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frequency - 8/4/2006 10:09:50 AM

subsa

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just a quick question...how often do you "scene"? Master and i are relatively new to the 24/7 lifestyle. i'm curious if frequency will increase or decrease over time. thanks for this site....it's helped alot...

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RE: frequency - 8/4/2006 10:11:43 AM

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Married with kids here, so scening happens in spare moments! Frequency determined by who's awake. LOL

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RE: frequency - 8/4/2006 10:41:44 AM

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The natural tendency of things would be for it to slow down over time. But YOU can scene as often as the two of you want to!

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RE: frequency - 8/4/2006 11:24:28 AM

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Yup, usually things slow down to a normal steady pace.

I scene mildly a few times a week. I scene seriously maybe once or twice a month. If we're going to a convention then I scene hard a few times a day.

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RE: frequency - 8/4/2006 11:52:27 AM

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It varies due to what is going on with us. When we were on vacation last month we were scening almost everyday and having a wonderful time. Then we came home and had to cool it due to the unmentionable being home. But, that problem has been solved by the new school year starting yesterday. So, yesterday I was on my spanking bench getting a much needed beating.

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RE: frequency - 8/4/2006 1:25:08 PM

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define "scene"... i mean, i get a hairbrush backscratch daily, it's His way of waking me up, and i feel cared for. If i get taken ruff it kicks my morning off great, that's as much a "scene" for U/us as flogging is for others. Mayeb the better word for it would be session, not scene. i'm not sure.

But if you mean how often do you do physical stuff that includes your power exchange dynamic or your pain / control thingies, most people do SOMEthing to re-inforce that daily.

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RE: frequency - 8/4/2006 2:52:54 PM

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Agreed, it depends on what you mean by "scene". When my boy was live-in, he served me daily in that he took care of my house, served me dinner, offered massages, made my coffee just right, etc etc. We "played" lightly several times a week. I disciplined him when I deemed necessary. We got into a heavy drawn out scene of my choosing at least once a week. He got put into extended highly restrictie bondage (a reward for him) about once a month.

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RE: frequency - 8/4/2006 3:22:50 PM

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I'm sure it's a bit different for everyone. When my Dom and I first got together, the "scenes" were more prevalent. Now there are other things ... such as spending time together as friends, spending time as lovers. I wouldn't worry about the frequency, just be on the same page.

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RE: frequency - 8/4/2006 3:32:26 PM

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Everyone is different therefore everyone is correct. Generally when a relationship starts there is more hormonal activity. Then you relax and start to really get to know one another...etc. Things start to slow.
Yet the only time there is a problem is when things die totally.

For us...it varies widely depending on how his week went and my week.
Sometimes a couple of times a week and sometimes once a month.

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RE: frequency - 8/4/2006 3:38:40 PM

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thank you all for your replies. My definition of 'scene' would be something on the edge (for us); something that pushes the limits. we have teasing, light bondage, verbal play, and our rituals everyday. but the extreme stuff not so often. as i said, we're new to the lifestyle and trying to find our way.....

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RE: frequency - 8/5/2006 6:36:36 AM

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Well it really depends on both our schedules. Unfortunately real life interrupts the play time.

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RE: frequency - 8/20/2006 8:55:32 PM

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we don't live together...i think there would be more going on as far as me being a pet/slave if we did...

as it is, we are big play-party people and since i live in an apartment, we don't play at home - we go to parties just about every week - sometimes twice in a weekend.

overall, a really good scene about 4-5 times a month.

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RE: frequency - 8/20/2006 9:25:46 PM

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Bottoming: About once every two weeks. This can mean weekend long scenes. Topping: depends on if the right friends are over. The frequency will change when my slave moves in with me.

My friends lately, have been moving away from me. :( So I don't get the oppertunity as often anymore.

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RE: frequency - 8/20/2006 11:43:08 PM

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Frequency depends on life not desire or lack of. Life tends to get in the way but as in all relationships vanilla or kinky each must continue to ensure priorities are in place and needs are taken care of.

Again communication is a must, if you find things lacking or needs being forgotten then one must speak out without whinning and ask for some discussion time.

It is never appropriate to act out in an attempt to get what you feel you deserve. This is what can happen even if you are not aware of it.

Remembering there are needs wants and desires. There is a huge difference between each.

I may desire to be played with daily, I may want to be played with all the time however what is it I need. Of course the ultimate decision is up to Master.

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