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addcted2it -> RE: Where can I go? (12/13/2004 8:43:43 AM)
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ORIGINAL: subsucker1
I'm new to the scene and was wondering where I can go to
meet dominant women or couples. I have virtually no
experience but much eagerness to serve. Online ads
and services have been a big disappointment.
Where can I go, or who can I call? Seems everyone is
paranoid about wierdos or something. I'm just a normal
guy with a desire to serve a dominant woman. I don't
understand the process. Please advise.
I believe that alwayzron has covered this subject very adequately. I have experiences much like ron's, and have probably been into the scene for at least as long. However, I would simply like to add my own two cents worth:
1. Munches, social groups & parties. These are probably the best and quickest way to meet peope (ie. in a face-to-face environment). Be polite and friendly at these gatherings. W/we are pretty much average-looking people, with many interests outside of BDSM and D/s (if you met us on the street, you would probably never know). Get to be known as a regular attendee, and not just someone who drops in occasionally to see who's there. If you're in southern California (especially near the L.A. area), join Threshold, which is probably the largest BDSM and D/s social organization in southern California. And, in particular, learn their rules and dress codes, for munches require a more conservative manner of dress as opposed to private or semi-private meetings and parties.
2. Chat rooms (IRC and Website chat clients. Before I found a local social group, this was the only medium I had for meeting people. However, it takes a great deal of time, energy and persistence to make yourself a "fixture" in those venues. It's all about how often you drop by, who you know, and how you come across. And, if you are lucky-enough to meet people who you might be interested in (or vice-versa), you won't know what they look like or really who they are until you have actual face-to-face contact. They may or may not look like what you expected, so be prepaired for possible disappointment.
3. Message boards. This is another way to become familiar with others who are into the scene. Get involved in the subject(s) which you might be interested in, or have something significant to say about the subject(s). Listen and learn. And when you do post a response, make it clear, polite and to the point.
Good luck in your quest! :-)
-philip
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