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GoddessDustyGold -> RE: getting started (7/29/2006 1:34:28 AM)
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I looked at your profile and there is absolutely nothing outstanding about it. In fact, it can be rather offputting for some Dominas who do browse profiles and initiate correspondence. Just an FYI to you that I don't and I know of many others who do not look at profiles until they receive an email. This has nothing to do with your age, and everything to do with a complete lack of information.
So let Me throw a few questions your way as some food for thought.
What do you mean by training and service? This is very vague, pretty subjective, and one of the most common errors we see. What does it mean to you?
Do you write to Dominas? If so, what do you say? Are you equally as vague in an email introduction? How much commitment are you willing to offer? That kind of takes us back to the "service and training thing". Do you seek an ongoing relationship, or are you simply seeking to expand your sexual horizons? You say if you could find a Domme of your own, she would be very happy. Why would she be happy? What do you offer?
In most instances, when we read something like this, or get this in an email, what it really translates into (in many of our minds) is "I am a guy looking for a date, and a Dominant Lady is my thing. Since you are Dominant, I am assuming that you are available to use me for strap-on training, cross dressing and the oral pleasures you will train me to provide. I will make you very happy because I want to do this for you, and this is what all FemDoms want."
In addition, you state in your very brief profile that you work, but you are willing to trade free time for this training and service.
The other item that would quickly catch My eye is your user name of "golfguy". If I was to consider becoming your Mistress, where would I fall on the priority list? I am already aware I come after work, but I suspect I would come after the 18 holes have been played, also.
Basically, I am trying to let you know that you are very vague in your profile information, and I suspect you are the same in your emails.
Could be wrong! That is always a possibility too!
golfguy, you made a couple of posts in April, and now you are asking for help about getting started. The best thing you can do is spend time at these message boards every day, reading and learning. It is the fastest way to get into the heads of lifestyle FemDoms, and figure out where you, yourself, fit in.
If you have already been doing that, and you haven't figured out what it is that impresses us, then I can't offer anything further.
Welcome to the boards, and I hope you stick around!
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