What to do with a Mistress who steals?

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swmsubnepa -> What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/13/2004 4:18:20 PM)
Has anyone had a Mistress show up for a session, have you get undressed and the run out the door with the tribute?

stef -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/13/2004 4:48:51 PM)
Has this happened to you?? ~stef

Suleiman -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/13/2004 4:48:57 PM)
Now, you see, this is another good reason for getting to know your play partners before you ever scene with them. Personally, I have always been an advocate of "friendship first", and while I have had a few romantic misadventures in my youth, I always jumped in knowing full well how bad an idea it was to get involved with this person. I guess that's a good indicator of love (as in the kind that causes blindness - and deafness, since you ignore all of your friends who're also telling you that this is a bad idea), although such love and loyalty has limits (but then what dosen't?) I can't say I've ever been robbed by a mistress, but then again I've never been with a mistress who demanded monetary tribute (which has never stopped me from buying presents, donating time and energy, or even helping to pay the bills when I was able, but it was never demanded of me - these are things which I have willingly given, and would have given because they were my friend and I cared about their wellbeing without any owner/slave dynamic being involved) Then again, a domina demanding money from me is about as SOL as one demanding that I have a 12" penis. I can promise the moon and the stars, but I'll still come up short.

alwayzron -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/13/2004 5:12:23 PM)
How do you make a sub moan? Rob him while he's naked! Well .... you can alwayz file a police report .... quote: ... a domina demanding money from me is about as SOL as one demanding that I have a 12" penis. Amen to that, brother. I don't understand why someone would use a Pro Domme. And I say this with no disrespect intended to the Pro Dommes reading these threads. It's just that I've found that with the right combination of patience, manners, and sincerity, I've never had a problem finding Dommes searching for ... well .... submissive males that exhibit the proper balance of patience, manners, and sincerity.

LadyShoshin -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/13/2004 5:31:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: swmsubnepa Has anyone had a Mistress show up for a session, have you get undressed and the run out the door with the tribute? I am sorry this happened to you, next time you may want to ask for references. As a part time ProDomme my client gets what they pay for (no sex). The woman you had the experience with must not be a real Domme.

Suleiman -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/13/2004 5:36:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: alwayzron ... I don't understand why someone would use a Pro Domme. And I say this with no disrespect intended to the Pro Dommes reading these threads. Actually, there are good reasons, and a variety of them. Some folks don't want the entanglements of a full time relationship, some folks want to make sure that their partner is skilled and a known member of the community. Some folks get sent to a professional for punishment or training because it was demanded of them by their S/O. Some folks absolutely require discretion, and a professional is... well... professional. Some folks just enjoy paying for their pleasure. To be quite honest, when I was a young man looking for a hot date, if I'd had the money, I would have been willing to pay - but I've never had any large sums of money at my disposal. I count a difference between professional dommes and money dommes, simply because a professional is professional. While I acknowledge that financial domination is a valid kink (I've considered it from a roleplaying perspective and I can see how it might work for both parties), but at the same time, as the original topic starter has pointed out, some folks claim to be into financial domination who are really just looking for a free ride. Then again, there are submissives looking for a free ride. Or at least a free lunch. I love it when my dom/me actually feeds me, especially if they take me to a decent restaraunt. Tickets to a show and some nice jewelry are also good. ::sigh:: There are times I think I really should have been born female (of course, there are times the missus thinks she should have been born a guy, so it all works out)

GoddessJules -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/13/2004 5:43:32 PM)
quote: Actually, there are good reasons, and a variety of them. Some folks don't want the entanglements of a full time relationship, some folks want to make sure that their partner is skilled and a known member of the community. And this is exactly why when I first read this thread. . . I had a feeling that it wasn't a "pro domme" but perhaps a "lifestyle" domme that wanted/required a tribute for play. Pro dommes can't AFFORD to pull crap like this just to get their reputations tarnished and get blasted on international forums (such as max fisch.) Jules

alwayzron -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/13/2004 5:47:38 PM)
Good points ..... Different strokes for different folks, I guess. quote: Some folks don't want the entanglements of a full time relationship, some folks want to make sure that their partner is skilled and a known member of the community. Again ... this has never been a problem for me. Although every Domme I've played with has become a good friend, we both knew it wasn't a full time relationship, nor would it be. I have things they want ... they have things I want. It's a mutually benficial arrangement. Plus .... I've been blessed with Dommes who are experienced, knowledgable, and well known in the community ~~ with none of them requiring a 'tribute'. Soooo ... I'll just count my blessings on this one, knowing not everyone is quite as fortunate in this regards as I've been.

proudsub -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/13/2004 7:18:36 PM)
quote: had a feeling that it wasn't a "pro domme" but perhaps a "lifestyle" domme that wanted/required a tribute for play. Just sounds like a scam artist to me.[:@]

BeachMystress -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/13/2004 8:48:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: proudsub quote: had a feeling that it wasn't a "pro domme" but perhaps a "lifestyle" domme that wanted/required a tribute for play. Just sounds like a scam artist to me.[:@] I agree, not just a scam artist, but one who thinks that because of the nature of the crime, that you'll not call the police. Your thread title is inappropriate. A Mistress did not steal from you. You were the victim of a BDSM scam. You have two choices.. chalk it up to experience and consider the tribute the price of your education or (the one I wish you'd do) call the police and report her.

Estring -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/13/2004 11:40:40 PM)
We shouldn't be so quick to judge. There may be male subs out there that get off on being left naked and penniless by a quick footed Domme. Just because it isn't your kink doesn't make it wrong. [;)]

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/14/2004 12:00:28 AM)
Very funny Estring, I broke out laughing out loud... But seriously SWMsub, am sorry this happened to you, maybe next time get to know a person a little better before you get naked for her. and Alwayz, I think there's a great reason Pro Dommes exist, and I thank God they do: I think that any man(or woman) who wants to get his/her kink dealt with (without the annoying dating/courtship rituals, because he/she isn't a real sub/is married) should be able to do so by paying a pro. Ms M

Chaos -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/14/2004 5:21:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BeachMystress I agree, not just a scam artist, but one who thinks that because of the nature of the crime, that you'll not call the police. Your thread title is inappropriate. A Mistress did not steal from you. You were the victim of a BDSM scam. You have two choices.. chalk it up to experience and consider the tribute the price of your education or (the one I wish you'd do) call the police and report her. Better yet....track her down to where she works (if she works), show up there smiling, and ask politely for your money back...NOW. See if she has the nerve to tell you "no". [sm=lol.gif]

happypervert -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/14/2004 8:33:58 AM)
Maybe it was a case of miscommunication -- did she promise that you would get fucked and you thought she meant having sex?

proudsub -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/14/2004 8:58:55 AM)
quote: Maybe it was a case of miscommunication -- did she promise that you would get fucked and you thought she meant having sex? LMAO!!! or maybe "used and abused", he got that too.

darkinshadows -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/14/2004 9:34:48 AM)
....Hmmmm..... ... why does there seem less 'compassion' and more 'inuedos' with this?...Maybe because the person asking the question is a male sub? There have been many good, responsible replies, this is undeniable... and Yes, I know we all need to laugh at misfortune and not take things toooooo seriously... but I have seen posts by female subs/slaves on collarme and they are recieved with alot more sympathy... ...Just an observation...

Solaise -> RE: What to do with a Mistress who steals? (12/14/2004 9:59:50 PM)
I am going to suggest that this wasn't a pro-Domme or a life-style Domme. This wasn't a Domme at all. This was a thief who called herself a Domme.

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