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Vancouver_cinful -> Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 12:48:58 PM)

Someone asked me today why someone might feel the need to have sex when they're angry. I personally believe it's linked to adrenaline, and is related to the same reason people get sexually aroused by danger. A very common thing in BDSM.

Any thoughts?

I remember reading a good article on adrenaline and it's role in BDSM, and sex, but I lost so many links when my PC died...Does anyone have any good links about these chemicals and BDSM/Sexuality?

Thanks!



MistressOfGa -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 12:52:11 PM)

Mmm angry sex.................Is there any other kind? <eg>
 
Yes,  I agree about the adrenaline. Also there is something to be said for the raw emotions of anger, especially if the submissive is begging for your forgiveness, it is a major turn on sexually for me to hear my pup babbling almost incoherently for me to forgive him.



cuddleheart50 -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 12:52:30 PM)

I don't know about anybody else, but when I'm angry, sex is the last thing on my mind.



MistressOfGa -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 12:53:17 PM)

Cuddleheart,
It depends on what I am angry about.



Estring -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 12:55:07 PM)

Some people say angry sex is the best sex. I can't say that I can ever remember ever having sex while I was angry. I have had makeup sex, but the anger had subsided by then.  



Misstoyou -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 12:56:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Vancouver_cinful

... I personally believe it's linked to adrenaline...



Adrenaline is my drug of choice. [:D]



Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 1:01:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

Mmm angry sex.................Is there any other kind? <eg>
 
Yes,  I agree about the adrenaline. Also there is something to be said for the raw emotions of anger, especially if the submissive is begging for your forgiveness, it is a major turn on sexually for me to hear my pup babbling almost incoherently for me to forgive him.


Oooo, I've only had angry sex once, and he wasn't angry at me, but as his sub I was happy to be there for him. ::grin::
 
Damn, I really have to learn how to make people angry, that's one hot memory!



Homestead -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 1:01:44 PM)

It's difficult to have sex wih someone who happens to be inhabiting a dog kennel at that moment.



Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 1:03:45 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Homestead

It's difficult to have sex wih someone who happens to be inhabiting a dog kennel at that moment.


Sounds like the perfect position would be doggie-style? Guffaw! Just trying to be helpful!



mnottertail -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 1:04:37 PM)

Who let the dogs out?  arf! arf! arf! arf arf!

You all know what I'm talkin' about.

BahaMen



akisha -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 1:05:11 PM)

If i'm angry with the person the last thing i want to do is get naked with them. When i was angry or disgusted with my ex i could hardly bring myself to be int eh same room let alone get intimate.

But if I'm angry at work or at something that is not realted to that person then heck ya, what a great way to drain of some serious fustration. umm but I would say that having a partner that likes to be bit and clawed is usually a good thing, or they complain *shruggs and looks sheepish*  what can a girl do?




popeye1250 -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 1:06:57 PM)

I don't really get angry.
I have no reason to!



Sunshine119 -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 1:07:59 PM)

I don't have any links for you, but know, without a doubt, that angry sex can be very, very therapeutic!  There are days that I get home from work and am just a pent up ball of anger.  His Highness will notice and throttle me, bang me, use me, etc till I'm tired, sore, expended and very relieved.

And, I've been able to give myself over to him to relieve him the same way.  Whew!  As long as we aren't angry with each other, I think it is very, very good!



MistressOfGa -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 1:13:52 PM)

Fast Reply:

Actually what came to mind when I read the subject line for this thread was the movie Mr. and Mrs. Smith. I have had sex like that before, and although some would find it shocking and more than a little abusive, it was HOT AS HELL for both of us. To each her/his own <s>



Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 1:40:42 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Who let the dogs out?  arf! arf! arf! arf arf!


[sm=biggrin.gif]
Shhhhh! Damn it Ron, you'll wake Benji, then who'll mop up the pee?



Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 1:44:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sunshine119

I don't have any links for you, but know, without a doubt, that angry sex can be very, very therapeutic!  There are days that I get home from work and am just a pent up ball of anger.  His Highness will notice and throttle me, bang me, use me, etc till I'm tired, sore, expended and very relieved.


I've definitely had an element of that with playmates. They knew how to push me to frustration, using bondage, humiliation and other techniques until the adrenaline was just roaring through my blood.

When that's relived by rough, hard sex...Oh dang, that's a delicious scene!



raiken -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 1:46:33 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Vancouver_cinful

quote:

ORIGINAL: Homestead

It's difficult to have sex wih someone who happens to be inhabiting a dog kennel at that moment.


Sounds like the perfect position would be doggie-style? Guffaw! Just trying to be helpful!

 
Ah...doggie style..my fav, can be nicely enjoyed through the right sized opening in the kennel/cage...<weg>



Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 1:50:01 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa
Actually what came to mind when I read the subject line for this thread was the movie Mr. and Mrs. Smith. I have had sex like that before, and although some would find it shocking and more than a little abusive, it was HOT AS HELL for both of us. To each her/his own <s>


You know, people who are shocked by this stuff should do a little reading up on Bonobo monkeys, our closest relatives. As far as scientists can tell, they use sex instead of aggression to settle all their issues. Territorial disputes? Whoever manages to get on top, and fucks, wins. Dispute over who gets that last banana? Let's fuck, and then we'll be mellow enough to share it.

It's in our genes. The idea that sex should always be romantic, and gentle, is a social construct, and does not occur in the natural world. Turn on Animal Planet, and you'll soon see. LOL



Vancouver_cinful -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 1:54:12 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: raiken

Ah...doggie style..my fav, can be nicely enjoyed through the right sized opening in the kennel/cage...<weg>

 
Ever see that stupid 80s movie with John Travolta? Staying Alive? The dance number has female denoms tormenting males in cages...and they have long staffs with which to poke 'em with...Not too subtle...and rather delicious. Fed many a fantasy for me.
 



MmakeMme -> RE: Anger and Sex (8/4/2006 2:23:42 PM)

When angry due to outside influences, often the physical, mental, and emotional connection to Him makes everything else superfluous.

When I have been angry at Him, it can be difficult to connect and enjoy the experience but it typically ends up with a binding closeness (in more ways than one ~ G ~) and a good cuddle and discussion at the end. Nothing dispels anger (or fear or hurt feelings) better than playing with my Dom.



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