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popeye1250 -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/30/2006 8:41:47 PM)

Level, well said!



Level -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/30/2006 8:54:51 PM)

Thanks, Popeye [:D].



TNstepsout -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/30/2006 9:16:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Level

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ORIGINAL: TNstepsout

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ORIGINAL: Level

There's certainly a bunch of shifty folks out there, but I wouldn't lay it all on the guys.


Well I haven't heard of any disappearing women, sub or Domme. Maybe it happens, but the men don't write about it. Who knows. But it seems to be a pretty common thing that both complain about ie; subs who never show up, and subs complain that Doms disappear on them. Honestly, there's another dead Dom about every other month around here, but I've never read of a woman pulling that stunt.


I've met one or three. One was at alt; she had a disturbing habit of meeting up with dominants, then when things went awry, she'd tell anyone that would listen how they raped and beat her. Felt horrible about it the first time, but had a harder time believing as it continued to happen with others. Oh, and she was dying from cancer, too, while all this went on. Time has a way of shining a light on bullshit, and it did with her, eventually.
 
Anyway, I don't want to make it a "who's worse, men or women" thing. A jerk is a jerk, whether in pants or skirt.


Well yes, but she didn't disappear. I'm not saying women don't pull crap. They just don't seem to disappear like men do.



wantitnow569 -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/30/2006 9:28:44 PM)

i agree with Level on this one...and frankly that's why i have this little fantasy that i enjoy engaging in...It's along the lines of "liars are fryers" stuff.... i like to fantasize about liars just suddenly bursting into flames as they are talking or typing out a bunch of crap!!



SirDarkside357 -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/30/2006 11:00:11 PM)

That maybe because not many talk about it....but it happens...alot.  You spend many hrs building trust and then poof.... no slave.....gamers and fakes come in both genders.



krikket -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/31/2006 7:38:54 AM)

i think a good many of us (male/female; kink/'nilla) have at least one experience with the disappearing potential partner, or even a "solid partner" (my [ex]husband of 27 years comes to mind..lol).  i've learned to be careful, not to invest too much of myself, give up too much control or trust too soon (i hope).  i also ask a ton of questions..among them, what happened to your last relationship.  i've broken off writing to several "simply" because they shared how they had just walked away from a relationship they no longer wanted, one or two actually laughing about how foolish those women were, and how desperate.  However, unlike them, i did write, explaining my reasons, and then that was it.  Once or twice the potential would write back in protest, how they'd "never" to that "to me," yada, yada, yada.  i find it difficult to write those letters -- it's not in my nature to hurt anyone, no matter what, but i now think of it as self-protection.  i figure i deserve better, as do 99% of the people here (CM/on-line/face to face, etc.). 

Good luck..and cheers
jimini



subexec -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/31/2006 1:27:56 PM)

be glad it's now....try having your Master do that to you after 7 months!!!!!! not one word nothing. all cause i caught him in one lie. i know there's pride but geez.....no consideration for my feelings? a lifestyle dom should never collar a slave and do this to her imho.

and this was from one day everything was fine sweetie, to this.

p.s..he had led me to believe right up til the end this was permanent relationship.

sorry to vent.

lisa



subexec -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/31/2006 1:29:58 PM)

yikes....why is there a vanilla sign under my name? lol



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/31/2006 2:05:08 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subexec
a lifestyle dom should never collar a slave and do this to her imho.

lisa

Sure he would.  Doms are people- some are assholes.  Being a dominant doesn't make someone anything but a dominant.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/31/2006 2:06:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: subexec

yikes....why is there a vanilla sign under my name? lol

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subexec -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/31/2006 2:20:00 PM)

thanks....and here i thought it was cause i didnt have the interests filled out on my profile...well i went and did that quick just in case. lol.

well....back to stewing.

lisa



LaTigresse -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/31/2006 2:27:50 PM)

Liars come in all shapes, sizes, ages, genders.......tis the nature of the internet beast. Some day I shall have to tell the comical tail of the "Wacko from Florida"



Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/31/2006 10:59:41 PM)

Yes, and sadly not only the internet beast. My disappearing dom was someone I only talked to once online, then we had a real time local relationship that looked completely stable and healthy.

We were together regularly, he treated me just the way I would expect a dom to treat a woman he adored. He fixed things around the house, was always there for me...And then 6 months into things, he told me he'd call after his doctor's appointment the next day; it's been 7 months without a sign of him. Dead? Hiding? Who knows. I've struggled with it, and now, I'm working to put it 100% behind me.

Happens in real life too. ::sigh::



LTRsubNW -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/31/2006 11:03:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Melikesit, I hate to burst your bubble but a lot of MARRIED guys do that for kicks right up until it's time to actually meet in person and then,.....................nothing.
Or excuses or worse.


Yepper...sounds married to me.



LTRsubNW -> RE: Where Did HE go? (7/31/2006 11:06:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Quivver
Your post here states a first meet, yet in the same breath a difference in time zones you were unaware of.  Hummmmmmmmmm


(Me thinks you need a tad more data before you agree to be betrothed).



subexec -> RE: Where Did HE go? (8/1/2006 5:48:00 PM)

that's exactly the same....ours was real life..7 months, here all the time when not working, and talking then...fixing things....running the household...running my LIFE.....then would have thought he fell off face of earth after reassuring me, except by a stroke of god and a fluke of technology, his phone picked up and he didnt realize it and i heard 3 hours of his date of meeting someone new!!!! well at least i knew my hunch was right. and i didnt have to call his work and family and wonder if he was dead....maybe he's the same freakin guy! lol

i still have access to his financial accts and everything. lol...so i really dont think he was married.

p.s..i did lose myfirst Master from heart attack and almost didnt find out....that was more long distance. it is always a worry of mine.



obedientglow -> RE: Where Did HE go? (8/1/2006 10:56:11 PM)

Oh Melikesitruff that is a hideous suggestion and I seriously hope it's not true! I received immediate mail yesterday and today (I joined yesterday) and I don't have my picture posted. Now I am suspicious (though I did write a great journal entry if I do say so myself [:)]'



mons -> RE: Where Did HE go? (8/4/2006 4:14:10 AM)

greeting to all
 
i see the disappear dom well i have the disappear sub we talk and i am very knowledgeable and very careful of people so we talk for some time online we meanrt here on cm i found out he live so very close to me. we had a ball talking about everything we took it so slow hours of talking laughing then we came to speaking on the phone. so months pass i am not one to just go out with a man so fast so i made sure i listen to what his words were you can tell by a person speaking if he is a nut they always mess up say something wrong well he never did. so we plan our first day he never came, i took it as being scare he is new so he said but i was patient and like him, then another date he did not show. i stop talking with him then he explain he had a mother who was not well i understood so we did not make anymore dates we talk on the phone more . then this last week he acted so strange i wonder what was wrong so he has disappear  no word on what happen no written letter nothing i just was mad at first and shocked he was a cery cool person i did not understand i am lucky i did not fall in love with this person or i would be on hurt woman it was more of just total disrespect. no word at why he just changed nothing i have taken it as a lose i can not make someone come to me nor can i call him and scream i am just not like this i hold my feelings in and move on but it would had been ok if i knew why. males subs do this alot i never had one do this to me so i am like wow this is strange. jekle and hyde he is. 
 
please excuse my writing i am dyslexic so my writing is not well i am learning but why do men do this it is so strange , i wonder why this was even more strange becase we spoke for such a long time oh well lol i am ok
i am glad i came to this forum i learn something new here. now i will be even more careful and not as kind it does change your trust in men or in people really
 
thanks for listening
 
mons



windchymes -> RE: Where Did HE go? (8/4/2006 7:51:43 AM)

 
There's also the possibility that some of those online "female submissives" are guys playing games.



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: Where Did HE go? (8/5/2006 9:08:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Liars come in all shapes, sizes, ages, genders.......tis the nature of the internet beast. Some day I shall have to tell the comical tail of the "Wacko from Florida"
You are such a tease...Now I am dying to know about the Wacko from Florida!!!...pleeeaseeee!...[:)]..Tempting



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