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mstrjx -> RE: Anger. Is there a place for this during punishment (7/31/2006 12:51:25 PM)
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I answered this a little differently in the Sub/Slave forum, but I will expound on this here.
I'm a very 'in control' person. I stay at 5. Sometimes that works in my favor, sometimes perhaps not. I bring the roller coaster about in others, while I stay in one place. I like it that way.
There was a recent incident with someone in my care that admittedly made me quite angry. I won't go into details, but the nature of the incident was quite bad, and probably the best thing to have done was to release the partner. In this particular case that wasn't actually an option; hence, a severe punishment.
Although the partner wasn't present at the time of the offense (or else the offense would never have occurred), there was sufficient time between my knowledge of the action and the time of the punishment (a couple of hours). As I said, I don't know if I had been there immediately whether or not I was out of control (HIGHLY doubtful), but certainly not when the punishment was given.
Once in the act, the obvious sternness that was coming from me was obvious, but the punishment, both physical and psychological, was geared towards making the partner understanding of not only the situation, but how she should have handled the events leading up to the offense. In other words, punishment was given hand-in-hand with even-handed education.
To sum up, I was angry (I suppose, it's hard to tell with me) but quite composed and in control of myself.
Losing control is unacceptable.
Jeff
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