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Long Term Chastity questions - 8/2/2006 9:15:25 AM

Plethora22

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I am a male submissive and have recently engaged in some long term chastity activities with my partner. We have a CB-3000 chastity device, which for the most part works very well and I am very happy with it.

I am posting because I was wondering about some of the practicality issues that have arisen, and I'd like to know if others have any experience with this, and have advice on dealing with a couple of these issues.

Firstly, and most important, I find I can't get a good nights sleep wearing it. Its not that I can't sleep at all, but typically speaking I can only sleep for 2 or 3 hours at a time before I inevitably wake up in pain because my body decided I needed to have an erection in the middle of the night. Its been affecting my regular life and my job in that I have been tired and cranky almost all the time. We have tried allowing me release just before bed at night, and this does ease the problem, but it doesn't eliminate it completely.

The other problem which I have been experiencing is this. When I am wearing the device, I have noticed that I actively avoid things that may turn me on or give me an erection. I try to avoid close contact with my partner, to the point where she thinks I am avoiding her because I don't like her or am angry at her. I don't know what advice anyone could give me about this one, but I bring it up because I really adore the idea of being chaste, but am getting increasingly frustrated with some of the unintended side effects.

Anyway, if anyone has experience with this sort of thing and would like to offer some advice, I would truly appreciate it. Thank you all in advance, and I hope to hear back soon.

-Charlie

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RE: Long Term Chastity questions - 8/2/2006 9:20:39 AM

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You're young, and young men need to ejaculate. There's nothing wrong with enforced chastity, but it sounds like you're being kept from ejaculating as often as your body needs. Your wife/mistress/owner/whatever should still be able to use the chastity device to control you while still allowing you to release often enough that you're not incapable of functioning in your daily life.

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RE: Long Term Chastity questions - 8/2/2006 10:39:24 AM

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plethora
I'm of the opinion that it would be in both of your best long term interests to research "Milking". I suspect that there may be medical issues which might come into play w/ such extreme chastity. There have been posts on cm before as a starting point.

Good luck

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RE: Long Term Chastity questions - 8/2/2006 4:02:28 PM

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Since it sounds like enforced chastity is getting in the way of your work life and relationship, perhaps you might try chastity without a device. It can still be pretty amazing.

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RE: Long Term Chastity questions - 8/2/2006 4:18:17 PM

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My husband has been in long term chastity of some form or another for about six years. Now my information is not first hand, but certainly I know a lot about it. His "keyholder" has usually been the man or woman that was training/owning us or in some instances he has gone on the honor system. Here are some observations;

1. The night time erections seem to subside substantially over time, but it does take months. It would literally drive him up the wall and make him cranky because every night he would awake and have to get settled down to get back to sleep. Empty your bladder well before bed and avoid hydration in the last couple of hours of wake time. Use a lot of baby powder or the like to keep yourself cool and avoid "friction" down there. Shave if you are allowed to.

2. If you are not going to get the right to release at least once a month, definitely look up "milking". I have been the one milking him several times (it's basically massaging your prostate) and althought it takes patience, it does work. Some things we have read say you need to get release periodically regardless but my husband has gone as long as 3-4 months without ejaculating.

3. Ice packs, cold compresses and the old "cold showers" really are your friend. My honey gets a lot of relaxation out of taking a cool shower.

Just some ideas for you.

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RE: Long Term Chastity questions - 8/2/2006 4:45:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: AnAtlantaDom

plethora
I'm of the opinion that it would be in both of your best long term interests to research "Milking". I suspect that there may be medical issues which might come into play w/ such extreme chastity. There have been posts on cm before as a starting point.

Good luck

AD

Good idea. And you might also try another device. There are many other ways for a sub to be controlled that would achieve the same results but make things more comfortable for you. Perhaps a 'mix' would work better in your situation.

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RE: Long Term Chastity questions - 8/2/2006 5:57:19 PM

littlesarbonn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: angielouwhos

My husband has been in long term chastity of some form or another for about six years. Now my information is not first hand, but certainly I know a lot about it. His "keyholder" has usually been the man or woman that was training/owning us or in some instances he has gone on the honor system. Here are some observations;

1. The night time erections seem to subside substantially over time, but it does take months. It would literally drive him up the wall and make him cranky because every night he would awake and have to get settled down to get back to sleep. Empty your bladder well before bed and avoid hydration in the last couple of hours of wake time. Use a lot of baby powder or the like to keep yourself cool and avoid "friction" down there. Shave if you are allowed to.

2. If you are not going to get the right to release at least once a month, definitely look up "milking". I have been the one milking him several times (it's basically massaging your prostate) and althought it takes patience, it does work. Some things we have read say you need to get release periodically regardless but my husband has gone as long as 3-4 months without ejaculating.

3. Ice packs, cold compresses and the old "cold showers" really are your friend. My honey gets a lot of relaxation out of taking a cool shower.

Just some ideas for you.

Wow, that sounds so cool. Not necessarily the chastity part, although as a whole it probably would be as well. But maybe that's what I need to do: Find a submissive woman to marry and together we can serve a dominant. Never thought about going that route before, but maybe it's the right one cause I tend to get along greatly with submissive women but just never actually thought about being anything but a good friend.

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