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Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/1/2006 1:10:48 PM

MmakeMme

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As my DaddyDom's baby girl, I know what attracts me to the relationship, but what is the draw from a DaddyDom's perspective? What makes you want to be / get off on being a Daddy?

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/1/2006 5:45:55 PM

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I don't want to be or get off on being a Daddy, it's just what I am. In this big world of BDSM, D/s, & M/s, it is where I fit best. Although ageplay itself has never been something I have had interest in.

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/1/2006 6:12:46 PM

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Let me see if I understand you correctly. You have a little one that you take care of and protect. It does not enter into play. Please forgive my ignorance - I am not familiar with a lot of these terms as there is no real need for me to know them except as it applies to pleasing my Dom. I thought if I understood more then I would be more of an asset to him. Thank you for your response, Morpheus. Your wisdom is infinitely useful.

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/1/2006 6:26:47 PM

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I have a Daddy/Dom relationship with brat, but it has never been an age role play thing. Even before exploring this world, I was Brat's protector, provider, and male role model. She has always called me Daddy, but not in a sexual manner. We have other names for each other when it comes to that

The name Daddy is something she has called me for a long time, and came about naturally, more so after the unmentionable entered the picture. I personally don't find the role play of Daddy and Daddy's lil girl to be a turn on.

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< Message edited by LokisBrat -- 8/1/2006 6:29:29 PM >

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/1/2006 6:40:24 PM

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Thank you, Loki. This is all very helpful.

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/1/2006 6:45:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: MmakeMme

... I thought if I understood more then I would be more of an asset to him. Thank you for your response, Morpheus. Your wisdom is infinitely useful.

"Infinitely useful"

That, my friend, is pretty fucking useful.

Nevertheless, maybe it is time for a chat with your Daddy.

Given my own orientation to the dynamic I can't think of any likely outcome from a poll of other men's domly motivations which would make my own little bit of stuff more pleasing to me.

Insofar as her ability to please me is served by her understanding my motivations I share them freely. But there are things a little girl just doesn't need to know. Someone who trusts me enough to rest easy with this is pleasing to me already, so to speak, for her willingness to surrender this along with, well, everything else.

Maybe you should ask him this: "Daddy, do you want me to be more of an asset to you?" If he answers "Yes, my little M&M, I want you to get to work straightaway on maximizing your worth. I think you should start with some market research," then please disregard this and other posts from me on the subject because I am speaking a different dialect entirely.

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/1/2006 7:16:22 PM

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Noah, I agree.
I'd kind of be like a Daddy to my sub too but not in an "age play" kind of way just like Loki was saying but in a more protective kind of way.

"Who's your DADDY?" "You are, Daddy!"

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/1/2006 7:41:58 PM

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Age play????

Hell I'd need a walker to engage in age play....there comes a point where it isn't play anymore

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/1/2006 8:35:36 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MmakeMme

Let me see if I understand you correctly. You have a little one that you take care of and protect. It does not enter into play. Please forgive my ignorance - I am not familiar with a lot of these terms as there is no real need for me to know them except as it applies to pleasing my Dom. I thought if I understood more then I would be more of an asset to him. Thank you for your response, Morpheus. Your wisdom is infinitely useful.

Wisdom of any kind, from any source of wisdom is infinitely useful... also as Noah mentioned, pretty fucking useful... also definintely fucking useful... it's often even way fucking useful.... and more no doubt.

However, each utility (usefulness) of wisdom is relative to the recipient of said wisdom... there is no standard of measure one size fits all, you know it all or you don't level of wisdom.

Life is a cabaret my friend, and we each have our own measure of the quality and depth of the cabaret as we each see it and experience it independently, or as a part of a relationship with a likeminded counterpart.

If you wish to expand your understanding of both sides of a Daddy/daughter dynamic, do a search of the message board for Daddy/Dom and you will find numerous threads and discussions which will perhaps shed more light and understanding.

One stereotype that seems to prevail is a notion among many that all Daddy/Doms are engaged in age play... and it is often more at a loose association to Daddy/Dom's having many 'built-in desires or tendencies' to be child molestors waiting for a place to happen. This concept is merely a byproduct of lack of knowledge, being uninformed or information challenged... and often ends up further misguided by application of the infinitely useful but dreaded 'assume' word.

Bottom line is that if you do not know... then you can either ask, guess or assume...

Do not expect one common answer though, as a Daddy/daughter dynamic is often a very fluid and dynamic 'dynamic' which defines it's own infinite usefulness and relative meaning to those who are actually involved in the Daddy/daughter relationship.

Would your Daddy/Dom's explanation of the taste of butterscotch be any different from mine? Butterscotch is butterscotch right?

How many babygirls understand the babygirl side of a Daddy/daughter dynamic the way you do? (especially a butterscotch one)

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/2/2006 12:46:22 AM

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To nurture, love and protect are strong instinctual drives in men.

Being a DaddyDom is one way to satisfy those drives.

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/2/2006 4:31:01 AM

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With my girl there is no age play or even Daddy/lil' girl dynamic.... Till the point where she is upset, scared or hurt by something out there in the big bad world.... The paternal instinct simply takes over, My arms go around her, she snuggles into my lap, my arms between her and everything that could harm her. She is safe warm and protected whilst we slowly deal with whatever the problem is and she has a little breather from having to face the world on its terms.

It is part of the way the D/s element comes out but not a part that I 'get of on' nor even 'want to be'... I just AM, it is just there as part of who I am and how we relate at those times.

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/2/2006 8:35:02 AM

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I have been a Daddy Dom for quite some time now ... to me there is something special when my girl looks at me and says but Daddy . or I love you Daddy ..its a different kinda feeling that just wells up inside me .. its about me being her protector .. her guidance .. her nutring caring Daddy

it has nothing tto do with age or anything like that, it's about theemotional state it brings to the table in a M/s relationship

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/2/2006 11:46:45 AM

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~ sweet smile for EveryDom ~ Thank you so much for your insight.

And Noah, yes, I asked him if learning more would please him and his answer was yes. That is the reason I am here asking less-than-knowledgeable questions. He has a demanding career and my tme is more free - I have so many questions and when we are together I want to be at his beck and call instead of chattering at him like a magpie (although that pleases him at times too). However, I wouldn't call me an M&M - I melt all over everything when he is around. ~ slow smile ~

Thank you to all who have answered. This is an interesting journey and I appreciate your thoughtful chaperoning.

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/2/2006 7:17:10 PM

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But there are things a little girl just doesn't need to know. Someone who trusts me enough to rest easy with this is pleasing to me already, so to speak, for her willingness to surrender this along with, well, everything else.

Thats a very interesting spin. Seriously.

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RE: Calling All You DaddyDoms - 8/7/2006 2:35:48 PM

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I agree that the "protector" role is very appealing. However, ageplay with an adult woman has many wonderful facets. There are so many things you can teach her to do.

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