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Childfree kinksters - 6/2/2017 9:25:55 PM   
NoirMetal


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Status: offline 		Some of us choose to break the mold and never have kids.

Or date people with young children either. But it seems like you still have a much larger percentage of those into kink who have.

Have you ever had issues with these sorts of mismatches?

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/2/2017 10:04:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		When I was looking, my kids were still young. One of my requirements was that my partner have kids and was very involved with them. Did he know who their best friends were, did he coach sports teams, go to parent teacher conferences.

I needed that high amount of compatibility.

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/2/2017 10:07:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Personally for me, I seriously want a kid, but age is catching up on me so maybe only in my dreams I will have a kid. So anybody who is a single father and comes with children is extremely attractive to me. Men that come with children are my number 1 preference!

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/2/2017 10:25:27 PM   
NoirMetal


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Status: offline 		But some people don't want kids in their lives.

Knowing that,what would be the motivation for a woman who had kids to hide that fact initially?

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/2/2017 10:28:56 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Not to get mail from pedophiles who want to train the daughter and mother simultaneously.

If you declare yourself a single mother, you get disgusting mail to that effect.

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/2/2017 11:24:35 PM   
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Not to get mail from pedophiles who want to train the daughter and mother simultaneously.

If you declare yourself a single mother, you get disgusting mail to that effect.

OMG! I cannot even imagine that would happen at all!
Man there are sick folks out there! Another thing that should be criminalized. Just like online sexual grooming is illegal, at least in my country and taken very very seriously, definitely a few years in jail. That is as bad as sexual grooming!

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/2/2017 11:25:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NoirMetal

But some people don't want kids in their lives.

Knowing that,what would be the motivation for a woman who had kids to hide that fact initially?


Women has kids would want a man who can be a good father figure to her kids. Why would she hide that?

Unless she is a fucked up woman who is an irresponsible mother. Then ya know, it's a big character flaw in my opinion for that specific woman. A bad mom.

But if ya talking about advertising she got kids in a kink site? I think it's just inappropriate for mentioning kids in a kink site. Just like most men who are fathers would not mention they are fathers. Until you ask.

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/3/2017 7:22:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		I wouldn't entertain a man with young children now. I've been there, done that, and it's hard work raising someone else's child. I've also raised my own, and now my step-son has children, so at 45 I'm a grandma too. My son is in his 20's with no intention of having any kids of his own any time soon, but I'm all set for Grandma duties rather than helping raise someone else's kids.

My ex playmate didn't have any, and although he socialised with my son he didn't have any parenting responsibilities at all. Although my son still look up to him as a farther figure, and he was an arsehole and hurt my son when we parted company, for which I will never forgive him.

I have had some damn awful mail from some of the man on this site asking me if I have a daughter they could fuck. Baring in mind that I'm only 45, and I have friends with littles that are anywhere from new borns upwards, I think they are fucking sick in the head. Also, what goes through someone's mind to think that as a mother I'd even entertain that thought of pimping out my daughter?

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/3/2017 8:47:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Noir, it sounds awful, I know, but the other ladies are telling the truth. Even I used to get emails back in the day about was I training my daughter to be a Domme and really nasty stuff that some folks associate with that idea. It's disgusting, so I don't blame any woman who doesn't mention her off-spring in her profile.

As to the other part, I think it's perfectly reasonable not to want to date someone with kids if you have chosen not to have any yourself. Heck, I have (grown) kids and I can tell you that I'm not interested in raising other people's.


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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/3/2017 9:05:16 AM   
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Even I used to get emails back in the day about was I training my daughter to be a Domme and really nasty stuff that some folks associate with that idea.

Being a woman without children, these are shocking information. I am shock people are attacking women as parents just because they are into BDSM. Seriously some fucking assholes around.


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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/3/2017 9:22:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins
I have had some damn awful mail from some of the man on this site asking me if I have a daughter they could fuck. Baring in mind that I'm only 45, and I have friends with littles that are anywhere from new borns upwards, I think they are fucking sick in the head. Also, what goes through someone's mind to think that as a mother I'd even entertain that thought of pimping out my daughter?

Needles

It goes on a lot more often than somebody with a belief in the social contract and any sense of morality at all would hope, sadly.

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/3/2017 9:29:30 AM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: Greta75
Being a woman without children, these are shocking information. I am shock people are attacking women as parents just because they are into BDSM. Seriously some fucking assholes around.

Unfortunately, it can and does happen.

I don't know if it happens to the same degree for fathers. Not even sure if I want to know.



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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/3/2017 9:41:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NoirMetal

But some people don't want kids in their lives.

Knowing that,what would be the motivation for a woman who had kids to hide that fact initially?


I have two children myself. There is honestly no way in hell Id advertise that in a profile for the very reason Des pointed out. However I always bring up the fact that I have children with someone if it shows potential for possibly going somewhere. Im not hiding the fact that I have kids to trick you or anyone else.

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/3/2017 9:42:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: WhoreMods


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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins
I have had some damn awful mail from some of the man on this site asking me if I have a daughter they could fuck. Baring in mind that I'm only 45, and I have friends with littles that are anywhere from new borns upwards, I think they are fucking sick in the head. Also, what goes through someone's mind to think that as a mother I'd even entertain that thought of pimping out my daughter?

Needles

It goes on a lot more often than somebody with a belief in the social contract and any sense of morality at all would hope, sadly.



I'm not naive enough to believe that this sickness doesn't happen with women and their own daughters. I have read the horror stories after all. What I don't understand is why any man on a site like this would assume I'd actually be willing to do that, or even entertain the notion is discussing that topic as a line of conversation. I mean surely these things are kept to certain bounds, but these are opening messages! It's not like these guys have been messaging back and forth with me. Ya know, I'm that awkward woman that's only here for the forums, and yet is still supposed to be the instant fetish delivery system regardless of telling them that, but still, you'd think that this shit is something they'd keep hidden for some later date

Needles

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/3/2017 11:41:48 AM   
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But some people don't want kids in their lives.

Knowing that,what would be the motivation for a woman who had kids to hide that fact initially?

I don't hide it, but I also keep my kink/romantic life separate from my personal life. I have no desire to get married anytime soon, so I see no reason to introduce anyone to my son.

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/4/2017 3:47:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		Instead of blaming women for not mentioning having children, why don't the guys who only want to date child free women state that in their profile.

Put it out there along with any limits, medical issues and fetishes. You need this, then it's incumbent on you to state it so women you write will know immediately that you aren't compatible.

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/4/2017 3:53:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		I date the person. Whether she has kids or not is irrelevant to me. Hot 16 year oldes aside

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/4/2017 10:23:58 PM   
CaptR


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ORIGINAL: NoirMetal

Some of us choose to break the mold and never have kids.

Or date people with young children either. But it seems like you still have a much larger percentage of those into kink who have.

Have you ever had issues with these sorts of mismatches?

I don't see why you'd describe it as a "mismatch." Discussion before hand eliminates the possibility of it being one doesn't it? "If the glove don't fit you must uh .. quit" so to speak. Accommodating activities can be a challenge but you go into a relationship with someone who has children knowing that. An informed decision is required at the onset. If you choose to limit your experiences to childless people you may be missing an opportunity for a very enjoyable and rewarding experience.



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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/4/2017 10:58:38 PM   
Greta75


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
Instead of blaming women for not mentioning having children, why don't the guys who only want to date child free women state that in their profile.

Personally, if I don't want someone with children, I'd just ask the person upfront, one of the first questions I ask if they have children? And then tell them straight, you don't date people with children.
Why do people make things so complicated. The things most important to you, just ask upfront.

I ask every man if he is into giving oral. If he says, YES, wrong answer! Move on! Because I don't want a man who loves to give oral.

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RE: Childfree kinksters - 6/6/2017 1:24:55 PM   
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