becomes a different matter altogether.
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