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Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/4/2006 8:05:07 PM

wantitnow569

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Okay, this is a serious question....What the hell is wrong with me that i can not attract anyone who's not married, insane, or has "disappearance" issues.....What is up with this shit????
ugh!!!

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/4/2006 8:31:12 PM

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Well, two things that I can think of. One, your profile leaves tons to be desired and two, you are looking on the internet.... What did you expect?

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/4/2006 8:41:54 PM

mstrjx

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Possibly you haven't met one of the four nice, single men on the site. So, on behalf of the other three.......

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/4/2006 8:44:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

Possibly you haven't met one of the four nice, single men on the site. So, on behalf of the other three.......

Jeff

Did the other two appoint you group spokesman? Because I certainly don't recall voting on this!

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/4/2006 8:58:36 PM

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OK, intruding into the ask a master category... Out of 10 answers you get, you might have one actually worth pursuing (and thats being generous). Get used to that, your on the internet, you have to give it time until the good ones start coming around. They are in there somewhere, but without something sensational to get their attention (pictures or a really amazingly well written profile) its going tot ake a while for them to find you.

My 2 cents, I'll now return to my own gender posting forum ;)

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/4/2006 9:15:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: wantitnow569

Okay, this is a serious question....What the hell is wrong with me that i can not attract anyone who's not married, insane, or has "disappearance" issues.....What is up with this shit????
ugh!!!

LOL well add in men the same age or older then my Mom then you have the majority of the messages I get too.

I just say thank you but no thanks to most and end up talking and becoming friends with others.

You get out of the experience what you put into it. Someone single and nice will come along eventually.

Like someone else said, it;s the internet. And the same things happens at the bar so you either have to learn to deal or stop looking al together i guess

good luck *S*

< Message edited by akisha -- 8/4/2006 9:17:25 PM >

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/4/2006 9:21:09 PM

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Looking at your profile you need to put more info in there.
Also,* pictures* they say gets 8 TIMES the number of responses!
Don't worry about your profile being "too long", the more info the better!

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/4/2006 11:06:49 PM

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Well the common theme here is- you.

What are you doing that makes you attracted to these people initially? What is lacking in your initial screening processes that don't let you see some of the easy markers? Are you searching solely online?

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/5/2006 2:03:44 AM

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Hey now.....us old geezers ain't that bad.

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/5/2006 2:14:38 AM

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ORIGINAL: wantitnow569

Okay, this is a serious question....What the hell is wrong with me that i can not attract anyone who's not married, insane, or has "disappearance" issues.....What is up with this shit????
ugh!!!

There may be nothing wrong with you. Then again there might be. I've pretty much had the same experience my whole life in both the straight and kink worlds. I've definetly progressed. I have had some issues that caused problems. Look out look in. Adjust. Finding someone in the kink world (for me at least) is 10x harder than the 'regular' world. And I would often go 2 years w/o that other person. Dig in for the long haul.

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/5/2006 2:18:53 AM

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You may want to rethink your journal entries. They seem a bit "poor me" and whiny and send out a signal that you are a possibly a weak sub. If you want to attract a strong, confident, *real* Dom, you need to start acting like a strong, confident sub.

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/5/2006 6:42:19 AM

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Maybe it's just me, but when I see your id "wantitnow569", I figure that the "it" you want is a hard cock. Then when clicking on your profile the first thing I see is " will tell You what i'm not looking for...i'm not looking for sex, i'm not looking to hook up, i'm not looking to get You off, and i'm certainly not looking for phone sex!!"

My reaction to these mixed signals is to think "Well, here's another screwy broad, and one who has started her introduction by bitching about what she doesn't like." Even though the rest of your profile sounds nice, I wouldn't bother contacting you . . . but I bet the guys you complain about here would.

I'd suggest a makeover of the image you project here if you want to attract a different sort of fella. Perhaps an ID like "I'llwantit ifyoureagentleman" would be the place to start.

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/5/2006 6:58:09 AM

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Personally, I would never get past the first part of your profile, by the time I've looked at the first couple of lines of :what I am not", I've tuned out and moved on. Not to mentin the list that goes on forever. Do you have a run of people who want to talk about investing while cross stitching looking at a dig of Mayan ruins? Anytime i see someone with a list that goes on forever I think issues and click past.

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/5/2006 8:24:19 AM

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Take the first 2 paragraphs off your profile and you will get a lot better responses. Maybe at the end you can state that you aren't looking for cyber, phone sex, or whatever else you find unacceptable in a partner.

Believe me I do know where you're coming from but tone it down a bit. My personal unfavorite is early morning chat requests, they tend to spell "woke up with a hard dick and want to get off."

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/5/2006 9:18:00 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: QuietDom

quote:

ORIGINAL: mstrjx

Possibly you haven't met one of the four nice, single men on the site. So, on behalf of the other three.......
Jeff

Did the other two appoint you group spokesman? Because I certainly don't recall voting on this!

....starts writing my list of nice single men on CM... cool, now can someone let me know who the other two guys on this secret list are (and preferably one of them is in Australia!!!!)

wantitnow569 I am pretty sure that many people on here have had their fair share not so great experiences, as others have said, it's the nature of the internet, pretty much anyone can get access to a computer and this is a free site. I have learnt to trust my instincts more, be more patient, not to blame myself when a person has disappeared on me (ie. their loss, their choice etc) and to hopefully continue to be optimistic and friendly. I do understand your frustration.
all the best

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/5/2006 10:23:23 AM

wantitnow569

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i just wanted to thank everyone for their responses regarding my profile and journal enteries..i think if You will take another look at it, You will see (for the most part) i have applied what You are suggesting..

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/5/2006 5:48:23 PM

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To the OP,

I know I gave a bit of a smart answer before, but as you have seen from the emails you get, there really don't 'seem' to be as many 'nice' (for lack of a better word) men as there are animals.

But.

Why not go about this differently. Yes, changing your profile might be wise. But why not be proactive as well. Instead of letting Mr. Charming come to you, 'find' you, why not look for him as well. Create your search, look through profiles, figure out what seems to make you curious, and email them. It might not work in all cases, but keep trying.

Just a thought.

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/5/2006 6:27:48 PM

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Speaking from a Dom point of view...........Weakness and whining is not a desirable trait. I would rather spend my time on an average looking ,strong, and respectful sub than a weak whiny bombshell.

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/5/2006 8:44:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: mstrjx

To the OP,

I know I gave a bit of a smart answer before, but as you have seen from the emails you get, there really don't 'seem' to be as many 'nice' (for lack of a better word) men as there are animals.

But.

Why not go about this differently. Yes, changing your profile might be wise. But why not be proactive as well. Instead of letting Mr. Charming come to you, 'find' you, why not look for him as well. Create your search, look through profiles, figure out what seems to make you curious, and email them. It might not work in all cases, but keep trying.

Just a thought.

Jeff

As Jeff here says..be proactive..of course there are no guarantees..to that I can testify..been there done that got the crummy t-shirt.....but at least you are trying..also as another states, its the internet ,sometimes you need to get out into meatlife and see what there is to see...Now with that being said, egads !!Indiana has some slim choices..thus far the only Dominant that I think is worth a shuckey dern is Scooter Trash and possibly one other who does not post to the forums....oops sorry didnt mean to abscond with this posting...I wish you luck...be well...Tempting

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RE: Seriously...i just want to know... - 8/5/2006 8:47:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: LokisBrat

Speaking from a Dom point of view...........Weakness and whining is not a desirable trait. I would rather spend my time on an average looking ,strong, and respectful sub than a weak whiny bombshell.

LOKI

BTW...can I have bread with my whine?..lol...