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SweetSerendipity -> Gags...the reaction/reason for them (7/31/2006 5:25:32 AM)

Hello,

I was wondering about the reaction/reason behind gags.

Subs...do you find the use of a gag reminds you that your silence is expected, or does it free you up to scream and holla?

Doms...do you use a gag to hush someone or to encourage the verbal release?

Thank you for your time.



iowastud -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (7/31/2006 8:01:52 PM)

hi sweet. i love the sound made by my sub when useing a gag on them. also like the look of the gag on them.



Evanesce -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (7/31/2006 8:05:00 PM)

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Doms...do you use a gag to hush someone or to encourage the verbal release?


I have one occasional play partner who is a screamer.  He gets a gag every time we play, because I don't want the neighbors calling the police.
 
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Subs...do you find the use of a gag reminds you that your silence is expected, or does it free you up to scream and holla? 
 
I'm pretty quiet, anyway, so for me to wear a gag, more often than not it's because He likes the look of it.  He's particularly fond of a cute little purple ball/bit gag we've got with little streamers on the ends.



mstrjx -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (7/31/2006 8:57:59 PM)

I just so happened to be rearranging the toys yesterday.  I noticed that I had right around 15 gags of various types:

Ball gags (a few of those)
Bit gags
Ring gags
Trainer gags
Plug gags
Penis gags
Egg-shaped gags
Head-cage gags
The gag inside the hood
Not to mention things that could be used for gags

You think I like gags?  I guess since I don't have nearly that many blindfolds, I suppose I do.

At any rate, I admit to being very turned on by the visual.  I like to be able to change the sound a sub/slave is able to make.

But the #1 reason is simply control.  Control at a physical level, and the psychological and emotional feelings that that control brings about.  Part of my development of a partner is being able to work on multiple levels at once.

Jeff



popeye1250 -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (7/31/2006 9:10:03 PM)

I like the look of a slave in a gag and I think it adds to the helplesesness.



LTRsubNW -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (7/31/2006 10:26:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetSerendipity

Hello,

I was wondering about the reaction/reason behind gags.

Subs...do you find the use of a gag reminds you that your silence is expected, or does it free you up to scream and holla?

Doms...do you use a gag to hush someone or to encourage the verbal release?

Thank you for your time.


I cried the first time a gag was put on me.

I was in a room full of 12 or 15 people, it was my first public outing among other subs and Dommes (prior to that, with some exception, it had been largely in my head), there were a lot of unusual activities going on at the time, "extreme" would be the best description, and what I saw was so incredibly loving, I was convinced at the time that no endorphin rush would ever be so great.

My reaction was that it was beautiful.



nefertari -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (7/31/2006 10:41:18 PM)

I like the feeling of helplessness.  It reminds me of my place.  



TheShadows -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (7/31/2006 11:18:02 PM)

As most of the other Dominants have eluded to, I enjoy using gags for both silence and encouragement of vocalization.  I also very much enjoy the way a slave looks gagged, especially if they're also blindfolded.  I can control the volume, sound, and look of a slave.  The heart of the matter, for me, is in the control.

As always, YMMV...
MrsShadows



cacodylic -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (7/31/2006 11:29:11 PM)

There have been times when it was good to have something to bite down on, but on the whole I don't like them. Now that I have breathing problems, I really don't think gagging is a good idea for me.



srllile7 -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (8/1/2006 12:20:34 AM)


I agree with all that has been said so far. For me I am a screamer so I get gagged to take it down a notch for sure; I think at times I could break glass. But I love gags because of the feeling of helplessness. It reminds me of my position the second it is put in my mouth.

Finally I have a big oral fascination if you will, things are always in my mouth, I chew on pens all the time and providing oral sex is one of my happiest moments definitely something I take pride in with out question. So to have something there to manipulate with my tongue, lips, and/or teeth helps to add just one more thing to the experience. Or even to have something that limits what I can do with my mouth could be it as well, it does drive me a bit wild at times and I find my self struggling profusely against the gag and trying ohhhh so hard to get it where I want it. Lol however I never reach that point. But still I simply love gags.



soldierfunuk -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (8/1/2006 1:28:54 AM)

I am quite often gagged when Mistress is going nuts when I won't shut up.  In play I do get gagged to stop me saying rude words and getting myself into even more trouble.



SweetSerendipity -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (8/1/2006 5:06:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: iowastud

hi sweet. i love the sound made by my sub when useing a gag on them. also like the look of the gag on them.


Thanks iowa, the sounds can be sweet, I agree.

Blessed Be



SweetSerendipity -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (8/1/2006 5:08:05 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Evanesce

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Doms...do you use a gag to hush someone or to encourage the verbal release?[/quote
 
I'm pretty quiet, anyway, so for me to wear a gag, more often than not it's because He likes the look of it.  He's particularly fond of a cute little purple ball/bit gag we've got with little streamers on the ends.


Evanesce,

Wow, that would be an interesting visual. Do you ever see yourself in the mirror when you are gagged? That would heighten the experience I should think.

Blessed Be



SweetSerendipity -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (8/1/2006 5:14:03 AM)

Thanks to all who have responded. Mstrjx - yes, I can see you do indulge your love of gags! For me the need to communicate is huge, and to take that away from me...would be strangely freeing I suspect. LTRsubNW your description was beautiful. I have played in a room where I could see myself bound - which was frightening and freeing at the same time. I am very interested in sensory deprivation and until I started thinking about the use of gags did not realize how important the power of speech is to me.

Blessed Be



nephandi -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (8/1/2006 5:51:59 AM)

i like the feeling of helplessness, but we dont use gags alot, and only own one and it is not a wery good quality one so they dont play a big part in our play.



LadyJulieAnn -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (8/1/2006 6:08:56 AM)

I use a gag to increase the feeling of vulnerability and helplessness of my sub.  I also like to tease his gag reflex a bit at times.  I have a major gag fetish and typically always include one when bondage is involved.

Be well,
Julie



Evanesce -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (8/1/2006 8:17:34 PM)

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Evanesce,

Wow, that would be an interesting visual. Do you ever see yourself in the mirror when you are gagged? That would heighten the experience I should think.


I've seen myself in a mirror in just about every form of bondage we own.  If not a mirror, than certainly in photographs.  However, looking at the pictures or seeing myself in a mirror during the activity really does nothing for me.  I'd rather be blindfolded and let my imagination take over.



MistressSassy66 -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (8/1/2006 8:32:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetSerendipity

Hello,

I was wondering about the reaction/reason behind gags.

Subs...do you find the use of a gag reminds you that your silence is expected, or does it free you up to scream and holla?

Doms...do you use a gag to hush someone or to encourage the verbal release?

Thank you for your time.


I use gags to shut them up...some just talk and talk...I warn them 3 times each with a small whack...3rd strike and out comes the cloth gag with a knot in the middle that goes in the mouth....Ahhhh finally I can work in peace.
Some have learned to be quiet,others welllll are just simply harder to train.



Lordandmaster -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (8/1/2006 11:10:31 PM)

Neither.  If I want to hush someone, I say, "Quiet."  It shouldn't take more than that.  I use a gag when I want a sub to feel a gag in her mouth.  Usually it's more humiliating, or more of a reminder of her place, than anything else.

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ORIGINAL: SweetSerendipity

Doms...do you use a gag to hush someone or to encourage the verbal release?



MizSuz -> RE: Gags...the reaction/reason for them (8/5/2006 10:53:54 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SweetSerendipity

Doms...do you use a gag to hush someone or to encourage the verbal release?



I don't mind verbal release generally.  I once told someone who was fearful that his screaming would be disruptive that I think screaming is communication and I love it.  He took that to heart, too, and I'm glad.

I also gag to help someone focus, particularly if they are someone who runs their mouth when they are outside of their comfort zone.  I've been known to gag someone just because I thought this very trait would be disruptive.  I've also tied someone to a chair, gagged them and told them "NOW we're going to talk" which essentially meant "it's my turn to talk and you will listen."

I once asked a bondage dominant to assist me in getting to a cocoon sort of space, suspended.  He wanted to gag me and although I wasn't crazy about the idea I allowed it because I think that even when a top bottoms there should be a bit of give and take.  I will never let this happen again as I'm of the opinion that it's what shortened the scene.  Had I been able to say "the ropes are binding me HERE and I won't be able to take it for long" then I believe I probably could have hung there all night.  I wasn't especially looking to be placed in a 'helpless' state and I don't think the attempt helped the scene at all.  I'm not fearful enough of other people to really hit 'helpless' as I know that I'll either live or die and either way I won't care when I get to the other side, so attempting to put me in that state is a lesson in futility.  In this instance it simply closed communication and negated my ability to assist us in achieving our goals.



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