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Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 10:40:10 AM   
vmyeyes


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Status: offline 		Well my domme my domme has a very important doc. apt in another state... She couldnt take me because i needed to work, that is fine but i am falling in love with my domme , and the first that she left i had asked to sleep in her bed..... she said that it sounded a little creepy like it sounds like a daughter missing her mother thing ..... it is not that at all....i say , i have not been apart from her since we meet, more then 12 hrs she is to be gone for a week... i am scared ,,,, she just gave me free reighn to do as i wish ..... she left me chores and it take all but an hour to do... so what do i do for the rest of the 23 hr days......???? i kinda feel a bit lost... Help me
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RE: Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 10:48:28 AM   
teenyweeny


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Status: offline 		hmmm well you could water the garden, mow the lawn, paint the fence, wash the car, clean the windows, vacuum down the sides of the lounge chairs, dust the skirting boards, buy some bits for the kitchen which you think could be missing - maybe a garlic crusher, olive stoner, cheese slicer, or potato ricer is needed?, make some organic lemonade, bake some bread, sew a pretty dress, write a story about how you feel, draw a picture,...

so many things you could do to fill 23 hours. It's not long, you'll get over it.

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RE: Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 10:51:14 AM   
raiken


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Status: offline 		Do you have any other interests, hobbies, friends, aquaintences or family?  Perhaps you can use this time alone to enjoy some of the other areas of your life.  Or maybe focus on making your Domme proud of the way you spent your time in her absence.  Think of ways that will make yourself feel better, maybe have something nice waiting to surprise her with upon her return.
 
~raiken

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RE: Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 10:58:11 AM   
Evanesce


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i have not been apart from her since we meet, more then 12 hrs she is to be gone for a week... i am scared ,,,, she just gave me free reighn to do as i wish ..... she left me chores and it take all but an hour to do... so what do i do for the rest of the 23 hr days......???? i kinda feel a bit lost... Help me


You're thinking all about you right now, and I'm not sure that's where your concern should be focused.
 
If she's left you to seek medical attention in another state, odds are she's probably rather stressed out.  Why not take some time to consider her thoughts and feelings, and how you might be able to help her cope with whatever medical issue is going on with her?  Think about what you can do to help ease her stress when she returns, and then make those preparations. 
 
 

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RE: Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 11:09:52 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		How the heck did you ever exist without her? 
You need to learn some skills that will help you become independent.
It's not good to make another person the center of your life to the point where you are anxious at the thought of not having them beyond 12 hours of separation.


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RE: Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 12:58:42 PM   
MsKatHouston


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I'm with Evanesce on this one.  I would assume seeking medical attention out of state means there is something that your Mistress is probably stressing over.  She may be on edge, anxious, irritable and not thinking primarily of you right now.  I would help her in that endeavor and make sure she does not have to worry about you.  You are a grown up.  What needs to be taken care of?  Do it.  Make sure her return is as stress free and comfortable as possible. 

If you don't have any clue how to accomplish that then do something for yourself but whatever you do do not compound her stress. 

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RE: Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 1:06:43 PM   
MmakeMme


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Status: offline 		My Dom is rather uncomfortable when I become overly clingy, and I think it happens to all of us now and then. He likes that I have my own life and my own interests because not only does it give him room to breathe, it makes me more interesting and thus more valuable.

Meet people, make friends, nuture your interests (writing, music, painting). Just don't let yourself mope - the longer you're alone and moping the worse it will become, until you feel completely disconnected with everyone and in a state of deep depression. You will be a better sub if you are a whole and healthy person. You will be a better companion, love, and friend to her and to yourself.

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RE: Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 1:14:24 PM   
MistressSassy66


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Status: offline 		I also agree with  Evanesce and MsKat...I'm sure She is stressing out,I
would be.
I also agree that you need to find some hobbies or go above and beyond the call of duty and make the house spotless.I would also make sure if there is anything She will need when She gets home.

One other thing...dont smother Her when She walks in the door.Be glad to see Her,but dont let Her think you cant handle it when Shes gone,God forbid,She should have to do this often,but if She does,be the support She needs.
Not yet another thing to take care of...if She is sick,be the submissive you should be and make HER needs more important.

Maybe send her an online card if She has PC access.I doubt snail mail would make in time.You could send one to your own house for Her,I love it when bishop does that.Its a nice surprise to find a card in the mail.

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RE: Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 1:22:09 PM   
Bearlee


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quote:

ORIGINAL: teenyweeny

hmmm well you could water the garden, mow the lawn, paint the fence, wash the car, clean the windows, vacuum down the sides of the lounge chairs, dust the skirting boards, buy some bits for the kitchen which you think could be missing - maybe a garlic crusher, olive stoner, cheese slicer, or potato ricer is needed?, make some organic lemonade, bake some bread, sew a pretty dress, write a story about how you feel, draw a picture,...

so many things you could do to fill 23 hours. It's not long, you'll get over it.


Oh yummmmmmmm... you're going to make somebody VERY happy, boy!   ...sigh, and you're cute, too!

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RE: Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 3:37:58 PM   
mp072004


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Status: offline 		I assume you've been living together, or at least de facto cohabiting? It can be difficult to be away from one another, at least in part because it disrupts your routine. It's also difficult when the separation is due to a stressful or threatening event, like a medical visit. My central bit of advice: try not to think about The Separation, or about what can go wrong during the separation. Try not to think much about your partner at all, really. Sleeping in her bed probably isn't going to help you, because you'll think of her more that way.

If you have work, and sleep, you're looking at far less than 23 hours to fill. Let's assume you work nine hours a day, and sleep eight. That takes us down to six hours left each day. Six hours each day isn't hard to fill at all.

Figure out something to do during the time you would spend with her that doesn't remind you of her--some independent activity. This can be a good time to get together with friends, as has been suggested above. Read books, watch movies, work out, play on the computer--whatever you do for fun, do lots of it. By the end of the week, you might even realize that while you care for her, you also care for your time alone, and being without her won't kill you.

Good luck!

Monica

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RE: Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 4:22:25 PM   
MisPandora


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ORIGINAL: MmakeMme

My Dom is rather uncomfortable when I become overly clingy, and I think it happens to all of us now and then. He likes that I have my own life and my own interests because not only does it give him room to breathe, it makes me more interesting and thus more valuable.

Meet people, make friends, nuture your interests (writing, music, painting). Just don't let yourself mope - the longer you're alone and moping the worse it will become, until you feel completely disconnected with everyone and in a state of deep depression. You will be a better sub if you are a whole and healthy person. You will be a better companion, love, and friend to her and to yourself.

This is perhaps one of the most brilliant posts I've seen written in quite some time.  You're quite a treasure to your dominant, for sure.

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RE: Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 5:59:42 PM   
vmyeyes


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Status: offline 		i think you everyone for your advice! i know she is stressing bout her medical problem, and i know she is stressing leaving me here alone... so what i decided to do was since this is the first night so far i have not called her and took care of everything she wanted me to do... making sure that when she gets back that she can be at ease that i handled everything , that will show her that she does not have to worrie that if she has to leave again that every thing will be ok... i guess last night i was very overwelmed with knowing she is not at home when i get there and all but i had chosen not to sleep in her bed last night and decided that i was strong before her and i am strong now and i NEED to be strong for her.... and show her that i can take care her... i know she doesnt trust me yet with her problems or her stresses she just tells me is ok and not to worrie bout her.... and thank you every one for your advice on this     

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RE: Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 7:22:50 PM   
Homestead


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Status: offline 		Very good, let her have a happy home to return to, not a drama zone.

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RE: Domme leaves Sub Behind ????? - 8/3/2006 9:31:53 PM   
Evanesce


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i guess last night i was very overwelmed with knowing she is not at home when i get there and all but i had chosen not to sleep in her bed last night and decided that i was strong before her and i am strong now and i NEED to be strong for her.... and show her that i can take care her...


That's the perfect position to take for this situation.  Keep it up.  Show her you care, but don't cling.  Be strong for her, but don't overpower.  You can do this.

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