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CreoleCook -> RE: Please Help...need confirmation of something (8/6/2006 5:30:37 AM)
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yeah, yeah, I know the topic is over, for she has already ended the relationship, but I felt the need to throw in my 2 cents, for the hell of it.
Having read through the topic series of questions, and the overwhelmind diversity of responses, I gotta say, from a subjective point of view: Damn, people!
Amongst the masses, one comes to figure out D/s, and BDSM and the intimacies within are based upon perceptions. While some would suggest dumping him, others suggest a good long sit down talk. While some suggest searching your heart, others ask you to become judge, jury, and executioner right then and there. As for the "lie" whether it was said, and you don't remember it, or he omitted it purposefully, I cannot say. I can honestly say from experience I do not have the perfect memory. If a woman had told me, in passing, she likes to wear blue shoes when going to church; yeah, like I'm going to remember that, until I witness it a few times...
So let's say, for shits and giggles, he did say it in passing, and you forgot. Does that still make him an asshole? well, I'm sure the masses would probably state 99.5% of all males are assholes. some just have a sweeter stench than others. I cannot honestly refute that statement, as I am male, and can tell you honestly, hey, guess what? I'm an asshole, but quite the smartass. Anyway, getting back here... He spoke it, you forgot, now you are witnessing it, and don't like what you see... Well, at this point, I mention he gave you a "collar of consideration." What the hell's a collar of consideration, anyway? is that like a "just goin steady ring?" what do you call an engagement ring in collar terms? No, no... wait a second, I remember reading this somewhere... the stages of collars are: training, consideration, informal, and formal. Is that right? hell, I know someone is going to comment on this, so I'll worry about that later. Anywho, here you are.. pissed he is doing something with someone else, and only giving you minimal attention. personal perspective... comment on it, and if he chooses to continue, go find yourself a boy toy. I know many a couple who are poly, and swing.
Perceptions are such a wonderful thing, and yet a curse at the same time. Who am I? who are you? who is that? How you see yourself, how you see others, how others see you...
Darlin, I know you already made your choice, but you are the one that had to make it. We can give advice, one way or the other. But when it comes down to it, its not our choice to make.
Creole
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