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lockerinform -> The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 3:01:52 PM)

I find it interesting that many women, vanilla, kinky, whatever, seem to desire a "tall" man.

Sometimes they even name a height. (by the way, I am 5'10" and male, and could not care less if I am considered "tall" or "short").

These same women seem to leave out details about themselves.....such as height, weight, bust, waist, hips.

Sure, we'd all want to be liked more for who we are than for what we look like.  But I read something interesting......a man once wrote,

"A man admiring a woman's body can be said to be admiring her intelligence, good taste, and strength of charachter".

Maybe there is some truth to that?

Maybe the opposite is true?  That sometimes a sloppy body does not hide a heart of gold, but hides a weak willed, sloppy, insecure, lazy disgusting person?  Maybe sometimes "BBW" means "Fat, lazy and snotty about being fat and lazy"?  Maybe just sometimes?

Maybe, just maybe, it isn't a crime to be just as interested in
a woman's body as you are in her mind and personality?

But, no........that wouldn't be "politically correct".    I am a man, so it is okay to weed me out according to height.  But if I want big tits and a slim waist, I am a sexist pig.........




missturbation -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 3:19:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: lockerinform

I find it interesting that many women, vanilla, kinky, whatever, seem to desire a "tall" man.
It's the tall, dark and handsome thing.

Sometimes they even name a height. (by the way, I am 5'10" and male, and could not care less if I am considered "tall" or "short").
I think you do care otherwise u wudn't have stated your height.

These same women seem to leave out details about themselves.....such as height, weight, bust, waist, hips.
They do?

Sure, we'd all want to be liked more for who we are than for what we look like.  But I read something interesting......a man once wrote,

"A man admiring a woman's body can be said to be admiring her intelligence, good taste, and strength of charachter".

Maybe there is some truth to that?
Of course there is some truth in that, if she looks good and dresses well she of course has good taste and intelligence. Strength of character from how you look - looks can be decieving.

Maybe the opposite is true?  That sometimes a sloppy body does not hide a heart of gold, but hides a weak willed, sloppy, insecure, lazy disgusting person?  Maybe sometimes "BBW" means "Fat, lazy and snotty about being fat and lazy"?  Maybe just sometimes?
Again probably true in some cases but cant judge a book by its cover.

Maybe, just maybe, it isn't a crime to be just as interested in
a woman's body as you are in her mind and personality?
It's certainly not - my Sirs looks attracted me to him primarily.

But, no........that wouldn't be "politically correct".    I am a man, so it is okay to weed me out according to height.  But if I want big tits and a slim waist, I am a sexist pig.........
Women have been judged on how they look for far too long. Men judged on their characters. Maybe its good for a little role reversal, see how you guys like it?





LaTigresse -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 4:02:12 PM)

Wellllllllll, this would be good in theory but truth be known I have been romantically attached to 3 men in my life and none were the classic tall dark and handsome. The first was a scrawny hippy (I was 15 for gods sake!! thought he was every so COOOOOL and exciting...........I was sooo wrong) The second a double amputee and had a really large and frightening looking scar on his temple, also balding and with a belly. The third only an inch taller than my 5'6" thought he will argue to the death he is 5'8", not classically handsome but a very very good human being. I on the other hand used to be a pretty hot tamale, at least that is what I was told,  I never saw it. In my eyes I have always seen the geeky kid that everyone made fun of in school, I am still a geek, just not a school kid by far.
There are beautiful people that soon get very ugly when you get to know them and there are not so beautiful people that soon get gorgeous the better you get to know them. The outside stuff either fades or get horribly disfigured by plastic surgery, I think that I prefer to find the inner beauty and whatever is on the outside is a bonus.
Example: I have never seen what benji looks like but if I were younger, straight and had my shit together I would be after his ass so fast it would make his angelic little yellow head spin.



stockingluvr54 -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 5:17:15 PM)

Yuppers! just another case of  "To each...his own".......



peterK50 -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 5:43:36 PM)

I'm 6' 5", it's just me & the crickets around here each & every night.



LadyJulieAnn -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 6:29:04 PM)

So, are you telling us that you are emailing women with big tits and slim waists and getting turned down because of your height?

Be well,
Julie



lockerinform -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 6:31:06 PM)

Thank you for a thoughtful response.  Your saying "It's the Tall Dark and Handsome thing" does not trouble me.  I feel that both sexes are entitled to their irrational physical attractions.
Would it trouble most women if a man said "It's the blonde bombshell thing"?  I think perhaps yes.

As for my caring whether or not I am considered "short" or "tall", I was completely honest---- I really don't.  I stated my height, not because I care, but because I anticipated getting flamed for my post; I expected insecure Ad Hominem attacks.  When people cannot really refute the idea, they love to try to change the subject to the speaker himself instead, which is irrelevant.

As for women being judged by their looks for far too long, and it being time for a little role reversal.....Dr. Warren Farrel used to be a chairman of NOW, a prominant feminist organization.  As part of a symposium he participated in, he arranged for there to be a "beauty show"----  ordinary men were to come up on stage, scantily clad, and be judged occording to their looks. The feminists hooted with glee, and relished making this an unpleasant experience for the male
"beauty contestants".  Following this, Farrel had arranged for their to be a series of vignettes---role reversal play acting, in which women had to take the initiative in approaching men through the many stages that lead from acquaintance to sex, the point being to demonstrate what it feels like to be suspected, rejected, insulted, etc--- all the things men experience that women are unaware of.
The feminists refused to participate, and walked out.

In don't believe that all these "strong women" who define themselves as feminists are at all interested in "equality".  They are interested in grabbing whatever they can coerce society and politics into giving them.  They have no interest whatsoever in the male experience of being made a victim by culture.

But I think my main point was that women ARE superficial, they're simply hypocritical about it.  And not very logically, at that.  Suppose I wanted a woman with big breasts, so her breasts would be bigger than my hands.....and I then went around wearing big, bulky, uncomfortable gloves to make my hands look bigger?  A bit absurd, no?  Yet women climb up on high heels, then bitch that the useless things hurt their feet.



lockerinform -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 6:36:02 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyJulieAnn

So, are you telling us that you are emailing women with big tits and slim waists and getting turned down because of your height?

Be well,
Julie



No, but I expected people to assume that.  It was simply the best analogy I could come up with.



BillsGalSusan -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 6:48:27 PM)

I'm a shade under five feet tall, and always preferred tall men (Bill is 6'2"). I think a big part of my preference was just loving that feeling of being small and easily overwhelmed. When I was in a relationship (yup, the first and only with tall Bill) in which my submissiveness "clicked" in response to his dominance, that feeling of being small was no longer related to the difference in our size, but, he was indeed 14 inches taller and 100 pounds heaver than me anyway ;).

I'm not saying that is by any means a universal experience, but it was true for me.

Another Susan



stockingluvr54 -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 6:48:51 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: peterK50

I'm 6' 5", it's just me & the crickets around here each & every night.


LOL!   pretty quiet around here too....but then again....I'm just a sawed off little bastard at 5'8" (and that might be stretching it)....




mstrjx -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 6:55:53 PM)

<sigh>

I'm not one much to do this, but here goes nothing.

By my reckoning, at the time of this writing you've made 4 posts, 3 of them in this thread, and all of the ones in this thread insulting in some form or another.

God, I hate being a man sometimes.

Best of luck to you.  You'll fit in well here ...... for about 3 days.

Jeff



gooddogbenji -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 7:04:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Example: I have never seen what benji looks like but if I were younger, straight and had my shit together I would be after his ass so fast it would make his angelic little yellow head spin.



Just looking at your pic makes my angelic BIG RED head spin, LaTigresse!  LOL

Yours,


benji



stockingluvr54 -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 7:06:49 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

<sigh>


By my reckoning, at the time of this writing you've made 4 posts, 3 of them in this thread, and all of the ones in this thread insulting in some form or another.



Your reckoning is off..... I meant no offense to you or anyone here at CM



gooddogbenji -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 7:09:43 PM)

(not yours, stocking, whatsisnames, the OP....)

Yours,


benji



stockingluvr54 -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 7:14:47 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

(not yours, stocking, whatsisnames, the OP....)

Yours,


benji


You sure? I kind of thought he took a shot at me?  I can be a smartass too and sometimes folks just take me wrong. Anyways...hope you're right on that and thanks!



gooddogbenji -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 7:23:08 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

By my reckoning, at the time of this writing you've made 4 posts, 3 of them in this thread



You've made more than 4 posts, and less than three in this thread.  You're in the clear.

Yours,


benji



scottjk -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 8:37:58 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

<sigh>

I'm not one much to do this, but here goes nothing.

By my reckoning, at the time of this writing you've made 4 posts, 3 of them in this thread, and all of the ones in this thread insulting in some form or another.

God, I hate being a man sometimes.

Best of luck to you.  You'll fit in well here ...... for about 3 days.

Jeff


Hate to break this to you, Jeff, but pointing out hypocrisy tends to be insulting to those that practice it. I find the postings insightful and thought provoking. While I'm not guilt free, I'm far from insulted, but made a little wiser.



fullofgrace -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 8:47:38 PM)

yes, because clearly every overweight woman HAS to be lazy, disgusting, and unhappy with herself. fuck you and the horse you rode in on :) i wouldn't necessarily say i have a heart of gold (damn, that'd be heavy), but neither am i lazy, weak-willed, unhappy with myself, or any of the things that you put out :) (by the way, i am a 36-nearly-e cup and i have a relatively slim waistline, compared to my bust and hips :) )

that said, i tend to find tall, heavily built men more attractive because i like to be dwarfed (i am 5'3" and i have always wanted to be shorter). however, i've been in serious relationships with men who were 6'4" and very thin, 5'10" and very thin, and now (and hopefully lastly), 5'8" and pretty thin. just because i find one body type more attractive than another doesn't necessarily mean that men who aren't of that body type aren't attractive, or that i would only date or contact men of that body type (as it seems, every serious relationship i've been in has been with men who do NOT fit that body type). anyone who knows anything about relationships or has been in one that even wades very far below surface-level knows that looks have very little to do with anything.

and this goes both ways, though i tend to find it more offensive when people discriminate based on weight more than anything else - that's just me personally. regardless, ANY sort of laundry list of qualities really ticks me off. "you must be 5'3", under 120 lbs, d cup bra" is just as bad as "you must be 6'4", body-builder." the point is that neither takes into account what kind of romantic match the person is. it really screams "i'm just looking for a trophy partner" to me when i see things that specify preferred weight, height, and cup size.



Noah -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 9:10:44 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: lockerinform

I find it interesting that many women, vanilla, kinky, whatever, seem to desire a "tall" man.

Sometimes they even name a height. (by the way, I am 5'10" and male, and could not care less if I am considered "tall" or "short").

These same women seem to leave out details about themselves.....such as height, weight, bust, waist, hips.

Sure, we'd all want to be liked more for who we are than for what we look like.  But I read something interesting......a man once wrote,

"A man admiring a woman's body can be said to be admiring her intelligence, good taste, and strength of charachter".

Maybe there is some truth to that?

Maybe the opposite is true?  That sometimes a sloppy body does not hide a heart of gold, but hides a weak willed, sloppy, insecure, lazy disgusting person?  Maybe sometimes "BBW" means "Fat, lazy and snotty about being fat and lazy"?  Maybe just sometimes?

Maybe, just maybe, it isn't a crime to be just as interested in
a woman's body as you are in her mind and personality?

But, no........that wouldn't be "politically correct".    I am a man, so it is okay to weed me out according to height.  But if I want big tits and a slim waist, I am a sexist pig.........




Poor, poor you.

But honestly I'm not sure it is either your political incorrectness or the mediocrity of your height that is turning them away in droves. Nope. Actually I think it may have to do with the fact that you are such a fucking whiner.



Has anyone seen any interesting threads on here tonight?





SexyRed -> RE: The silence is deafening (7/28/2006 9:26:22 PM)

To the OP: I guess people having PREFERENCES disturbs you. Too bad for you. I find it fascinating that most often, when you are rejected by someone, that is when you take aim at them. In your case, I suppose you are upset that ALL women have rejected you, therefore you are trying to to be provocative, but you are only succeeding in being BORING.



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