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Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 3:59:40 PM

kinkyohiocpl

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Hi there we were curious to see if any one had any ideas about how to find a serious female sub or slave. We have been looking for about a year now and it seems we must be doing some thing wrong at this point. If any one has any tips or any thing that would be great.

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 4:04:05 PM

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Whenever I'm looking for something, I always check under the sofa cushions first.

Yours,

benji

Edited to add: I re-read your post, and realized a SERIOUS sub/slave would never hide under the sofa cushions!

Check in your pants pockets. I find things there, too.

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 4:15:46 PM

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I'm afraid I have to ask for more information.

What are you doing to look for one?

What do you mean by "serious" sub or slave? Do you see a difference between a sub and slave or is it an interchangeable meaning for you?

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 4:17:49 PM

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Do you mean someone who will work, rather than just be played with?

Good luck!

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 4:21:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

Whenever I'm looking for something, I always check under the sofa cushions first.

Yours,

benji

Edited to add: I re-read your post, and realized a SERIOUS sub/slave would never hide under the sofa cushions!

Check in your pants pockets. I find things there, too.

I hate it when I'm in a smarmy mood, but I'll wing it Benji was here first. I was thinking in the cage. It's much more convenient since that might be where they have to stay. But not if Benji's in there first.

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 4:24:08 PM

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On her KNEES if she knows what's good for her!

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 5:02:54 PM

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LOL Benji!

I don't know where you find a serious sub actually. Have you tried going to local Munches and either finding one there or seeing if anyone there knows of someone? I think you should add a bit more detail to your profile and really describe what you are looking for and what you will do for this submissive. What about the other BDSM sites? Or even the Swinger sites. I know some of them are kink friendly and you might find someone serious there. Or at least fun to play with.

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 5:18:45 PM

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The same search efforts in finding a relationship will need to into finding a slave. I mean that you don't always luck out finding the first person you date to have a ll the qualities you are seeking at first. You have to go through several people sometimes to beable to find the one that brings with them a trust and care that the others lack..And ,yes lets be honest with ourselves. As a Dom, are you confident of the qualities you are seeking .Are you (with out insult ) mature enought to exhibit a strong presents to a slave . Because As many have said before, a slave/sub can many times end up running a relationship with a dom. Limiting play or telling you the dom what they will commit to or not in the line of service.

The magical place in which all real slaves hang out and wait to be scooped up has not been found. I would say that the more public you are in your needs and lifestyle, the more people will be drawn to you. Like most out here, many hide their true interest until they feel its safe enought to talk openly.Then that is when they find out whether the person leaves them or stays. I think, And correct me if others disagree, please...but being involved on here with the message boards is a start. . Secondly, understand as mass markers do, that the law of numbers will get you some choices. Contact slaves profiles that seem to have similar intrest to yours. Dedicate a set amount of time a week to contact and respond to potential slaves. Be polite if they are not what you seek , becasue maybe they have a friend that they can put you in contact with..The munches are always good because you know they are somewhat interested . But being open to others around you, will get you even more attention...

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 5:28:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

On her KNEES if she knows what's good for her!

My thoughts exactly!

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 6:16:13 PM

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quote:

Whenever I'm looking for something, I always check under the sofa cushions first.

Yours,

benji

Edited to add: I re-read your post, and realized a SERIOUS sub/slave would never hide under the sofa cushions!

Check in your pants pockets. I find things there, too.

COATS benji! Coats hanging in the closet.. i always find a myriad of things in those pockets

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 6:44:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kinkyohiocpl

Hi there we were curious to see if any one had any ideas about how to find a serious female sub or slave. We have been looking for about a year now and it seems we must be doing some thing wrong at this point. If any one has any tips or any thing that would be great.

Join the club. I don't think there is any secret except persistence. There aren't a surplus of sub/slaves out there anyway. One hindrance to your search, and I hate to say it, may be your ages. But my slave and I are older and we have not had much luck either. So who the hell knows? Good luck.

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 6:44:40 PM

slavejlb

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you are going to fine serious subs/slaves the same place where the sub/slave is going to fine a serious Master/dom, in your dreams

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 6:51:03 PM

gypsyssoul

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:: smiles

ok i thought a little read the whole thread ...

some are funny but in truth if you are really searching

i would say look for a group .. in your area

for the others i have to go with benji ... the cushions in the couch

... but coat pockets are cool ... as is fantasy land .....

good luck on your search

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 7:12:56 PM

twicehappy

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quote:

ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

Whenever I'm looking for something, I always check under the sofa cushions first.

Bad.... i was going to tell them WalMart.

Seriously now though; the number of couples looking for a female sub/slave are great. The number of subs/slaves looking for couples is small. Then of course you must find the correct match. Keep looking here, join the local scene and be prepared to wait a good while and make many mistakes on the way. It can and does happen but it takes patience.

Edited to add fix your profile. You really do need to list your vanilla likes and dislikes, some of what you expect form a slave and what you offer. The kink is really not the largest part of a D/s or M/s relationship.

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 8:33:31 PM

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I am beginning to think that sometimes ones expectations and desires tend to rule out what may be a good match, but those of us who continue to seek may be unrealistic in our wants..It seems to me that soo many continue to seek and call many they have met to be fake, or players or whatever term is used to explain why they have not found the right one.And believe me I do not exclude myself in this thought process.However I suppose that as humans we have to find the "one" in which it feels right...though even that as far as I can see from some of the saddened tales from here on CollarMe that does not work either..lol..ach well....and the beat goes on....Tempting

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 8:48:03 PM

domtimothy46176

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For a SERIOUS sub, I like Penn Station. I know some favor Quiznos or even Subway but I prefer the italian sub from Penn Station, hold the onion and banana peppers, extra oil and vinegar and extra mayo. Makes my mouth water just thinking about it.
Serious slaves, in my experience, will find you, if you're worthy and do a decent job of getting your reputation out there where they can hear about you. For that, I recommend being active in your local community. The internet is too full of the clueless and the pretenders. I expect a lot of a serious slave, but I wouldn't ask anyone to try sorting the wheat from the chaff online.
Timothy

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 10:40:52 PM

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From the view of one looking - more information please! Not an overwhelming amount, but something about the type of people you are, the type of person you are looking for, things that you would find unacceptable, things you would find essential. That sort of thing. And then keep looking for another few years...lol. Seriously good luck with finding what you want.

In its search, it has found that many people are simply not willing to let the real world in. There may be little ones involved, work, etc to think about and every couple its spoken to so far has had a rather narrow view of what they wanted - the eternally naked slave, never leaving thehouse type thing. With little ones and the need to actually support them and whatnot,, the choices are severaly limited. Those are the types of things it likes to see touched on in a profile, so that time isn't wasted ferreting out the fact that it is NOT suitable for them.

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/5/2006 10:54:22 PM

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We are adding some more info to our profile. A long while back every one told us to keep it very short so we are going for the middle ground this time.

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/6/2006 3:16:40 AM

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for me the best place to find a serious sub is Subway.

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RE: Best place to find a serious sub or slave? - 8/6/2006 8:26:42 AM

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