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femdom/couples - 7/29/2006 8:58:37 PM

MistresSplash

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I am new yet I have had a slave and have mentored a slave on line. Have a new boyfriend just told him I am a mistress we are thinking of moving in together. He was excited about the hole thing. Would like for me to find a sub/slave to live with us. He knows he will have to listen to me and do as I say, he also would like to tell slave what he wants or what to do. He is my equal outside with family and friends. My concern is I am not sure if he will be able to handle me comanding him and his every move. So the question is in a femdom relationship do I treat him like slave or as equal he will never comand over me.

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RE: femdom/couples - 7/29/2006 10:17:47 PM

MissAbby

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If I am reading Your post correctly, there are three things going on: You are thinking of moving in with Your boyfriend, Your boyfriend wishes to explore his submissive side with You, and Y/you both would like to O/own another live-in submissive.

My advice is to take it slowly with Your current boyfriend to even discover if he likes the lifestyle at all.

I don't believe You should introduce a third person until You are stable with the expectations of Your current relationship. I would recommend putting the search for the live-in submissive on hold until Y/you were comfortable with Y/your new roles.

Also I would explore the BDSM roles with Your boyfriend before living together. This way if he doesn't like the lifestyle and it is something that You want in Your relationship, then You don't have the added stress of living with someone who is not compatible with You in the longterm. Of course, if he doesn't like being submissive to You, then Y/you could also explore BDSM as a Dominant couple. Again, it seems best to negotiate this before living together and before adding a third person to the mix.

Best of luck to You.

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RE: femdom/couples - 7/29/2006 11:33:37 PM

MissdeSade

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Also, be weary of anyone who wants to invite a third in when you are still new. I have run across many people who think the lifestyle means crazy kinky open sex with everyone all the time, and generally they are pretty far off. Most D/S relationships are far more complicated (and I think satisfying) than just sex. Work on you two first, then move on if it is right.

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RE: femdom/couples - 7/30/2006 2:52:04 PM

CuteIrishM4F

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MissAbby and MissdeSade make perfect sense. Slow down, take Your time and be sure ye both have stable and sturdy roots before developing branches.

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RE: femdom/couples - 7/30/2006 4:12:51 PM

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You treat him how it serves you both.

Remember to make sure that you are both happy, and that the situation works for the two of you.

This being said, there are no regulations. Just do what pleases you both.

I wish you luck.

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