|
LadyHugs -> RE: Have you know a Dom/me to take a flogging? (8/1/2006 8:30:19 PM)
|
Dear Carameldomme, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In the arts of using the flogger, flail, whip and or cane; it really is of a benefit to have felt the many styles, strokes and techniques as possible. Doing it to yourself will not have the same effect as if someone else did it. That is a fact. Problem is, nobody can copy your style, techniques and strokes like you personally do and or any other Top/Dominant/Master/Mistress and or Sadist.
That said, there has been many issues brought up when Dominants are whipped and or 'taking the whip.' Of course Switches are seen with more tolerance/forgiveness than a Dominant/Master/Mistress. And, yet again on the next level, it is more acceptable to see a male whip a female dominant than a female dominant whip a male dominant. Unfortunately, the bias remains against women as has been demonstrated. Indeed, it is considered for a male dominant to be whipped by a female dominant, to be a sign of weakness. So, as much as they may wish to feel a woman's technique, strokes and styles--it will be in private, no witnesses and no peer pressures. Yet, extremely secure dominants will submit to the whip/cane by a female instructor--as it is not a matter of D/s but, pure education in a purely educational enviorment. I also find male dominants make it difficult on any female dominant who "takes the whip," as I've seen all to often male dominants make disrespectful comments afterwards and respect for them goes out of the window. Sad--but, that is the way it goes sometimes.
There is also another matter, to which has not been addressed. There are slaves out in the community who really get upset, emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally seeing their Owners being whipped and or caned under any circumstances. So, for their welfare--I would keep in mind the circumstances for dominants to submit to the whip per se.
Majority of dominants would like to feel the tools personally but, will not do so publicly but, privately. They won't admit to it as, some feel it is a sign of weakness. For those who use such tools without feeling the "nature" of the whip/cane are those who must work much harder to achieve their skills, knowledge and must depend on feed back as the source of their knowledge, skill and such. Those who have felt the whip/cane and such, as well as the wide range of 'voices' each instrument has to offer, it's strengths and or weakness; have less time to understand the 'impact' (no pun intended) of each stroke, style and or technique. In feeling first hand, they can select that feeling as to apply it to their 'victim.' And, sometimes sensations are hard to put into terms or words.
Furthermore, I have found that dominants who have never been under the whip/cane and such; have failed to provide sound advice to their slaves/submissives as to take up a position with their bodies, as to help them take impact strokes. With simple adjustments, the slave under the whip could take more and enjoy it more. This is also a sad reality, to which I have hopes in time will change with education.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
|
|
|
|
