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frustration - 12/13/2004 4:16:44 AM

lilgettovampire

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i was wondering how hard is it to find a slave? me n my partner are and have been looking for almost 2 years and still no luck. is this this normal? thanks a bunch bek

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RE: frustration - 12/13/2004 4:53:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: lilgettovampire

i was wondering how hard is it to find a slave? me n my partner are and have been looking for almost 2 years and still no luck. is this this normal? thanks a bunch bek

The problem seems to be finding a slave that both you and your partner are comfortable with that desires to be owned by a switch couple.

Just finding a slave that is compatable with one person can be a daunting task. Once you desire to be poly and seek a third, your field of possibilities has been drastically narrowed. Finally, being a switch couple thins out the remaining possibilities. You and your partner have chosen a difficult path.

My only recommendation would be patience. I have found that there is someone for everyone...it just may take awhile to find the person you are looking for. They are out there.

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RE: frustration - 12/13/2004 6:23:36 AM

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Greetings to You and Your Partner *bows* it is hard to find the right one but with each new day You will be closer to the RIGHT one..Do not give up nothing good is done quick..Your special one will be at Your feet soon enough maybe she is just looking for the correct door to enter thru *smiles* pet wishes You and Yours much luck .

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RE: frustration - 12/13/2004 7:48:43 AM

EStrict

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Master looked for a slave from the age of 23 to 34. I looked for a master for 2 years, but then, I was older when I started.

Like Mr. Thorns said, the big thing is finding someone that fits. Not everyslave is comfortable with a switch, some people need to know that their dominant will *always* be the one in control. Not ever slave wants to be in a poly relationship, some have a *need* to have an intense one on one relationship. Not every slave wants to be involved with someone who is only 21, even ones that are that young. They seek maturity, and experience that come with age. Not every slave wants to serve both sexes, I know I personally know women that are dominant in their relationships with others, but I am always on the same level, since my own interactions with women are woman to woman only.

You are seeking someone who wants ALL of those things, to name a few. Good luck, but be patient, after all, *winks* time will solve some of the issues some might have...

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RE: frustration - 12/13/2004 8:10:21 AM

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I'll admit, too, that often people don't go looking for switches. Having previously been invovled, long term, with a switch couple, I know it's not a situation I'd go looking for again, simply because I found it far to akward to spend about half the time serving beside one of my dominant partners.

Like someone else said, it's about what fits with you.

Too, I don't know what methods of search you're using, but the internet isn't always the best one.

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RE: frustration - 12/13/2004 9:32:53 AM

INSIDEYOURMIND

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The search can take forever, or sometimes it just seems that way.

I looked at your profile, it has no content to what you seek, and ya ain't gonna catch anything without the bait!

There is an old saying:

He who has a thing to sell
And goes and whispers down a well
is not as apt to get the dollars
as he who climbs a tree and hollars!

You need to express what you seek, who you are, what their role will be, etc.

I also agree that this should not be your only outlet to meeting someone, there is a whole big world out there.

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RE: frustration - 12/13/2004 10:13:01 AM

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i was wondering how hard is it to find a slave?

bek,

you say nothing in your profile about your current relationship, your experience, your desire, or your intent. you've checked off from the menu some interests but a potential slave would have to interpret how they would be used or fit into your current situation. Even the sex of the slave you seek isn't noted.

Look at your profile from the perspective of the one you seek - would you jump at the opportunity to serve, or even know what this profile was seeking?

If this is the way you've been searching the answer to your question is obvious. Unless you want to venture into the pro-slave option; there is no 'slaves-R-us' store to pick up a slave for the holidays. The process also takes an effort. you achieve only what you invest in effort, and get only the quality you offer.

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RE: frustration - 12/13/2004 4:34:34 PM

lovingmaster45

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You are a couple? Is it you and the cat?...lol. Seriously, if you are asking someone to be in a relationship with the two of you don't you think it would be a good idea to post a pic that had both of you in it? And as suggested by others, your question here revealed a lot more about what you want than your profile did. I would suggest a revision.

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RE: frustration - 12/17/2004 6:14:19 PM

MC2044

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How long did it take for you to find your current partner?

I was lucky and found a third fairly quickly, and it was good, but it did not last, because her husband eventually found out and made her choose. I did learn it takes a lot of effort and understanding to make a triad work. Are you really up for that effort?

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