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My wife - 12/12/2004 6:30:30 PM   
smile2cu


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From: Dayton, OH
Status: offline 		To those of you who noticed that I haven't been posting in the last week, I'm sorry to say that my wife, who had been ill for many years, passed away last Monday.

I'm doing better than I would have expected, under the circumstances. I do have a lot of friends and a lot of support. But it did seem strange. I'm a pretty caring person, and it didn't seem as deep a wound as I'd have thought. Neither did I seem numb. Then it occurred to me what happened. I've really been grieving for a long time, since the wife I knew virtually left this earth years ago. I miss her a lot, but that's an old story. Very sad, really.

Anyway, I'm confident I'll pass through this OK. It will just take some time.

~smile~ (after a while)

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RE: My wife - 12/12/2004 6:35:48 PM   
GoddessJules


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Status: offline 		My condolences to you and your family.
People deal with death in so many different ways. . .so do what you gotta do to be whole again.

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RE: My wife - 12/12/2004 6:46:00 PM   
alwayzron


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Status: offline 		Smile .... I am so so sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers .... alwayz

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RE: My wife - 12/12/2004 7:15:28 PM   
conflicted


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Status: offline 		smile2cu,

being still kinda new here, i have missed your upbeat replies and smiley face *smile*
O/our thoughts are with you, please take care

n

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RE: My wife - 12/12/2004 7:39:29 PM   
EStrict


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Status: offline 		I am sorry for your loss. I hope you can continue to find solace in the knowledge that the wife you knew was gone before this, and now her body is allowed to rest. Don't feel bad about not feeling bad. There are many cultures that believe that there is no death, there is only a passing to a new existence.....

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RE: My wife - 12/12/2004 7:54:02 PM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		smile,
We are both very sorry for your loss. If even at this distance there is something more that we can offer other than our good thoughts please let us know. We know from your correspondence that she was ill for long time, take some joy in that she is now free from that suffering.
Our best thoughts are with you.


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RE: My wife - 12/12/2004 8:11:55 PM   
smilezz


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Status: offline 		Sorry to hear of your loss...know you are being thought of.

Mr Thorns and smilezz

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RE: My wife - 12/12/2004 8:22:28 PM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		My sincere sympathies.

If it's ok with you I'd like to bring your name up when I talk to my Dieties.

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RE: My wife - 12/12/2004 9:18:42 PM   
sub4hire


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Status: offline 		Smile,
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I believe your grieving process is perfectly natural. So don't worry about it.
The absolute best way to grieve for a loved one is to actually dress them in their last set of clothing. It isn't done much. Yet, it is the way to say goodbye and be ok with it.

I took care of my mother for her last 3 years. It gets to a point, you go to work and come back almost expecting them to have passed while you were away.
You've grieved for years already.

You have my support and sympathy for as much as it is worth online. Feel free to contact me if you so desire.

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RE: My wife - 12/13/2004 3:30:46 AM   
jillwfsub4blkdom


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Status: offline 		my condolences to you and your family. People have very different ways of dealing with grief and not everyone is exactly the same. Just keep your faith in a higher power to help you through this.

jill

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RE: My wife - 12/13/2004 3:42:00 AM   
theroebabe


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Smile2Cu,

I am sorry about your loss, and yes when someone has a long illness the grieving starts sooner. My condolences to you and your family and may you remember your wife with love and happiness.


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RE: My wife - 12/13/2004 5:18:54 AM   
velvetvixen


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Status: offline 		Smile2cu,

I am so sorry to hear about the passing of your wife. I am glad to hear that you have support to be with you now. I know you have wonderful memories with her and with time you will get through this.

With much sympathy--

J

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RE: My wife - 12/13/2004 7:16:45 AM   
sweetpleaser


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Status: offline 		My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family smile. What you are feeling is natural in regard to a loved one with a terminal illness. I experienced it myself. Take care of your needs now and be happy soon.

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It's not the men in my life that count, it's the life in my men.--Mae West

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RE: My wife - 12/13/2004 11:02:51 AM   
feline


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From: CA
Status: offline 		Words are few at a time like this . . . . May peace be with you.

Take care,




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RE: My wife - 12/13/2004 11:17:27 AM   
rubytuesday


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Status: offline 		Take care smile2cu and do what you need to do to get you through this period - know that there are people here that care and will help in any way they can. You are a favourite of mine and I hope you smile again.......

Hugs and strength to you

ruby

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RE: My wife - 12/13/2004 3:24:30 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		I'm very sorry for your loss smile. Everyone else said it so well i have nothing to add, but hope you are back posting soon.

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RE: My wife - 12/13/2004 3:46:09 PM   
blushes4u


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Status: offline 		My condolences and prayers are with you and your family.

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RE: My wife - 12/13/2004 9:17:31 PM   
SentForu


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Status: offline 		I'm so sorry to read about your loss. If there's anything I can do to help, just let me know.

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RE: My wife - 12/14/2004 2:27:53 AM   
Suleiman


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Status: offline 		Smile~

You have my deepest condolences. I hope that you make sure to take the time to take care of yourself.

Be well, friend (or at least, heal)

~S

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RE: My wife - 12/14/2004 9:56:26 AM   
smile2cu


Posts: 265
Joined: 7/21/2004
From: Dayton, OH
Status: offline 		Thanks to all of you. I've really felt a lot of warmth and support both in real time and on-line. The funny thing is that I never know what to say on these sort of occasions, and I see no one else does either. But just as long as they, and all of you are there is what is important.

I see signs of life and humor creeping back. Everyone has brought food. I'm actually quite a good cook, but they assume: "Guy without wife - Goodness, He'll starve!" What I really need is someone to bring me an extra refrigerator or two.

GoddessJules, alwayzron, conflicted, Mr Thorns and smilezz: Thanks. I'm doing.

EStrict, Pretty much my feelings about it.

Mercnbeth, My wife didn't like to travel, but I do, and have a number of cousins in California. Perhaps I'll check out the view from your trash container or the pier at Redondo Beach. I'll let you know.

perverseangelic, Ok to bring up my name with your Dieties. I need all the help I can get.

sub4hire, Dressed her in one of her nicer pant suits, with her favorite stuffed dog, since I always used to give her stuffed animals.

jillwfsub4blkdom, My faith is unshaken, and is helping a lot.

Roe, velvetvixen & sweetpleaser, Getting there.

feline, And to you also, peace.

ruby, I'd smile a lot faster if NZ was closer! Hugs

proudsub & blushes4u, Thanks for the good wishes.

SentForu, Good looking females should be careful when asking if there's anything they can do to help. Similar to the folks around here asking what they could do to help. I was thinking, "Well, you could clean my house!"
(No, I wasn't thinking you would clean the house.)

Suleiman, Thanks, I'm taking time and taking care.

Tried to get a new picture as an avatar, but somehow had a problem, but here I am:






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