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Will I ever meet someone from this site?

Yes

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WickedsDesire -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/10/2017 6:24:51 PM)
Not for this thread please R1- but please thread that one :) You will find I will weigh in heavily and on your side and wreck pretty much everyone but you set zero example did any one work out who "I" was? it wasn't a trick question..I am a mere one I will any of you ever get there I wonder. And I totally made bita watch Withnail and I oh and her daughter is 10/10 when i saw her I thought fake - I know :P ask bita not me for I am actually a fuking gent - who knew eh!

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/10/2017 7:46:10 PM)
Want to know why you won't ever meet anybody off this site?

respectmen -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/10/2017 8:14:49 PM)
Over the years when I used to actively seek on here, when I was young and gullible, I met at least 3 women. Probably a couple more...not sure they are from here, fet, or a vanilla site. Anyway, them few I met weren't bad. I'm still friends with one of them but we aren't play partners no more. I think the vast majority of men who seek on this site are wasting their time. If you put in effort of approaching women and try to fancy them, there will be a 99.999 percent chance that you'll get rejected. Regardless if you're polite and not even talk about your sexual desires at all. Women here don't see men as worthy human beings unless they are someone way above average. A man is expected to have way above average intelliegnce, make an way above average profile. Make a way above average email or else he's not good enough. It doesn't matter that women aren't capable of providing these same standards themselves. They don't stop to think about that. Most women on here are unrealistic in what they expect men to be.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/10/2017 8:40:27 PM)
quote: there will be a 99.999 percent chance that you'll get rejected. Well, duh, it may come as a shock to you, but women are allowed their preferences, and you not fitting those preferences is not a fault on their part, it is merely a lack of compatibility. I mean come on man, let's turn it around, OK? Take me I am a very opinionated and demanding person who wants to submit in the bedroom only and to basically have her way outisde of it. How many Doms do you think are lining up for that deal? See that's the thing, because somebody doesn't want what you want does not make them a fake, it just makes them not the person you are after. I found my guy, but if I am 100% honest, he somewhere between a Dom and a service top, but fuck it, it works for us. So stop blaming us for not wanting you. You, like me, are offering something that will appeal to a very, very, very small number of an already small pond. Take heart that even a crazy ass bitch like me could find not one, but two people. It can happen, but to be honest, I found neither of my weirdos online or in "the community", so make of that what you will.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/10/2017 8:42:24 PM)
quote: I found neither of my weirdos online or in "the community" To clarify, one I met in the bar I was working at; and the other I met on the subway. So buck up pal, we weirdos are all over the place, stop limiting yourself.

respectmen -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/11/2017 1:29:50 AM)
Dizzy Firstly, this isn't about me not getting any. I have my small circle of play partners. This is about the attitudes of most women you see on these sites. Whenever the attitudes of women come into question, people always seem to quickly try to deflect the topic back onto the male who raises it to veer away from what the guy is explaining. I never said that women aren't allowed preferences. Even that I don't agree with them. This is not just about your BDSM side being compatible, it's more complex than that. The same problem occurs in any site like vanilla dating sites. You see the same women there day in and day out who would be receiving fuck loads of mail yet remaining dissatisfied. Women are at fault when they keep expecting men to have qualities and standards that these women who demand it don't hold themselves. Collarspace, fet, POF, they are all full of average next door women. There is nothing that makes them stand out or someone who is special over the rest. Yet, they expect a man who stands out from the rest and is something special over the rest. That problem alone is one of the major factors why both genders lose out in these sites. Most women you see on these sites are simply overly self entitled. They think they are entitled to the top 5 percent of men available on a said website when these women haven't got such qualities that match up to it. As you said about how you met your play partners. The best women I have met who have been into kink have been on vanilla sites and had nothing to do with BDSM sites or the BDSM scene. If I was keenly seeking new women to play with in the present, I would be trying places like plenty of fish, not here. As wickedsdesire should do, he should focus most of his searching in sites like POF rather than collarspace. I bet most men would find more luck there than the shit you get in the BDSM scene. Such like OMG you're a do me sub, or " OMG you're topping from the bottom, or OMG you're looking for a fetish delivery system, how dare you!" Women who aren't in the BDSM scene but have a kinky side don't go on with that nonsense.

Greta75 -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/11/2017 2:02:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: respectmen To find a woman on this site who isn't a spoilt purposely dissatisfied bitch who will obsessively fault find men as she is more interested in looking for a reason, any reason, to reject men, rather than appreciating the good things in men, is a very rare find. I think it's just you! So don't come here and be sour grapes and spoil the good experiences of WD of meeting one of the nice ladies here.

respectmen -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/11/2017 2:17:38 AM)
Laughs. If I was the only one that didn't get much luck or only a small group of men didn't get much luck, you would have a point. So how's it like being a purposely dissatisfied cunt? The 10th male who emailed you for the day still isn't good enough? [sm=happy-smiley58.gif]

Greta75 -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/11/2017 2:52:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: respectmen Laughs. If I was the only one that didn't get much luck or only a small group of men didn't get much luck, you would have a point. So how's it like being a purposely dissatisfied cunt? The 10th male who emailed you for the day still isn't good enough? [sm=happy-smiley58.gif] I meet an average of one new online guy IRL a week. Not from here, as there aren't many based in Singapore in here and also, because my kink is too mild, vanilla men still suits me better over all. So you certainly don't see me complaining about it. What I mean is, I know CS will be a more difficult place for me to meet men who matches me sexually as almost every dominant is too extreme on their kinks for me and I am too limited in my kinks for them. But you never hear me complain about dominants on here being too extreme for me. I simply find vanilla men and teach them bdsm. It was how I met my perfect match. Everyone here was expressing happiness for WD. And you are the only one being sour grapes here about WD meeting. Can't have anything positive to say when another man have a good experience ?

BitaTruble -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/11/2017 8:29:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire And I totally made bita watch Withnail and I oh and her daughter is 10/10 when i saw her I thought fake - I know :P ask bita not me for I am actually a fuking gent - who knew eh! Withnail and I was sardonic, irreverent and inappropriate..everything one could ask for from a BritCom..made me chuckle. :D Well, as far as my daughter...there were many fools here who thought she was fake and they all missed out because her and her new boyfriend are clicking in major fashion and this one has possibilities. Even the cats like him and Gemma doesn't like anyone! ;) And Wicked, you were a gentleman while I as there..but I don't know if it's a permanent state... it might have been temporary insanity. Are you always so sweet? I think yes or your family would not come over and visit you so often. Your mum is very sweet and delicate, you and your Uncle have a great sense of humor in common and your sister..one word for her..Angel. Your cat did spray on my suitcase which is a sign of ownership and quite rude to take ownership of a bag you just met but, you know..cats. My eyes got hammered on this trip but I am in recovery from the high salt, high sugar diet ( do you folks not understand the concept of a salad over there?) and my own lack of hydration. (I lost count of how much fake coffee we drank but I think I went over my maximum monthly allotment in a single weekend and you drank more than I did. ) oh, about the coffee..you get over to my side of the pond and you will get "real coffee" made with fresh ground beans and perked in an actual coffee pot. It will take a moment longer but it will be worth it. I had a really good time but, dear, your coffee is swill however..any coffee pot in a storm! :D Ok..I am doing research and laundry so that's it for now. I may pop over to New York for a quick minute (haven't seen Wicked on Broadway and I really enjoyed the book) but my next big trip is either Transylvania with a day trip train ride to Greece or one of the Disney's in Asia land. I am leaning heavily towards Romania right now but nothing set in stone... not sure yet whether I want to cross the Atlantic or the Pacific but the best time for either crossing looks to be Octoberish which gives me time to visit some of the states still on my list. I think I have 8 left including Alaska. Maine Kentucky Tennessee Alabama Vermont Virgina Alaska Maryland I have been to NH and RI but those were to attend a funeral so not visited like normal. I may go back and visit those properly one day but they will be the last if at all. Australia requires too many hoops and other countries don't require any hoops and on a trip..I don't want to have to jump that much..bad knees. Ok..ta!

asub2b4u -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/11/2017 8:53:30 AM)
for me YES I have met people in real life from this site did I find my ever forever Master - NO however I have met people here who enriched me in some way while my journey yet continues

WickedsDesire -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/12/2017 6:36:36 PM)
Do tell us all illiterate lying fuk –Are you not a second hand reject from fetlife crawling onto to these forums for attention. And how are those forums these days? You and your ilk and team titty grabber, and anyone else who enables that shittery mess should be fuking ashamed.

WickedsDesire -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/12/2017 6:39:43 PM)
Met people from here (For Christ sake initially) - not know people from here, there is a vast difference

camille65 -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/12/2017 8:36:12 PM)
FR As just friends (since I'm collared) I've met six people off this particular site, I had fun meeting all of them. Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if I were seeking a relationship, I can't imagine that's an easy thing to do for most people. Going off just myself and my own POV, I'm shy. I feel socially awkward although I'm told that doesn't show. I'm leery about that whole um...first date inspection thing. I can see getting along swimmingly via chatting online or on the phone but then the connection just not working in person. For some reason that seems like a risk I just don't want to take, maybe risk isn't the right word but its hard for me to open up then have everything shut down due to in person chemistry. Sure it may look simpler because you can scrutinize written lists of likes/dislikes but I think when you do that you end up with a sort of not quite true impression of them. People are so much more than sexual interests or needs. Basic things like hygiene or table manners can't be seen online. The short version of my rambling is that if I were seeking someone other than a friend, I'd seek in person. For me I think it would work better.

longwayhome -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/13/2017 12:57:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: camille65 The short version of my rambling is that if I were seeking someone other than a friend, I'd seek in person. For me I think it would work better. I tend to agree with that statement and share some of your thoughts about chemistry. Specifically your statement that "people are so much more than sexual interests or needs" chimes with me. I don't even list likes and dislikes, partly because as a sub it seems a bit "do me" but also because theoretical sexual compatibility without getting on with someone seems a bit pointless. I've therefore never "looked" for anyone on CS or sought anything other than online interaction. Having said that, as you suggest, if you concentrate on the positive, you can certainly make connections with people here and learn from people willing to contribute and share, like BitaTruble. From that point of view I'm glad that she and WD had a positive experience meeting with each other recently.

Greta75 -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/13/2017 3:28:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: longwayhome also because theoretical sexual compatibility without getting on with someone seems a bit pointless. I've therefore never "looked" for anyone on CS or sought anything other than online interaction. Sexual compatibility without getting on with someone, means FwB! Getting on with someone without sexual compatibility means Friendzone Dude who is gonna be like a good friend but nothing sexual and totally platonic. Both are useful. I have not met a man that fulfills both arenas yet. If he is great to get along with, he usually isn't great in bed, not that he isn't good in bed, but just not compatible with me. If he is god in bed, he usually isn't great to get along with, I find that the most passionate men in bed are also as passionate with their tempers outside of bed, and we would clash outside of sex all the time, although the fucking is great! Never met one who fits both worlds. So gotta have male platonic BFFs and male lovers for sex only. Considering I married my BFF, which was my x-husband. Perfect everything outside of bedroom, but the end result is living like brothers and sisters with no desire for sex with each other. Infact, I practically chose him because I am BFF with my real brothers by blood and my relationship with him reminded me of how it's like with my brothers. I could hang out with my brothers 24/7, I mean we grew up sharing one room and doing everything together and not get sick of each others company, always united and have each other's back. It was the model relationship I used to search for what I wanted in my marriage, but then it got too platonic.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/13/2017 10:24:54 AM)
~FR~ I'm currently looking for play dates to live out some of my more extreme fantasies that Ullr has no interest in. In less than a week, I've got 2 dates lined up, and several other good leads. Now you might be saying: "Yeah that's all good and well for you Ishtar, cause you're a pretty girl. Of course, you're getting dates..." But, then you'd be forgetting that the guys I'm meeting also have dates now. People do meet on this site. Seriously.

heavyblinker -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/13/2017 4:25:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar ~FR~ I'm currently looking for play dates to live out some of my more extreme fantasies that Ullr has no interest in. It makes sense to me that if you're not 'conventionally' attractive for whatever reason that one strategy is to go for niche appeal. Willingness to debase oneself in unusual ways probably fits into that category.

UllrsIshtar -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/13/2017 4:48:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: heavyblinker quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar ~FR~ I'm currently looking for play dates to live out some of my more extreme fantasies that Ullr has no interest in. It makes sense to me that if you're not 'conventionally' attractive for whatever reason that one strategy is to go for niche appeal. Willingness to debase oneself in unusual ways probably fits into that category. I suppose... except there's not a person on this site who has ever claimed that I'm not 'conventionally' attractive, especially not the ones who've met me in person. Usually everybody claims quite the opposite actually. But you're still making a good point though... both guys I'm meeting with aren't what anybody would consider 'conventionally' attractive. In fact, one of them is quite overweight... like 350lbs+. By 'convention' he should never every be able to land a woman who looks like me... let alone get her to totally be swoony over him, and so excited about meeting that the meeting has been moved up twice. However, what he, and the other guy have, is something that sets them apart from other guys: a willingness to engage in types of kink that are rather rare to find, and hard to pull off. Because he's going for a niche appeal, he's actually increased his chances in finding somebody, because in his niche, he on top of the game. Edited to add: I just realized that you probably were assuming that the guys were going to debase themselves, and I was going to Top. It makes sense that you'd assume that considering that my forum profile currently has me set as "Dominant". However, that's not the case... I'm the one who will be debasing myself. In some very sick and perverted ways even if everything goes right. [:D] Either way, my above remarks still stand.

heavyblinker -> RE: Will I ever meet someone from this site? (7/13/2017 5:00:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar quote: ORIGINAL: heavyblinker quote: ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar ~FR~ I'm currently looking for play dates to live out some of my more extreme fantasies that Ullr has no interest in. It makes sense to me that if you're not 'conventionally' attractive for whatever reason that one strategy is to go for niche appeal. Willingness to debase oneself in unusual ways probably fits into that category. I suppose... except there's not a person on this site who has ever claimed that I'm not 'conventionally' attractive, especially not the ones who've met me in person. Usually everybody claims quite the opposite actually. But you're still making a good point though... both guys I'm meeting with aren't what anybody would consider 'conventionally' attractive. In fact, one of them is quite overweight... like 350lbs+. By 'convention' he should never every be able to land a woman who looks like me... let alone get her to totally be swoony over him, and so excited about meeting that the meeting has been moved up twice. However, what he, and the other guy have, is something that sets them apart from other guys: a willingness to engage in types of kink that are rather rare to find, and hard to pull off. Because he's going for a niche appeal, he's actually increased his chances in finding somebody, because in his niche, he on top of the game. I definitely didn't mean to imply you weren't attractive. I had been reading RM's drivel about women being demanding and so was mostly talking about men... but I guess that wasn't clear. I'm sure you're very beautiful.[;)]

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