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Tidbits of Advice - 8/5/2006 2:48:21 PM

Devilslilsister

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I was showering and doing all sorts of girly things. (i happen to be a girl)

and i started thinking .. ::sigh:: i know shame on me for thinking!

anywho, back in the day when i FIRST started out, some person in the BDSM club that i was a regular at (dur cant remember.. which face it was.. ) Told me

"Careful, i've never known anyone to be able to get involved in BDSM and then walk away. It changes you forever"

Some shit like that. i mentally summed it up as "whoa, i might be over my head here!" and that BDSM isnt really a revolving door.

Dur anyone else found this to be true? If so...... how do you feel about it?

Like i can see it, as almost a truth now, but only if you LET it be a truth.

Anyone have any other random bits of advice you were given back in the day? (or now if yer starting out)

P.S. and i dun mean like red light green light, how to cook a fish properly, or whether that song goes good with the scene you were thinking.

Advice that made u think and contemplate things.

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RE: Tidbits of Advice - 8/5/2006 3:33:14 PM

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Actually I've known some people who were very active in the scene for awhile and then went into vanilla relationships and were very solid in them. I've known people who were very strongly in Ds relationships and then found they evolved in time into very strong vanilla relationships.

It's usually the ones who feel a need to PRONOUNCE that they are "Leaving the scene forever!" and make big drama about it who end up coming back. They are addicted to the drama- and thus can never simply be relaxed. Wherever it is that they choose to be.

As far as advice, most commonly I was told that my master was a pimp, abuser, just using me as his trophy slave and that I could have absolutely no idea what I was talking about. Go figure.

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RE: Tidbits of Advice - 8/5/2006 3:58:09 PM

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I don't think everyone will answer the same simply because different people are drawn to BDSM for different reasons. Each has different aspects or a unique combination thereof that speaks to them.

For me, much of the physical play is something I can take or leave depending upon the relationship and the person I share the relationship with. What drew me to it was the power exchange, the potential for a different sort of relationship, something I have never had. It is the honesty and trust that I feel is important for that total power exchange and physical play that draws me. I don't know if I will ever experience it but I do know that it is something I will always crave from the centre of my being.

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RE: Tidbits of Advice - 8/5/2006 4:12:55 PM

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As LaTigresse says, it's the power exchange. Play is fun, play is nice, play is like icing. I like to submit, especially when I have to process it or it's something I'm conflicted about. There's something about giving it up in those circumstances that feels so good. And maybe not even at the time I'm submitting, but later, as I replay the thoughts and feelings and reaction from my Dom.

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RE: Tidbits of Advice - 8/5/2006 5:05:39 PM

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RG.....

Good to see you back .... hope you are doing well.

Stay out of trouble ; }

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RE: Tidbits of Advice - 8/5/2006 6:26:45 PM

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Dur.. i cant resist some humour Ranger...

NOT bloody likely!

Actually after accidently setting off a firecracker into traffic (dey were my MOMS and SHE told me too.. lololol) and the police having alittle talk with me..

and then hanging out with some <cough> younger friends and replacing some flags the local morgage company stuck by everyones mail boxes in MY front lawn and playing "God Bless America" for all passerby's to enjoy.... luckily turning it off before the mortgage ppl driving round the neighborhood spotted the flags. They said it was stealing (pishaw) and threatened to call the cops. BUT i kept a very straight face and said "i'm a single mother, when would i have the time to go around stealing flags? On top of that, why on earth would i stick them in my OWN front yard? Do you know how many holes that would create? If you'd like, you could take them all, it'd save me the trouble of cleaning up the yard"

Dur (and i stuck em in my yard cos my friends were too skarrit) Course it got brought up among other ppl and their response to the whole thing was "DUH, who'd stick flags in their own yard" which is of course a running joke now... <wicked grin>

Anywhoo.... yeah no more trouble fer awhile.

totally off topic here.. but aaaaaaah well. i dun mind!

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RE: Tidbits of Advice - 8/5/2006 6:53:00 PM

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Mistress Nicotine has her hold on Me.
I only left her for a few years.
She always hurts Me, but I keep on coming back......

Her sister Rum is kinda sexy too.........

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