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Training - 12/12/2004 10:51:03 AM

asyouwishmaster

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Nearly every "Dom/Master" that has approached me online, has asked this question...in vaious formats. Are you trained? Who trained you? What is your training? How long have you trained? I am always in a quandry about how to answer. What exactly is the meaning of the term "training?" My instincts tell me these are all just wanna be's.

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RE: Training - 12/12/2004 12:12:17 PM

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"Training" can mean anything.

Here's how you should respond: Yes, by my parents, when I was 2. I have a 100% success rate with making it in the toilet now.

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RE: Training - 12/12/2004 12:43:49 PM

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And yes ... they probably are wanna-bes.

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RE: Training - 12/12/2004 12:59:57 PM

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That is a strange question. Who cares if you are trained - what ever that means. Training is mainly between each new dom/sub relationship. We are always learning about our partner's likes and dislikes. That's the fun part about a new relationship. I've found that no mater how long you've been with your partner, there are always new things to explore both vanalla and in the lifestyle. You just need be open and creative. My guess is your right about them being wanna bees.

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RE: Training - 12/12/2004 1:14:32 PM

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This can actually mean various things. WHen I belonged to an Order, slaves did get training on formal protocols and non verbal communication. Outside of an "Order" setting, slaves can be trained as ponies, I think gorean girls can be trained in dances or being sex slaves, some slaves get training on formal tea/meal service, being a boot black, a foot boy, fetish doll. . .so the best way to go about someone asking you "what kind of training you have". . .is to ask them to specify.

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RE: Training - 12/12/2004 1:18:14 PM

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For many years i have found that training can be very specific to a particular form of Dominance (i.e. - Old Guard, Gorean, Sadisism, etc.) i have spent most of the last five years learning about as many of them as i could.
So, when asked if i am trained, i can simply reply, "To which form of Dominance do You inquire, Sir?"... this allows not only for the Dominant to express what type of expectations He has, but it also allows you the opportunity to answer fairly and honestly to the question based on knowledge or experience with a particular form of Dominance. (Although i can not say i have ever been formally trained as a Gorean slave, or kajira, i do know of many of the expectations of the Gorean Masters because i have studied the Gorean ways.)

There are a couple of sources that i can recommend for information on training. www.castlerealm.com is a highly recommended website that has a great deal of information regarding Gorean training. Although, even if you never have any intentions of serving a Gorean Master, there is a wealth of knowledge that can be obtained in its pages. Another that i discovered in my studies is www.BDSMU.com. There are a number of great articles on slave trainings and a slave guide, as well as great posting from Master/Dominants and sub/slaves. i would suggest that you don't be afraid to learn of things from multiple views as well. If there are articles that are written from a Dom/me's perspective, these may also help to guide you in understanding expectations as well as understand what type of Dom/me you may wish to ultimately serve.

Since 'Training' is very diverse, don't expect that what you may have learned to do for one Master will be readily accepted by another. While some Masters will require you to keep your eyes lowered, Others may prefer that They be able to see your eyes at all times to see into your soul. While some Masters prefer that you speak in the 3rd person or in terms of objectification (referring to yourself as 'it' is the simplest example i can offer in this post), this may drive another Master totally crazy.

So, in summary.... your training is what you have learned either on your own or through experience; so when asked "Are you trained", it is a great opportunity to communicate expectations as well as experience.

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RE: Training - 12/12/2004 1:26:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: alwayzron

And yes ... they probably are wanna-bes.

That makes COMPLETE logical sense: A dominant or perpective master wants to know what type of training that a person has. . .so it neccessarily follows that he is a wanna-be.

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RE: Training - 12/12/2004 2:38:32 PM

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Jules,

Thank you. And I have got to compliment you on your fetish wear. To quote Will Smith ... "Damn!!!"

alwayz ....

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RE: Training - 12/13/2004 2:54:48 AM

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I don't ever recall being asked who trained me or if I've been trained. At least not by anyone I met in person, anyway. Usually I'm asked about experience versus training, which I feel is very relevant to a potential relationship. With regard to training though, I think that each experience I have had does add to my sort of "general training", with regard to the very basics of my behavior, such as obeying without hesitation (or sometimes obeying period), being extremely aware of the Dom's tone or voice or certain look, not holding back, how to ask a question in an appropriate manner, etc. There is also training in other areas of service that a submissive can receive, for example, I have an interest in massage and have had some education/training in that area. Regarding specifics though, I would imagine that every Dom/me is going to have their own specifics that their sub will have to be trained to know and learn (I have never had two Doms who wanted me to kneel the exact same way for example).

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RE: Training - 12/13/2004 3:17:22 AM

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I am asked that question by subs who are seeking someone with real skills. I am always happy to answer and furnish references. My Mentors change with each new skill I am interested in acquiring; but I keep in touch with at least 6 other dominants on a regular basis so I have a good base of sound knowledge and experience to rely on when I encounter a specific problem or need someone to bounce an idea off of. These are not "on-line" Masters/Mistresses; they are people I have encountered in real life at BDSM events. People who have conducted workshops that gave me valuable information or people I have watched play and admired for their skills and/or demeanor. So, if the question is asked in seriousness, I will give a full reply and probably more information that the person ever wanted...lol.

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RE: Training - 12/13/2004 7:28:28 AM

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To some *training* = *experience*. And no, it does not have to mean they are wannabee's, it's more just another online *ism*. Like the stutter talk, (Y/you, W/we, etc., when people stared online they were asked about training instead of experience because someone in their so *infinite* wisdom thought it sounded better.

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RE: Training - 12/13/2004 12:22:07 PM

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My dear one, the questions that you state are asked are those that many
of My rl Dom/mes ask...basically to determine just how new to the
lifestyle a sub/slave might be. For Myself, the word "training" is
all-encompassing to include all of your experience within the lifestyle that
has been guided by an experienced Dom/me.

Which brings Me to the second part of the reply...and that regards
"who trained you" ... or, in other words, with whom have you had
sessions...rl or cyber...and if possible the background of that person within
the lifestyle itself. For example, did you just get together with your
neighbour for some fun; did you just follow the instructions found on
some website like zoology; or did you actually serve for a time a
qualified Dom/me, being collared to them.

So when asked, simply out line what you have experienced, from
bondage to extreme sex, and with whom you experienced it.

I hope that this helps....

Oriental Mistress...

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RE: Training - 1/17/2005 2:59:54 PM

garylee

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i guess......being that i am......middle aged.....and that i have done domestics janitorial stuff all my life at one time or another privately and commercially.........
i have had NO training..........as a domestics service slave..........
i am not ware or been told i had-to-have.......any type of training......to be of service to a domme.

maybe i'm an oddball but i am being me.
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